Cynthia weighs in on the drama between Porsha and her this week. Then Kandi and Phaedra add their two cents.
Drama or no drama, the one thing I respect most about the ladies is their business savvy. I enjoy surrounding myself with strong, smart, business-minded women. Like some of the other ladies, I am a self-made woman. My career history and accolades speak for themselves. This was and continues to be accomplished through hard work and remaining fearless. With that said, I felt it was in bad taste and another poor judgment call for Porsha to make fun of The Bailey Agency School of Fashion, especially since I have supported her single and hair business when called upon. The Bailey Agency empowers and inspires young talent to believe in themselves and to follow their dreams.
I have known Porsha for a couple of years now, and we have never had any real issues until this last reunion. To my knowledge our only issue is I did not support her actions at the reunion. I have always made it clear that the reunion is a provocative environment for everyone involved. I adamantly did not support her choice to resort to physical violence, and I never will. Shortly after, she did WWHL, and claimed that I supported her actions and then I didn’t support her actions. I do not support physical violence. Period! I thought this was clear out the gate during the reunion, when I did not jump off the couch to run to her side.
What is a thot? Apparently it means, “that hoe over there.” OK, Porsha saying my Ebony Magazine topless photo looked “thot-ish” is actually too ridiculous for me to address. I was going to go there, but I choose not to waste my time. The ground-breaking, highly revered, historic publication doesn’t require my defense. I am honored and very proud of the creative, stylish, and tastefully directed editorial. I choose to disregard what I consider to be ignorant and move on.
I feel an ongoing issue in this group of ladies is the blatant disrespect for people’s time. It is just rude and inappropriate. It also says a lot about a person to have no regard for another person’s time (no call or text) and feel no need to apologize. I find this behavior extremely irritating and actually offensive. Looking back, I never should have allowed my frustration to take me out of character. What could have been a respectful and cordial conversation between two grown women ended up being a pointless waste of time. My mistake was not leaving after the customary 15 minute grace period.
Cynthia is a sweet person, but I think people have called her a follower and have taken her kindness for weakness for so long that she just wants to let everybody know that she’s not weak. Therefore every time she feels the slightest bit of disrespect, she goes overboard trying to put that person in check. Now she comes off as this mean girl. It’s like she can’t win for losing — if she’s too nice, she’s weak, and if she’s too aggressive, she’s a bitch.
While our show is about a group of women who socialize together, socializing does not equate to true friendship. True friends delight in the building up of one another rather than bashing each other. Throughout my tumultuous situation it has been Porsha’s sweetness, NeNe’s constant support and advice, coupled with Kandi’s steadfast friendship that has sustained and comforted me.
The exchange between Porsha and Cynthia during this week’s episode was disappointing. I have always thought of Cynthia as a nice person, but her behavior last night was unbecoming. Porsha was late and I understand Cynthia’s frustration. However, as Porsha’s elder, Cynthia should be setting an example. None of us are perfect, but we can all strive to be better. Also, timing and tone are often more important than the content of a message. It is unfortunate that the content and intention of the communication were lost due to a distracting tone and premature timing.
It seems like Phaedra is not happy she’s not on Team Pretty. Bless her heart. And what do you think about her comments about Porsha and Nene?
Phaedra needs to fall into a toilet and then have someone flush it.
Even though I don’t agree…that was funny!
Agreed. She’s the last one to give pointers on etiquette with her vile display on last season’s reunion.
#DoubleFlush
Lol, couldn’t have said it better myself!
Perfect comment Junkie!
Phaedra has lost any respect that one might have had for her. Her best bet is to stop speaking all together. She has no class no matter how much she tries to come across as a southern belle. It is hard to take anything she says too seriously. Knowing what we do about her makes her the least likeable of all the housewives.
@ Riley .. Exactly !
I think Kandi is quoting from a book about feminism. Not sure which one. But after her treatment of Kenya I feel she is not a feminist. We are all so literary now. Cynthia, I don’t know what to say. Porsha is a boor and that’s about all I ever saw in her. I told Carlos on Twitter this showdown was genius, but I’m really only amused by Apollo s confession still. I guess they need a scene with Kenya for me to care.
Boooooring! Where’s Kenya!? She looks gorgeous all the time. I like watching Smart and Beautiful people. The rest except Cynthia, come off as the Ugly and dimwitted and jealous Stepsisters.
I like what you did there.
“Nene’s constant support” ?? Phaedra is a damned liar. And i read this blog on Bravo’s site…she ended it with blah blah blah “Our Lord and Savior”. Anyone who believes her very obvious brand of BS, I don’t feel as much sympathy as I should.
Hey TT. The fact that Bravo has infuriatingly stopped allowing people to comment on the ATL blogs may result in a TON of new readers for you. I was going to mention as much and say “maybe you should post their blogs” But you’re already on it! Yay!
TT is a genuis 🙂
I try to post excerpts from their blogs at the end of the week when things slow down. I have some post coming for RHOBH and Pump Rules. They are great for restarting the conversation at the end of the week!
