Claudia’s blog this week was very personal. She had a lot to say both about the episode we saw last Sunday, and about Nene’s part in the sudden wave of negative posts about Claudia. Convenient timing? Claudia opens up about past trauma in her life to explain why she needed more from Nene that a weak, insincere apology. Frankly, I’m still shocked Nene apologized at all.
Claudia is also confused by Nene’s double standards. Nene’s past working the pole and attracting Gregg while he was married coupled with her clear support of Porsha and her married sugar daddy seem out of line with her “Close your legs to married men!” philosophy. In part of her blog I didn’t excerpt due to length, she also takes issue with Nene’s bizarre need to shout her many jobs to the other ladies as if they are all not working themselves. Claudia points out she got he SAG card in 1994 and has been working ever since. That’s what adults do. Working is not something exclusive to Nene, they’ve all been working for years. Nene is just new in the industry.
Click through to read Claudia’s deeply personal thoughts on women calling each other whores and making degrading comments about their private parts.
From Claudia’s Blog
Some may think I’m a pit bull or that I was wrong for not accepting NeNe’s weak apology. Well I don’t know how these ladies do it, but where I’m from apologies for bad actions usually come with an explanation so there is an understanding as to why it happened in the first place. That was my entire point for pressing NeNe. I wanted to know why that was the go-to thing to attack me with — my integrity as a woman. I’ve experienced lots of things in my life, I know a thing or two about sexual abuse, so for me to be called a “whore” and have someone talking about my private parts is for sure a trigger. I don’t want to get into all the ugly details, but let’s just say my life was affected by that word, and it is something that cuts me deep. It seems that has followed me throughout my life. Maybe because I am considered somewhat attractive, the go-to insults are “whore, ho, bitch, and slut.” I remember not being able to have sex for years after what happened to me, and men getting frustrated with me and again using that word to hurt me when that was the furthest thing from the truth. I wish people would be careful with the words they chose to use, because you never know someone’s back story. So I was demanding NeNe tell me why she was calling me a whore, and she refused to answer that question, so that was why it was so difficult for me to accept a simple, “Well, I’m sorry!”
Now is there a time or occasion when the use of that word is warranted? Absolutely! That should be reserved for women who exchange sexual favors for money or gifts, not because you are losing an argument. When you make these gross declarations on a huge platform, you give the green light for others to follow. I have had hundreds of people repeat this to me since NeNe screamed it at me, and it’s not right. And I find it ironic that since then a very false list has been circulating the internet of all these alleged lovers that I’m being linked to, several of which are married to women I am cool with. The timing could not be any more convenient for some. This list is mostly false, not 100% but mostly! Once again, we must be careful with how we characterize one another, ladies. I know that I do not speak on something unless I am damn near 99% certain of it and pretty much know. I encourage others to follow suit.
As for the other lady I fussed with, well, it may have seemed unwarranted and I am sorry about that. I just wanted to make a point that the double standards in this group are crazy! I just don’t how for some women it’s, “Close your legs to married men,” and then to others it’s, “Do you girl, get your coins!” It gives me a headache trying to figure out the rules of engagement in this group! Ugh! Can I get a handbook of the rules? Because these double standards are killing me. I need for things to make sense.
Claudia crying fowl because the bones are falling out of her closet. Thanks for the picture of Kendra sitting dumbfounded and trying to find a place to jump in for camera time. The Claudia/Kendra relationship won’t last because Claudias youth and bravado cancels Kendras Krazy/KooKoo act. I fully expect RHOA to be cancelled within the next 2 years
Your an idiot.
I love when people tell other people “your an idiot”
You’re an idiot is the correct spelling which I wasn’t going to get into except CaliSteve seems to be bothered by it. All I was going to say was ‘word.’
All TV shows run their course. “Desperate Housewives” which was the premise for RHOA has been off of tv for years.
