This week both Phaedra Parks and Demetria McKinney discuss Demetria’s apology. Let’s just say that one of them was sincere in their discussion and the other one knew what the right thing to say was, but seemed to be just going through the motions.
It was kind of Demetria to apologize to Phaedra for the 8 comment; HOWEVER, she was certainly owed an apology from Phaedra for all of her rude behavior. Clearly, that apology was not forth coming. In order to put their differences aside in a genuine way, I think Phaedra will have to do that with sincerity or there will be no hope of even a cordial truce. I would not advise anyone to hold their breath waiting for that to happen.
Demetria is disappointed in the divide between the ladies. From her perspective, the beauty versus beast description is a false one. Demetria says it has nothing to do with outer beauty. She says it has to do with the personalities of the women. One side is full of double standards and judgments and the other side is more light-hearted and fun.
From Phaedra’s Blog
I appreciated Demetria talking with me privately and apologizing; it afforded us both the chance to put our differences aside and move on. Demetria and I have very different perspectives on life, but that’s what makes the world go round. This was a very important trip for her, and I certainly didn’t want my presence or any misunderstandings between us to be a distraction to her.
From Demetria’s Blog
I like to have my peace when in performance situations, so I had to get the negativity off of me. I went to Phaedra and apologized, but I want to be very clear as to what that meant. The whole exchange between me and her happened because when you are just getting to know someone, certain comments can’t be said. Period. I said the 8 comment to let her know I like peace, but I have that fight. My apology was for the hurt that resulted from that comment, not for standing my ground and defending myself. I tried, yet again, to be classy and yet, my apology was not reciprocated. Do I feel she could have said, “I’m sorry too,” sure. But at the end of the day, I went to her so that I felt right. I can’t sit and wait for others to catch up. Are we cool? As long as the Belle doesn’t get to ringing too loud again! LOL!
On to the next. I hate seeing the divide, but for me the line in the sand wasn’t drawn due to looks, it was drawn due to mentality. Claudia said it perfectly, there is a double standard in the group. If I am offended, I’m too sensitive. If you are offended, I’m hitting below the belt. Kenya can be falsely called a whore, but when the tea may be true about someone else on the other “team,” that’s cause for silence and victim banners? Look, I don’t know (or care) who’s doing what with whom, but I do care that what’s good for the goose is equally good for the gander. Hopefully we can get it together one day…
Demetria has a point when it comes to the outside but the beasts are hollow inside both in their hearts and craniums.
Well expressed. And that clip of Phaedra with her tongue out ALWAYS makes me want to gag. I knew from her pickle photo shoot that something was very wrong with her. She’s quite distasteful as a woman.
Two words, head doctor.
I saw a pick-up truck at a gas station the other day with vanity plates HEAD DR. I live in Kentucky, so thought “Hey, Phaedra is here to see Apollo. But, then I noticed the driver was a white guy – couldn’t see the woman passenger clearly, so maybe her Mr. Chocolate is Mr. white Chocolate. ( This whole scenario was going on in my head and I thought it was soo funny!)
Puke. She already grosses me out. That is like cruel & unusual punishment.
Warnig Viewer Discretion is Advised.
I knew from the Ridiculous situation…or possibly before. She’s always seemed “off”.
Demetria didn’t get a peach because she’s a reasonable person. She doesn’t come across as a person so desperate for fame and fortune that she’d reduce herself to being loud and ugly for the cameras. The entire peach carrying collection has proven that they’re willing to do whatever it takes to carry the peach. Kudos to Demetria, please keep it moving,, and bypass this train wreck of women and their reality show. Birds of the same feather flock together, none of the RHOA birds have class, simply due to the fact that they’re willing to demean themselves for “coins”.
I am on the floor where I fell out because I cannot believe that I agree with pauleeze. SO right, Demetria remaining on RHOA may do more damage then good for her singing career. And Phaedra was hating because she thought Demetria was after her peach.
I agree, mostly, and yeah, I’m agreeing with pauleeze?! WTF!
Wasn’t Demetria really bitchy or something? I though TT reported on that.
Also, I’m not sure Phaedra was mean to Demetria because she was worried about losing her peach. Phaedra could have been mean because Demetria is gorgeous, or because she’s (supposedly) with super-wealthy Roger Bobb, or because Demetria is extremely talented (and doesn’t need five degrees to prove it!) But my bet is that Phaedra was so rude to Demetria right out of the gates because…
…Phaedra is a rude, crude, miserable bitch!
Even more distasteful as a human being…
I always felt like Phaedra was unpleasant and her nice early exchanges with Kenya on season 5 were all in vain to come off looking agreeable. You could see in her eyes she wasn’t sincere, she was reeling as soon as she knew Kenya Moore was joining the show and the way things went down with Apollo, I wouldn’t be surprised if his recent legal woes and prison sentence was Phaedra’s “punishment” to him since we all know who the brains behind that business were. But just watched Gone Girl again & cold, controlling, calculating wife on the brain.
