This week both Phaedra Parks and Demetria McKinney discuss Demetria’s apology. Let’s just say that one of them was sincere in their discussion and the other one knew what the right thing to say was, but seemed to be just going through the motions.
It was kind of Demetria to apologize to Phaedra for the 8 comment; HOWEVER, she was certainly owed an apology from Phaedra for all of her rude behavior. Clearly, that apology was not forth coming. In order to put their differences aside in a genuine way, I think Phaedra will have to do that with sincerity or there will be no hope of even a cordial truce. I would not advise anyone to hold their breath waiting for that to happen.
Demetria is disappointed in the divide between the ladies. From her perspective, the beauty versus beast description is a false one. Demetria says it has nothing to do with outer beauty. She says it has to do with the personalities of the women. One side is full of double standards and judgments and the other side is more light-hearted and fun.
From Phaedra’s Blog
I appreciated Demetria talking with me privately and apologizing; it afforded us both the chance to put our differences aside and move on. Demetria and I have very different perspectives on life, but that’s what makes the world go round. This was a very important trip for her, and I certainly didn’t want my presence or any misunderstandings between us to be a distraction to her.
From Demetria’s Blog
I like to have my peace when in performance situations, so I had to get the negativity off of me. I went to Phaedra and apologized, but I want to be very clear as to what that meant. The whole exchange between me and her happened because when you are just getting to know someone, certain comments can’t be said. Period. I said the 8 comment to let her know I like peace, but I have that fight. My apology was for the hurt that resulted from that comment, not for standing my ground and defending myself. I tried, yet again, to be classy and yet, my apology was not reciprocated. Do I feel she could have said, “I’m sorry too,” sure. But at the end of the day, I went to her so that I felt right. I can’t sit and wait for others to catch up. Are we cool? As long as the Belle doesn’t get to ringing too loud again! LOL!
On to the next. I hate seeing the divide, but for me the line in the sand wasn’t drawn due to looks, it was drawn due to mentality. Claudia said it perfectly, there is a double standard in the group. If I am offended, I’m too sensitive. If you are offended, I’m hitting below the belt. Kenya can be falsely called a whore, but when the tea may be true about someone else on the other “team,” that’s cause for silence and victim banners? Look, I don’t know (or care) who’s doing what with whom, but I do care that what’s good for the goose is equally good for the gander. Hopefully we can get it together one day…