If you are referring to Kenya, those two have been friends for YEARS. Both of them have a healthy dose of what you call “Krazy/Koo Koo” and they and most of us call “fun.”
On Sat, Jan 24, 2015 at 1:15 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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Clarification: The reality TV friendship will end, I imagine knowing each other for years and friendship are two different things; however, I’m going to go out on a limb an say, sadly, these ladies are doing this all for the show.
Love her! And she is right, everyone on this show is successful in their on right, and they have to get tired of hearing Nene tooting her own horn. She is also right about women calling other women ‘whores’ at the drop of a hat. Dating alot of different guys does not mean someone is a whore or slutty. It just means they’ve gotten around and have yet to settle down. Men do it ALL THE TIME. We are our own worst enemy.
Crying fowl? Really? Why is it Nene fans all seem to be illiterate?
@Pauleeze were they chicken bones?
Oopsy!!! Sorry grammar police.
Why? ‘Cause like likes to align with like. Lol…
In no way did any Claudia’s blog read as “crying” or whining. When you’re winning in logic, they tend to reach for this: “playing the victim” or now the “crying foul,” hopefully how she meant to spell it.
And for of the insecure, when you don’t net the same attention a pretty lady does, like Claudia does and like she said, the immediate go-to is the “Whore” call. But they weren’t the proverbial fly on not near a wall [you know proof of their claim], witnessing the ALL whom you’ve supposedly slept with, yet they wanna call you [probably what they’ve been called] out your name. So lame!
Ne Ne, here’s the thing: Certain mindset just don’t think of another’s sexual past while beefing with them. We don’t! Unless you’ve been with my partner and that pairing caused havoc in our household? I could care less about another’s sexual history–I don’t wanna sleep with them. My mind doesn’t go to their gonads, while arguing. Those items NEVER crossed my mind. I just address the point-at-hand! Talk about lower-vibrations. No pun.
Ne Ne, please, tell us at the reunion WHAT MADE YOUR MIND even think on that note?? Not alluding to anything “like that” or presuming you’re secretly “curious,” but… Whose mind is consumed in THAT WAY? …About someone else’s private-parts and what they used to do with them….it’s warped! Hopefully you’ll clarify this at the reunion, as said above. I have two friends that are psychologists, we’ll be watching… How could your mind be consumed with such thoughts?
Bakkkkk bakkk bakkk bgakkkk!!!!! I can cry fowl too!
You are an absolute idiot.
They are still an idiot, though the reply was ironically grammatically incorrect. Pauleeze’s comment was completely idiotic & there’s notbing else to even say to entertain it further.
Ugh, nothing. Recently upgraded to iPhone 6 and the bigger keyboard makes for lots of errors.
You are an idiot.
I am more and more impressed with Claudia. Here you have a lady that can put out a bunch of valid arguments and question you without fu, stfup, and calling all kind of low class names; eloquent and intelligent. I value that a lot.
She is soooo correct on her assessment.
The damage done to Kenya’s reputation by Phaedra – there is no monetary value on this. Half the nation calls her a w* – and that is heart breaking. I don’t know how Kenya can fix it. I am afraid Phaedra’s written, filmed, heartfelt (including some deep sobbing) may not help. The damage is done. And that is shame.
This.
Claudia & Kenya are class acts.
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It’s crying foul not fowl you dummy…
ROTFL at dummy. They’re all chicken heads, demeaning themselves for money, hence the use of fowl. They’re hens pecking at crumbs. They’re birds of the same feather. Clearly they all understand that NeNe is the top bird so they all have to mimic her behavior, attractive or unattractive, they prove every week that they’re all classless birds crying fowl.
