It was just last July when Bethenny Frankel was admonished by the judge in her custody case with Jason Hoppy for posting a picture of herself wearing her four-year-old daughter, Brynn’s Hello Kitty pajamas on twitter. The judge called the decision ridiculous. When her lawyer said that it was just a joke, the judge replied by saying, “It’s not a joke. Her child is not a joke.”
Yesterday, Bethenny’s fans were appalled after she posted the above picture on Twitter pimping her new book of cocktail recipes. Several comments were left on Twitter and Instagram by fans who were deeply concerned about her health.
Today, many of those comments have been removed and new ones take their place. Interestingly on Twitter, there are now suggested links under her post linking to sites about “Thin Shaming.” The articles seem to miss the point that these are her fans who are worried that a grown woman is wearing clothes that are literally made for four-year olds. There is no shaming, or shade for that matter. The public is simply pointing out they are worried about her health. Bethenny appears to be starving herself to death!
Another disturbing thing I have noticed about Bethenny is her constant reference to “skinnygirl mommy juice” in the morning. She drinks on every morning show she is on. Now I love my Merlot, perhaps a bit too much and too often, but I’m not partaking in mornings. Even when joking “It’s five o’clock somewhere!” I usually not really drinking. I had assumed the same was true for Bethenny until I read through her timeline today. It’s kind of disturbing. Perhaps waking up depressed every day in a house that is fully stocked with all of her favorite cocktails is too much temptation?
I’m neither fan nor foe of Bethenny. I do think she has some major mental health issues and is broken in a lot of places. I assume she is working through that with someone. But I am becoming concerned that instead of spunky season one Bethenny, we are going to be watching something more akin to pre-rehab Kim Richards Bethenny. I don’t want to see Bethenny praying to trashcans or slurring around the other women. I was sort of excited to see Bethenny on RHONY, but now I am worried that she is not emotionally healthy enough for the rigors of the show. None of the Real Housewives franchises have been beneficial to the women who came on with emotional issues. It’s just not a place to deal with divorce or child custody or eating disorders or self-medicating behaviors or making to difficult move into being a single parent.
I am starting to have a sick feeling this will not go well. Andy should know better. What kind of “friend” would encourage her to return in her current situation.
Do you think it’s because of all the stress she has been under? She really should sit back awhile and come to terms with her personal life and stop pushing so hard in her professional life.
Tamara, you hit on a very important point in so many of the housewives shows when you stated in part, “…None of the Real Housewives franchises have been beneficial to the women who came on with emotional issues.”
I don’t know if it’s the culture created by BRAVO and it’s producers or what, but you’re spot on about the emotional issues and how sour these poor women’s lives end up throughout their time and post time on these shows.
Who hasn’t driven past all the beautiful homes in wealthy areas and wondered what the inhabitants’ lives are like, and “who lives there?” or “I wonder if they have a lot of servants?” Has she ever washed a dish?”
As we pull up in our humble driveways in the tract home or the trailer court, we think, “How do the rich manage such luxury? They must live a life of endless bliss and no worries.”
Imagine if it’s not Bravo’s casting, but that these emotionally messed up women on these shows really are the norm representing who lives at the end of those perfectly manicured, long, winding driveways. Some are sicker than others, be it narcissism, hubris, bipolar, substance abuse… et al, et ux, et vir, ad infinitum, and well, holy crap! I’d rather live in a single wide and be happy than have the messed up life most of those women have had.
I’ve known many, many well off people over the years. Some are the nicest and most caring people I’ve ever known, but the majority of them are screwed up. I’ve actually felt very sorry for many of them because they are such a mess. Even though they are financially well off, the money can’t fix their suffering.
I’ve had the same experience. Most of the people I know well, who are extremely rich, deal with a lot of issues. Some have good lives. However, the majority have discontent and discord in their families. Great wealth, IMHO, seems to bring more problems than blessings to a life. Coming into great wealth later in life seems to be a curse as well. One of the cable stations has an ongoing series about lottery winners who have lost everything in a few years. Very few lottery winners are able to hold on to their money for one reason or another.
Do you think that the camera angle — pointing downward — distorts her size somewhat?
I dunno, you think the camera angle lets her fit in her four year old daughter’s clothes? Or makes her arms and legs look like noodles?
I have to agree with you there. She just looked so crazy thin that I hoped she might have photo-shopped, or something. If she’s that emaciated then it’s really bad news …. her husband could be reading these concerns and try to use it in court to get more custody.
She looks like a stick woman with a big head.
That was my first thought too – the camera angle exasperated her big head and her small body to alien proportions. I’ve had similar pictures and its like oh fuck DELETE – I can’t believe she put it up there in the first place.
She looks like a six year old with an old woman’s wrinkly face. It’s actually quite disturbing…
Absolutely! But even if it were shot correctly, she’s still scary thin. I believe you can usually see when someone’s not healthy in their face, and that’s how it appears with Bethenny.