On Wed, Nov 26, 2014 at 10:08 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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Coming from a modeling background of 25 years where being punctual can equate to whether bills are paid and food is on the table, WE KNOW had production and cameras not been there Cynthia would have left long before an hour passed. And with most people not just he classy and esteemed, the very first thing that falls from their lips when they arrive late is “Pardon my tardiness,” or something of that variation. To fall in and plop down in the cheer wearing diva-like attitude? Porsha, girl…bye! You get the vibe she would have did that even if the cameras weren’t there, she was so sore at Cynthia not siding with her [literally and figuratively] childish cookiness last reunion. Kandi’s response seems fair…may need to read it again. But yeah, most don’t like [what appears to be] the meek Cynthia, now they don’t like the assertive one either? Ain’t no pleasing a detractor, so why try? I wouldn’t! Phaedra’s response? Sigh… Girl, your husband mistreated you on national TV, called you out your name after the PillowFight, whether we liked you or not, we still GOT on him for that! A wrong is a wrong! Talk about “timing”, what was Gaylord’s timing? Parks, stop! Analyze your behavoir & hubby’s, leave Cynthia’s alone–especially when her’s was totally warranted in that moment.
*chair , pardon typos.
Exactly – perhaps Phaedra should have set an example in the way she dealt with Kenya – calling her out of her name because of her lying husband. And Cynthia did set an example for Porsha – she arrived on time and when Porsha showed up late she corrected her by letting her know that was improper behavior (something Porsha’s mother should have taught her as a child). Porsha is what 33 or 34 years old – why are these grown women babying her.
Who is “Gaylord?”
Portia is alright looking. She used to be cute but she let herself go after her divorce. Sadly her looks are her strongest suit, so she is naturally threatened by a genuinely physically beautiful woman who also has a brain.
Loving Cynthia these days.
Well I’m hoping everyone in the blogs saying Phaedra/Kandi are going through it are squashed now. Phaedra clearly gave Kandi some positive second-person visibility in her blog! Yay!
So naïve…
On Thu, Nov 27, 2014 at 1:35 AM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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Porsha needs to learn from Cynthia and also go back to school. She has aligned herself with the the lowest women in the group. Unless Cynthia was forced to wait for Porsha, she should have left, or left 1 minute after her fat ass got there. As soon as Porsha sat it down, I would have stood up, with few words made my point, then walked off. The little bitch lost her opportunity to have the lunch and say her piece that she herself set up.
IMO, Phaedra should be behind bars. For the next 8 years, I have no time for her opinions or feelings about anything. She should just be happy to be with her sons and shut the f up, period.
Kandi has no room to be analyzing or critical of Cynthia’s actions. Some of the worst behavior among women on the show goes on in her own house with her family and she does nothing but smile or defend it. She needs to be looking out more for her bratty daughter being raised right and less about Bedroom Kandi and piling up more cash.
Angel yes , I with you 100% on that!!!!!
Yup, me too.
“…Also, timing and tone are often more important than the content of a message…”
HUH?! Content ALWAYS is first and foremost! What Phaedra describes is akin to a meatless sandwich. It also explains why she was made a fool when she represented Ms. ‘She by Sherree’, and was blind-sided, and lost the case, because she failed to anticipate the DEFENDANT’S, Sherre’s exe’s filing of a form, a simple procedural claim that he made, which obviously did not require a remarkably highly skilled attorney to prevail before incompetent Phaedra could as much utter her name. It is no wonder why Phaedra collects cash payment in full from her freak show and sex worker clients in advance, and also had enough time on her hands to attend mortuary school, participate in ‘lab’ class work, fulfill required practicum work, and participate in study groups for license testing, and if rumors are true, have an extramarital affair with a home wrecker turned Mr. President’s baby daddy, known as Mr. Chocolate as SHE carried on in ways which would rationalize her being treated (according to her sick mind) as she and her rabid jackal cohorts bayed at and abused wrongly accused Kenya, as Apollo confessed and as Kenya’s closest friends knew all along that Apollo lied to Phaedra about Kenya to spite her, probably tell Phaedra that he could have better than her, and/or claim the encounter with Kenya/affair maybe as retribution to Phaedra for her own infidelity and being the slut that she accused Kenya of being.
Dang you read Phaedra to filth so bad, I know you got sprayed too. :0
Whew, that read would have been epic on the reunion show.
Porsha might not be the brightest bulb, but Cynthia is a total MOE-RON. “I’mo put on my best ‘school you’ Urkle suit, and sit ’round for an hour waiting to talk nonsense, because, ya know, cameras and stuff.”
yeah, Porsha was way late, but for me, Cynthia was the one that came out looking like an idiot,
I never thought I’d find myself agreeing with Kandi, but I do. I wouldn’t go so far to say she looked like a b-, but trying too hard? Yeah.
Ok, that’s a run on sentence, but very rich and full of passion, and articulate.
Are you assigning grades to comments?
Sorry. You’re so right. Won’t do it again!
Did that midget butterball slore say that Cynthia is Porsha’s ELDER & should be setting examples???
Is she fkin serious???
That’s only relevant when the it’s a VAST age difference. We all know Porsha has the reading level of a 10yr old but she’s not actually 10 years old. Phaedra SIT DOWN, just jealous you’re a chunky little midget.
That was a “subtle” shade! tsk! tsk! Phaedra is shadasty (shady & nasty)
Who invites someone somewhere, shows up an hour late and then has the nerve to act bitchy when their tardiness is bought up. Porsha’s behavior was immature and obnoxious. It was almost like she was re auditioning for her peach or something.. Personally I like nice, dumb as a bag of hammers, Porsha better than this new dumb, cunty Porsha..
She was auditioning for her peach again. The Nene scenes and the scene with Cynthia were both test shoots. It’s sort of ironic that they showed us the scenes that she failed at so significantly.
On Fri, Nov 28, 2014 at 3:32 AM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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