Pauleez…Nene, the ex pole slider, is aware that Hollyweird is all about the casting couch. She is so jealous of beautiful women. Nene is so thirsty for fame that she wish she could whore her way to the top. She danced naked for pennies prior in an old head strip club, she would sex someone for a role and everyone else to her is the whore she wish she could be. Nene’s jealousy tells me that Hollywood is not looking for another buffoon. All those cars in someone else’s garage, puleezz….Claudia is right.. You cannot get a top designer outfit in a size moose off the runway. Stop fronting Nene, we know you broke and love that coke. Sit down for all your skeletons come out. Y’all don’t know the half of Nene’s rep here in GA. The streets do talk.
They are FRIENDS not reality tv friends. They’ve known each other for years and have been FRIENDS for years.
Oh check it out, Paulette is yet another psychic. We get lots of those around here. Especially those who want to claim a show will be cancelled because of someone etc. As Yet above me said, all shows run their course. RH’s are almost all overdue to be scrapped.
Fowl=chicken or poultry
If it walks like a duck, it probably cries fowl.
Nene does employ a double standard and Claudia should not have to settle for a generic apology because Nene is not one to apologize. Maybe Nene should keep her big yap shut or learn to apologize.
No where on the RH franchise has there ever been anyone as coarse as Nene bragging about her bank account or her “jobs”. Nene had zero acting credits before RHOA and other than appearing for room service and cab fare I doubt she will have any after RHOA. Thirty-five light weight appearances on Ryan Murphy shows will not fund Gregg’s stay at the retirement home.
I like Claudia, I think she adds to the positive on this show that has been sadly lacking under the foolishness of Mama Joyce, Porsha and most of all Nene.
You are absolutely right. NeNe has been guilty of double speak since day one and nobody has stood up to her entirely until now. Here’s what I know….she looks like a baboon and is threatened by any woman who looks better than her….she talks about stripping to raise her kids, well she didn’t do such a hot job having a son that look like a Cro-magnon beast who got caught stealing out of Walmart not Cartier. Let’s be clear back then NeNe wasn’t stripping in Vegas for thousands but in a back water Georgia club where you continue your business out back giving the house a cut. Lastly, for now, she is married to a fat Pullman porter who was married when she first came upon him. This baboon is a walking, lying double standard.
kids should be off limits!! how would you like if someone talked about the way your kid looks and behaves??
The kid is on the show and all over social media. It is up to the parents to protect their kids. Clearly, she is the new designated meal ticket. The problem lies with the parents not the people pointing out the obvious.
Also, is your shift key broken?
On Sat, Jan 24, 2015 at 5:54 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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One solution to avoid having people commenting on your kid’s appearance-teach them to avoid mug shots. Rarely are they flattering. Isn’t Nene’s oldest that went to the jail with pot? Genius, hell average doesn’t seem to run in her bloodline either.
As much as I can’t stand Mama Joyce, she made pies up into the night rather than strip and I’ll bet she looked a damned sight better than NeNe did back in the day
I must’ve missed that episode of Mama Joyce saying that. It’s an hysterical statement in my warped mind LOL! I hope I’ll be able to catch it on a marathon. Thanks for the laugh 🙂
I understand where she’s coming from. I’m wondering if these RH shows can go on for another 2 years. I know I’m gradually tuning out altogether. Atlanta is the only one hanging on by a thread for me. Tried to get into BH, but can’t. The shows are devolving into just a bunch of ladies acting for the cameras setting each other up for the next fight. It might have been interesting the first few seasons, but what it has become just isn’t compelling enough to keep my interest. I’m trying to think….when did brawling become so popular on television, especially among “ladies.” I’m thinking maybe Survivor started all the kicking your ass off the island/competition/backstabbing. Then came all the reality shows. So television programming has evolved to this mess.
Agree. Maybe if they stick around a little longer, we will see it come full circle. Adding people like Lisa R., Eileen D., and Claudia as the voices of reason and empathy who call out this behavior is a move in the right direction. There’s only so many seasons that we can witness appalling behavior before we become completely sickened by how these women portray themselves to the world.
I quit Beverly Hills already – why? because Brandi #getoffmyTV. I am very thankful that TT is taking this one for me. 🙂
I don’t know how to quit HW’s, (Brokeback Mountain was just on TV).