Demetria seems quite sensible! I like how she handle Phaedra and the apology that came afterwards! Good for her not dwelling on Phaedra’s unapologetic behavior!
@Janshell, when I saw Demetria and her class act, I KNEW that was the reason Bravo did not give her a peach. They underestimated Demetria I believe. They thought that she was going to cut the fool over the Roger Bob crap and brought her on the show for drama. She rised above Andy’s exploitation of ratchet african american women. Great job Demetria
Now isn’t that the truth?! I’m looking at her and i think she deserves a place as much as anyone else…certainly more than porsha and phaedra at this point! I hope they change their minds!
Yes! This.
Yep!
But she was ready to battle Kenya over that stupid photo with Roger Bobb. That was weird.
Phaedra was so happy in that pic above! She had everything she wanted! She had her kid, her jobs, her husband and her donkey booty! Things can change so quickly though!! Sometimes we end up eating those words we use to hurt people!
These two could never have the same perspective it’s the dichotomy of good and evil. I think Angela Stanton would agree.
/She is done finally..
I rather be with a player or 8 years then with a thief for one night.
for not or, damn where is my bong
The thing is… My impeccable source said Demetria was having trouble fitting in and was using Roger Bobb to be her storyline. Clearly the second half is true, so… I keep thinking there is something we have not seen and am shocked by her edit. I really like her and it seems Claudia and Kenya and Cynthia do too. I’m waiting for the other shoe to drop.
My Source is never wrong. Whether they show what happened…that is another story.
On Sat, Jan 24, 2015 at 8:05 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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Agree @TT…the season is still not over, so much can change…but I have no doubt that Bravo knew she was dating RB and arranged Kandi’s party for the drama. I trust your source TT….I think something went down in Charlotte.
Okay, yeah, I write my comment above before I saw this! I knew TT had told us there was a problem with Demetria. I was sure that TT said she was originally intended to be a HW. I mean, even if she has money and all that, the exposure from being on RHOA would be motivation for her to want to stick around (even if she was the most reasonable, non-drama person on earth.)
Is it possible she just didn’t fit in with the beasts and the rest of team pretty may have overshadowed her?
She seems sweet, but maybe her passiveness was an annoyance to the production crew?
Maybe so. Maybe Claudia was just closer with Kenya and Cynthia… or the Demetria’s storyline was just Roger Bobb who never materializes… Or maybe it was because she claimed to be having a video release party with Roger Bobb and was unable to produce a video or Roger Bobb leaving everyone just sitting on a couch….
On Sat, Jan 24, 2015 at 11:37 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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Demetria, I like you! Gosh, this may retire to mod’s, but if it doesn’t, hear me: You don’t serve heavy Virgo energy. I know that’s your sun sign, but… I just don’t feel it, with your energy on screen as well as in the rhythm of your writing. Don’t get me wrong, Virgos are smart. Analytical to-boot. That’s not what I’m addressing here. No offense to any Virgos that may be reading this. But Demetria, there’s a certain humanitarian quality to your words, your reasoning, that apology… not readily quintessential features of a Virgo native, especially the females. Yes, we know, Mother Teresa, Terry (from EnVogue), both Virgos, they aside…in the anthropological sphere, per your observations, you know you agree. There’s a real sweetness to you, a facet that’s hard to find–ESPECIALLY on what’s called reality TV. So appreciate your presence there. You must have a lot of water in your chart.
Rapper Foxy Brown is a Virgo, Iyanla too; can you see them apologizing to Phaedra after Phaedra would have treated them “how she treated you?” No.
Yet we still think that your efforts are to be lauded. Now that you explained in this blog why you were compelled to extend that olive branch, it all makes sense. Truly a gem. Class-act. 🙂
Please stop with the astrology bullshit. Thanks.
On Sat, Jan 24, 2015 at 9:00 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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Thank you!
Wait, and this is a letter to Demetria? Maybe send it straight to her, not the comments section? Or am I confused?
Geez just when I was feelin’ the zen! LMAO!
What’s next phrenology?
TT, the cosmos aren’t bullshit. Thankfully not. If they were we wouldn’t be here. Per my studies. Checked the commenting rules didn’t notice any no-no’s when it comes to astro-speak. It may be updated by now. I write as you do as most do, straight from the heart. No intentions to garner such a strong adverse reaction, especially from the host of this blog. I’m taken aback that it did/does. Studying with astrophysicists one summer, each time I looked through the telescope to see the constellations never EVER felt such a strong adverse reaction. Oh well, different strokes for different folks. :-). But if “no astro-speak” is an addendum to the “commenting rules” [didn’t know I could inspire such] here, and should I choose to comment again on any future posts, I’ll keep the ‘new rule’ in mind. 🙂
Pardon any typos.