When regular people become wealthy quickly, they think all their problems are over. Quit the contrary, they have worked very to climb to the top and now every one seems to be your friend. Well they really aren’t but it’s very hard to know who is a real friend and those that are not. Bethany has worked very hard and can’t seem to gear her mind to slow down. If she isn’t eating properly and is always on the go and possibly drinking too much, all that spells is disaster. I wonder if she still sees her doctor, from the looks of how tiny she is I would say no. If she has any REAL friends they need to get her to a doctor before it is too late. If her husband had been any kind of a MAN and not a money grubber he could have helped her, but his nasty remarks about everything she tried to do only made things worse. He knows Bethany loves Bryn and I don’t for a fact but I hope is a loving mother to her. She was probably scared beyond words of loosing any custody of Bryn, and ole Jason would have just stepped back and laughed. I still like her, not as much as in the beginning, because she did change a bit. Hopefully she can get herself together, someone must care enough about her to make her see what is happening
My x fiancé was an alcoholic. He was awarded more than a million dollars, he was an underwater welder on an off shore oil rig. The pipe blew up while he was welding, as the pipe wasn’t cleared properly.
It was then he became an alcoholic, between too much time on his hands, too much money in his pocket and pain…he stopped eating (maybe once a week he’d eat a small portion of food. Most of the time he used booze to fill up his stomach and erase his mind. I ended the engagement when it became apparent I couldn’t save him from himself.
That’s a really sad story. 🙁
The picture is shocking to me in an unfortunate way. Bethenny has always been petite, but she looks dangerously thin in the photo. I have suspected since RHONY began that Bethenny has a problem with alcohol because she would always want to know, “Where’s the booze?” and then suddenly start crying anytime someone asked her about her life. I feel the drinking is her own way of self medicating instead of examining herself and seeking professional help for her personal issues. We have seen her be resistant to the advice given to her by her psychiatric, which is like shooting herself in the foot. I sincerely hope someone like Kyle Richards talks to her, and if need be, does a proper intervention to help address whatever is going on with Bethenny behind the scenes. She needs to take a pause for the cause (her daughter Brynn), and get out of scrutiny of the public spotlight she seems to chase. Fame seems to be the worse addiction in this case, and I would hate for her to succumb to its false sense of acceptance. Please get it together Bethenny Frankel, if not for yourself, it must be your daughter who loves and needs you.
Um… because Kyle Richards did such a great job reaching out to her sister? I disagree with you thoroughly on that point but 100% agree that her daughter needs her, and hope to god Bethenny takes a good long look at how her choices will impact that precious little girl in the long term. Bethenny has mentioned in the past battling an eating disorder, these pictures certainly suggest those demons may have returned.
I mentioned Kyle because Bethenny has described Kyle as her “longtime friend”, and I cannot remember the name of her friend who went to Miami with her during season one. Hoda Kotbe is the only other public person that I know of who she considers a true friend. Kyle has been less than empathetic towards her sister Kim, but she is all about the loyalty to, approval from, and acceptance of her friends. I have had relatives like Kyle who claim to love their family and really are never there in a time of need for their own relatives, but then they will ride or die for their friends. These folks would literally take a bullet for any one of their friends without hesitation, but would have to think about it long and hard for their family members who they proclaim to love.
Kyle has known Bethenny for about twenty years, so she may be keenly aware of the demons that haunt Bethenny. I could see Bethenny being more willing to listen to Kyle because they both work for Bravo and have known each other for many years. Kyle and Hoda may be able to get through to Bethenny before she self destructs. I feel it’s actually a sad situation to not be able to think of anyone else that she considers a friend trustworthy enough to help her overcome this delicate situation. All jokes aside, those photos are about Bethenny’s life and health. She grates my nerves, but I do not want her life to possibly come to a tragic end because her daughter needs her and there is more to live for in life than reality tv.
I hate the somber tone of my comments, but she needs to face the truth in order to fully live her own truth. Sigh……
One of the requirements to be considered for a reality show, on any network, is drama. These people, women in the case of the housewives shows, are quirky in one way or another. Some more than others. Some have serious financial issues; some are bordering on unstable emotionally; others have substance abuse issues; and still others are utterly fabulous in their eccentricity and excess. Whatever it is, they all have something. And if they don’t have it, then I suspect they are told to pretend to have it. The kiss of death on these shows is being normal.
So Bethenny is exactly what Bravo wants, especially now. She was rehired to bring ratings and the only way to do that is for her to do something or be someone outrageous in some way…to have something about her that people feel they need and want to watch. Unfortunately that means all the twitter-ing about her wasting away means she’s that much more valuable.
TT do you know if her mom or grams live in the ATL? I met a wonderful grand mother at piedmont hosp. Who told me to be looking out for her grand daughter on T.V. because she was going to be successful and to pray for her. She even spelled Bethanny name.
Just a shallow observation, but Bethenny’s jaws don’t seem to look as pronounced as they use to. Do they? I wonder if she got her jaw bones “shaved” like Bruce Jenner had his adams apple shaved down.
No…she had her cheeks plumped to even out the jaws…hence the apple looking cheekbones
WAIT!