Claudia is my hero. I don’t think she’s shouted loud echoing or long enough yet. She’s a Hero, not a Zero! !
No bones in closet for her to be ashamed of!
You stuck up for yourself…good for you.
If you cannot forgive (an act of the will)…then ask higherpower for help. She is usong you to advance herself.
I really don’t understand Phaedra and her BS toward you and Demi. Has she slipped a cog?
You are a welcome addition to the group.
Claudia is my hero. I don’t think she’s shouted loud enough or long enough yet. She’s a Hero, not a Zero! !
I side with Claudia. I use to really love NeNe. NeNe has turned into a monster. It is sad how NeNe brags about money and material possessions at her age. She isn’t even funny anymore, just draining
Draining. EXCELLENT description.
I agree with Claudia completely, you can’t just say a lame, “I’m sorry,” and everything is the same as before. Too many of the housewives do this and I’m glad someone is telling them, it’s not right. I’m not surprised that NeNe apologized, but I think the only reason that she apologized is that she knew Claudia was so much better at reading! I doubt if Claudia would have given her a hard time if NeNe had just been civil, but no, queen bee is just too jealous of everyone and can only be a “friend” to someone if they hate who she hates. I actually like RHOA better now that there are people who can stand up to NeNe. Bye ghetto.
Perhaps it’s time for bravo to lift “no lawsuit” policy. A lawsuit would cure the defamation trends.
Claudia, you did well. I sympathize with you for being recipient of abuse. I admire your stand but I really think she’s doing thebest she can. We’ll pray God gives her the “teacheableness” (humility).
I think Joanna Krupa might just be leading the way there.
Of the above commenters, I agree with all of you from CaliSteve to Nancy 83. Claudia is a class act and Nene (who is classless) cannot stand that. Claudia is right on so many points, especially when she speaks on how nasty women can treat one another sometimes. I realize that there are times when low-blow comments are warranted, but not just because one disagrees with somebody elses’ opinion. As for the ‘lists’ that she says are floating around on social media, I would bet money that Mz Leakes initiated that or something like it. If that is the case, that’ s what you call some deep hate. I don’t hold out much hope that RHOA will be on for 2 more years because Bravo has no use for positive people like Claudia and Cynthia. They make their “coin” with the stupid drama and negative nonsense.
Those low blow comments from NeNe aren’t because she disagrees with somebody it is almost always because the other person is much better looking (Kenya, Claudia, Sheree and Kim) or more successful (Kandi)
True.
I think Nene is afraid Claudia is gonna snatch her bald headed 🙂
Well it’s too late for that.
On Sat, Jan 24, 2015 at 2:56 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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I am not a Nene Fan but i do not agree with Claudia one bit.
1. Claudia says she has been working for 17 YEARS; thats the amount of time where she should have stacked up a whole lotta cash and all she’s doing is a radio side kick and being on real housewives. Isn’t that a downgrade for someone bragging about a 17 years career.?
2. Claudia did not accept Nene’s apology because she wanted a peach so bad that she wanted to keep the fight going. Its such an irony that Claudia was so quick to apologise to Tiny and really wanted tiny to accept her apology but she cannot be the same way to NENE? is that not the same double standard? I know some people will say that nene’s apology was fake to claudia, but does anyone really think claudia’s apology to tiny wasn’t fake either?
3. I personally feel like the new girls really wanted to come in with a bang. like Demetria mentions nene’s name all the time when she is interviewed. However, I’ve only seen little to no interaction between her and nene! Its so weird how she has so much to say about someone she knows nothing about.
I don’t like Claudia because she’s over doing everything, she is clearly overreaching and you have to come for nene in order to make a name on the housewives franchise.
Cynthia looks so stupid with those new girls and kenya! she’s totally out of place. Fuckery
I don’t know. I think Cynthia looks happy for the first time. It’s nice to see her having fun for a change.