On sending a letter straight to Demetria… When she post such an address for that purpose and I feel inspired to do so I will. A blog is trailed by a comment section [most of them]; the comment section is where the person that read the blog instinctively write feedback per what they read. That’s what you did/do below to. You write per your knowledge and instinct [ego], guess what? Others do too! 1st Amendment. 🙂 Surey TT likes her cheering section. Kudos. But she’s the only one that gets to dictate the style of language here on her site. Like mentioned above, had I noticed that [no astro-mentions] early on, it would not have been here. Not apologizing for a thousands’ years old study. The cosmos don’t, neither will I. Lol… But for real.
On the ‘zen’ comment. LOL… too cute.
On the “finding it offensive to map out the innards of someone’s…”, your findings are just that–yours. Not mine, findings or feelings, not my business. To be fair: I’ve studied for many years: law, psychology, astrology, astronomy, anthropology, sociology… in short, for those in our field, a few minutes of observing one’s essence on a srcreen, in person, is enough. No, not to write their bio per se`, but to…how you put it? “Map” out their basic nature–with the data provided. IMO: Sure, we’re entertained by some of what we watch on these TV shows; a lot of the time that entertainment can be “offensive”, cause we’re seeing their image in color. But a rank stranger’s words, seen in “black & white”? Again, imo: No virtual stranger should have the power to strike such an adverse cord in another.
Only exercised what we all do here: Read the blog then comment. No more. No less. Frankly, kinda taken aback by the surly feedback. To return to the topic: Demetria, great energy. Again, glad to have made your TV acquaintance. 🙂
You just don’t get it maybe you ll understand, one day, when the sun bumps into the moon.
Wow.
I almost find it offensive that you think you can map out the deep innards of someone’s personality and being through a couple minutes of TV program and a blog paragraph.
Me too…
TT, Demetria doesn’t “fit in” with the RHOA bunch [most of them anyway] due to her mean-no-harm sweetness. Hopes she’s happy about not receiveing their peach. Girl, you got your own! And it’s sweet! Go elsewhere, where there are those there of your classy ilk. Those that like you will follow your work there. We know you now. 🙂
Wouldn’t want ‘them’ to taint you anyway. It’s one thing to already have a bitter bullying persona. It’s another to feel compelled to transform to THAT in the name of standing up for yourself. We think this may be the road that Cynthia is going down. Cynthia, girl, you’re at the fork in the road, hit the brakes, sit, contemplate, meditate, whatever! Just drive carefully.
How can Cynthia drive carefully if she’s sitting at a fork in the road with her foot on the brake meditsting?
Bwaaahaaahaaa! Maybe she pulled over for a spell?
OMG you beat me to the Bwahahahaha!
T D. LOL… let me answer your question in the tense it was asked. When you take your foot off the brake [after finally making a choice in direction] and put it on the gas to resume driving, drive carefully. 🙂
Safety tip never operate a motor vehicle when your head is stuck in the magellanic clouds. Astronomy is required for celestial navigation. Phone home.
If she gotta do all that she might not need be on the road. Drive, hit brakes, sit, mediate..do the hokey pokey and turn yourself around all while at a fork….umm ok
I’m loving Demetria this season so I couldn’t even think that she did something so wrong not to get her peach.
Yeah, she seems cool, but keep in mind, you’re seeing her edited into like 3 or 4 one hour programs so far…
Maybe Demetria keeps leaving all the scenes and won’t listen to production. Anytime RogerBob name comes up, maybe she storms out. I hope we get to actually see them together. Isn’t it weird they have no scenes together?
Nope it was Nene and Phaedra who stormed out of filming.
Is it possible that Demetria just isn’t getting a fair shake?
We had three girls competing for a peach, but Porsha and Claudia sort of had the upper hand because each were friends with the head housewives (Nene and Kenya) where as Demetria had to rely on Cynthia and let’s be real…. Cynthia has had trouble having an interesting storyline for a while now.
Maybe production got a swift of some youtube video that demetrias old friend put out about her business. Her old friend said that demetria’s platinum wig business was full of fraud and illegal activities— allegedly, of course. Maybe production didnt want to go down that road again…
Sniff^^^
whiff
Yay ding ding winner! I was testing you!! Lol
I think Phaedra should have apologized to Demetria too. She is not a true southern Belle in my eyes. She is a phony money hungry status loving tacky too tight clothes wearing cock loving two faced trash belle. I hate that kandy picked (phaedra’s) team. It makes her look two faced too. Unfortunately it is all about the ratings.
Bravo has probably edited out what The Source confirmed to TT about Demetria. That has to the explain the disjointed editing and perhaps phaedra and her attitude (I can’t believe I just defended phaedra. I hope I don’t have to do that again)
Nene was too rude. I wander while it took Cynthia along time to call it quit with her. Nene you are too jealous. All of a sudden you just became friends with this girls who doesn’t like youfrom the beginning. You said you are done with Cynthia, girl you are not. You act like a ghetto girl. You don’t like peace. All your friends are running away from you because of your nasty attitude. That your wide mouth like African chimpanzee with put you into trouble one day. I like you Claudia, be your self, don’t afraid of gorilla. The David in you will defeat the goliath in Nene for I know you can stand for your self.