Claudia’s blog this week was very personal. She had a lot to say both about the episode we saw last Sunday, and about Nene’s part in the sudden wave of negative posts about Claudia. Convenient timing? Claudia opens up about past trauma in her life to explain why she needed more from Nene that a weak, insincere apology. Frankly, I’m still shocked Nene apologized at all.
Claudia is also confused by Nene’s double standards. Nene’s past working the pole and attracting Gregg while he was married coupled with her clear support of Porsha and her married sugar daddy seem out of line with her “Close your legs to married men!” philosophy. In part of her blog I didn’t excerpt due to length, she also takes issue with Nene’s bizarre need to shout her many jobs to the other ladies as if they are all not working themselves. Claudia points out she got he SAG card in 1994 and has been working ever since. That’s what adults do. Working is not something exclusive to Nene, they’ve all been working for years. Nene is just new in the industry.
Click through to read Claudia’s deeply personal thoughts on women calling each other whores and making degrading comments about their private parts.
From Claudia’s Blog
Some may think I’m a pit bull or that I was wrong for not accepting NeNe’s weak apology. Well I don’t know how these ladies do it, but where I’m from apologies for bad actions usually come with an explanation so there is an understanding as to why it happened in the first place. That was my entire point for pressing NeNe. I wanted to know why that was the go-to thing to attack me with — my integrity as a woman. I’ve experienced lots of things in my life, I know a thing or two about sexual abuse, so for me to be called a “whore” and have someone talking about my private parts is for sure a trigger. I don’t want to get into all the ugly details, but let’s just say my life was affected by that word, and it is something that cuts me deep. It seems that has followed me throughout my life. Maybe because I am considered somewhat attractive, the go-to insults are “whore, ho, bitch, and slut.” I remember not being able to have sex for years after what happened to me, and men getting frustrated with me and again using that word to hurt me when that was the furthest thing from the truth. I wish people would be careful with the words they chose to use, because you never know someone’s back story. So I was demanding NeNe tell me why she was calling me a whore, and she refused to answer that question, so that was why it was so difficult for me to accept a simple, “Well, I’m sorry!”
Now is there a time or occasion when the use of that word is warranted? Absolutely! That should be reserved for women who exchange sexual favors for money or gifts, not because you are losing an argument. When you make these gross declarations on a huge platform, you give the green light for others to follow. I have had hundreds of people repeat this to me since NeNe screamed it at me, and it’s not right. And I find it ironic that since then a very false list has been circulating the internet of all these alleged lovers that I’m being linked to, several of which are married to women I am cool with. The timing could not be any more convenient for some. This list is mostly false, not 100% but mostly! Once again, we must be careful with how we characterize one another, ladies. I know that I do not speak on something unless I am damn near 99% certain of it and pretty much know. I encourage others to follow suit.
As for the other lady I fussed with, well, it may have seemed unwarranted and I am sorry about that. I just wanted to make a point that the double standards in this group are crazy! I just don’t how for some women it’s, “Close your legs to married men,” and then to others it’s, “Do you girl, get your coins!” It gives me a headache trying to figure out the rules of engagement in this group! Ugh! Can I get a handbook of the rules? Because these double standards are killing me. I need for things to make sense.