So true. Cynthia appears to be happier and I can tell that she is being herself with Kenya and Claudia. Her friendship with NeNe was one-sided.
Cynthia is very pretentious,not so long ago she said she wanted to be friends with NeNe again but ,NeNe said she has to give it some thought.Only then did Cynthia turn to fake ass Kenya and new girl Claudia who is trying so hard to be seen and,heard on RHOA.
abby, since I didn’t have the patience to read your post and don’t have arguments really.
You are such a whore and slut.
I suppose you are speechless now and I am right. I won the entire discussion, no?
girl bye!
BWAHAHAHAH way to drive that point home!
Hahahaha! You forgot the ‘girl, bye.’
Hahahaha Love the response, oopsi!
@Abby, Hi Nene! Everything you have said is exactly what Nene has blogged or said herself about Claudia. You are a liar, you are a Nene fan to ashamed to say that you are or I think you are Nene.
1. Nene will never last 17 years with her fresh SAG card, consistently bragging as if she is Oscar A-list material.
2. WTF does Claudia apologizing to Tiny have to do with anything. I agree with Claudia, If I have to check your ass in order for you to treat me with some respect then keep your insincere apology,
3. The new girls are supposed to come with a bang, wtf are you talking about. Its a show. What are they supposed to be doing, filing paperwork on the set?
4. Stop being jealous of Cynthia moving on with Team Pretty and RHOA.
Double standard? If, and it’s a big if, Nene were an honest person her full quote would be – wait until you catch one between your knees than close your legs to married men so they can’t escape back to their wives and families.
Bahahaha!
Claudia holds down a CONSISTENT job with a CONSISTENT paycheck in the field she wants to be working in. Nene gets one or two TEMPORARY gigs and you think that makes a career?
Getting the exposure from a Real Housewives franchise — national recognition, free promotion, access to daytime talk shows and being a focus of magazine/blog articles — is somehow a downgrade? Nene did NOTHING before becoming a generic reality television show villain. Literally nothing. Unless you want to count being a stripper? Or being a college-level intern for some news station?
And your comparison to her “fight” with Tiny is so ridiculous I can’t believe you even thought to type that. Tiny did not insult her intelligence, sexuality, her appearance, or brag in every way possible how she’s somehow “richer” than her. I really refuse to believe that a functioning human being can’t tell the difference between these two situations.
And LOL at you thinking Demetria keeps talking about Nene. That never happened. Like…at all. You’re INSANE.
Ps starting your post with “I’m not a nene fan, BUT…” and then defending her in every fictional, stretching way possible makes you look even more delusional. And a pussy.
LOLOLOL!!!!
I quit reading after the 1. however, does it matter what Claudia has been doing for the past 17 years in the industry? She wasn’t sliding on a pole, or being evicted from her rental home either. Pretty sure NeNe would give one of her veneers off of her front tooth for a radio job like Claudia has at the moment.
You’re another idiot. Working 17 years doesn’t guarantee you millions of dollars. It guarantees you a consistent living. Claudia has been working consistently in the industry for 17 years, in the entertainment business without RHOA. Nenes true assessment of her “jobs” will be whether she can continue to keep a job when she is no longer a raging obnoxious coon on a reality show.
And for you to assume that Claudia not accepting NeNes apology was a ploy to earn a peach when she has clearly expressed why Nenes apology didn’t warrant any acceptance…You sound contrary.
Oh because apologizing 7 years after you make jokes about someone at work, is “so quick”??? She wanted to apologize to Tiny because in reflection (looking back) claudia didnt like what she said. In case you didnt notice nene came for claudia because nene felt threatened. Nenes apology wasn’t accepted because nene failed to explain herself. Claudia wanted to know why it happened so she can prevent such an argument from happening in the future.
I think you;re reaching here…
(That was towards Abby….)
Thank you Claudia for pointing out that being the loudest and meanest one in a group does not necessarily mean that you are correct. I find Nene to be repugnant in her words and her intentions to always fight dirty. Her classless way of approaching each confrontation shows herself to be ignorant and rude. That’s fine with me, but dragging other women into the gutter along with her is simply the act of a bully. And we all know that each and every bully is a coward. Your words in defense of yourself and other women are appreciated.
Personally I’m glad someone is finally calling Nene out on her slut-shaming. She goes around yelling how she supports women but her #1 go-to when she’s losing an argument is to call the other woman a whore — it started season 1 with Kim and has continued every season since. It’s despicable.
There’s an ad for 21 people who look amusing…there’s ramen noodles and some guy. I wish they would have used Nene. Is it on everyone’s screen ‘ cause I’ m dying over here.
nene is drama she needs to sop
nene apoligize good must came over her
Simone, are you having a mini stroke? Your posts strings of words with no punctuation that make no sense. That’s not like you.
On Sat, Jan 24, 2015 at 5:03 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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LMAO @ TT, my 11 year old posted that…I apologize and come and get her, I just kicked her out of my home.
Oh well. I don’t want her either. Have you considered selling her into slavery? 🙂
On Sat, Jan 24, 2015 at 5:41 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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Why not accept the apology and move on? Even If it does seem fake.
Um, you seem to have missed the entire point of her blog. It was answering that very question.
I am so loving what Claudia wrote…totally agree with her.
Claudia, we agree. How can one toss a flimsy “sorry” after all the inflamatory madness they just spewed at you that night before? We think that that was an unspoken “shut-up sorry.” Like, I apologized now hush up!
And why did you apologize for highlighting a harlot’s hypocrisy? Not calling any names but if it’s KNOWN how you get your money, MOST of it, how can you sit in all sanity and laugh at anybody else being called the “whore” word? Not smart. Retract that “sorry” Claudia. With your intellect, there’s NOTHING ‘sorry’ about you!
Nene’s making a living off of her back for the first time in her life so she doesnt realize most adult woman have been doing so for decades.
I wonder has the price of Ramen Noodles gone up or down since NeNes’ hairdo comparison? I wonder will she try to capitalize on it and have t-shirts made, you know, to add to her designer clothing line, cause a girl’s got to make that coin:)
Well, she’s already tried to steal the ‘girl, bye’ saying so if she can figure out how to make something off of ramen noodles I’m sure she will.
I Love that Claudia is on the show. Nene is insecure and outdated. Please stand up to that bully.
NeNe is nothing more than a big mouth, who thinks by yelling, she makes her point. To me she is just pathetic when arguing. Like a chicken with her head cut off….go Claudia do standing up to that loud mouth…
This is the first I’ve ever read this blog, these posts/comments & THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR BRIGHTENING MY MORNING!!
Claudia’s blog, I love it and totally understand her view and agree with it. Nene used to be comical and likeable, not anymore and that’s sad. I was wondering when someone would be casted that was not afraid to stand up to her.
TT, you and Simone’s convo was sooooooo amusing to me. “are you having a mini stroke?” and here it was her baby girl commenting…lololololololololol Kids! 🙂
Amused54 we must be twins born to different mothers. I was going to post almost the exact same words but you beat me to it. I am enjoying the hell out of these comments and literally laughing like an idiot! The Simone exchange was hysterical! Thanks TT and the rest of you guys for the laughs!
She is a brave, brave woman
I love her attitude and strength when dealing with Nene and her supporters.
That’s right only for the moment.
Accepting an apology is a start ,well they both said things to each other that was foul so I don’t feel sorry for you Claudia, now you are asking for a pity party, don’t dish out what you can’t take. You talk about people all the time and you don’t know their past, just like no one knows yours
What Claudia should have said is,” you mean whore like when you broke up Greg’s marriage while you were swinging on a pole? “
Bye nene