I am NOT insinuating Bethenny is wasting herself away to make herself more valuable to Bravo! It may sound like that but all I wanted to say was that she’s got that quirkiness necessary to make people tune in, even if it’s just to see if she will implode.
She has lost so much weight that her head is no longer in proportion to her body. I couldn’t fit my 4 year olds shirt over my head, much less fit it on my body.
A divore I worst than death, I went from 122 to 102 in one month I. had no desire to eat even after odering food. I think remona and Alex will bring her through this rough time. I’m praying for our girl.
Thanks TT for keeping us informed.
I, too, went through a divorce. I liken it to walking up to the gates of Hell and banging on the door, and demanding to be let in, and the next thing you know the doors of Hell open and let you in. I filed for the divorce.
I hope she’s healthy. I’ve always thought her too thin. Some people can wear thin. That’s how she is naturally. I just feel like whenever she loses any weight, she just begins to look sickly.
I can’t imagine being broke my entire life then becoming successful over a diet-brand then going through a stressful divorce. If I had a diet-brand I would always be scared to eat or feel as if people were always watching everything I put in my mouth! It’d be horrible! I was bulimic a long time and I just don’t think those issues could ever go away when your life is built around being the “skinnygirl.” Then all the stress of a divorce would make it harder to eat and keep weight on- some of us eat when we are happier unfortunately. I feel so sad for her. Not a fan too too much but just really feel awful for her.
Is there any point in hoping that she keeps shrinking and eventually disappears?
Hahaha….No! Funny though.
Lol. I agree. Bethenny, GO AWAY.
The networks should be held accountable. i.e. Honey boo boo,— for hiring damage goods.
If she looks that skinny with her clothes on, imagine what she looks like without them. That belt looks like it’s about 16″ and it’s not tight on her waist.
Bethenny has always dressed like a twelve year old. A really well dressed rich 12 year old. Not in a way that people say they wear things that are not “age appropriate” but more in a whimsical way that when chosen over and over and capped off with actually wearing your four year olds clothes is a sign, IMHO that something is very wrong.
On Wed, Oct 29, 2014 at 4:49 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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So true! He reunion dresses always looked like prom dresses.
Even if she is a raging mess (which who knows?), I don’t think Andy would ever let her get a bad edit. Sometimes that’s as much of a disservice to a person though. I haven’t been a fan of hers for a very long time now, and I was really hoping that she wasn’t coming back, even though I figured she was. Something tells me that she is going to clash with Heather and Carole. I think Carole likes being “the skinny one”.
I think maybe Bethenny is doing a disservice to the Skinnygirl brand. It is either a really strange camera angle or Bethenny needs to get help before she succumbs to anorexia related heart failure as Karen Carpenter did many years ago. It appears she is losing muscle mass and the heart is a muscle. Hopefully, there is someone who cares enough about her to help her find the help she needs.
I wasn’t too excited about her coming back because I thought she has been a twit towards Jason but she obviously needs attention and maybe being back on TV will help her to see that she either needs to address a serious mal absorption problem or anorexia nervosa condition.
Look at her skin and under her eyes. She looks like a year old cadaver that someone threw a dress and make-up on. Is she on a dating site for guys who are into necrophilia ?
I was waiting for someone to mention her eyes. I was wonder if that was just because of her olive tone skin? Some skin tones are more prone to the dark undereyes than others.
On Wed, Oct 29, 2014 at 6:09 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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Bethenney once said her biggest fear was dying as a bag lady. This divorce has taken a toll on her. The custody battle has taken a toll on her. The thought of her net worth decreasing by half and having to pay alimony every month has probably taken a toll on her, Jason wants her to pay over a year of legal bills + HER Legal bills…he is now dragging her back to court AGAIN. When it is all over, she will probably have less money than him after paying those legal bills! I hope she doesnt have a nervous breakdown…
I’m really hoping for a happy healthy snarky Bethenney on the show. Not a drunk anorexic depressed Bethenney. I can’t stand seeing Kim struggle physically and emotionall on RHofBH so hopefully Bethenney is not going to be Kim 2.0.
I’m sorry but who the fuck is a family law judge to say that jokingly wearing a pair of pajamas is indicative of not taking parenting seriously? Bethenny thinks her daughter is a joke because she wore her hello kitty pajamas?
I’m 6’2 with a natural weight under 150. I’ve made conscious efforts in my life to gain weight, including eating spoonfuls of Cisco as a preteen and later a 2,000 calorie shake mix that would leave me bed ridden with nausea. I can’t tell you how many times, on almost a daily basis, someone feels the need to make a comment about my weight, including the always loved “eat a cheeseburger”.
We all know there’s a stigma attached to commenting about someone being overweight, you’re automatically an asshole if you publically say something about it – no such protection exists for the other side of the spectrum.
I’m not saying she or doesn’t have an eating disorder but its entirely possible that’s just her natural metabolism.
Actually, I thought that too. Just because she’s clowning around and putting on her kids pj’s, somehow means she’s not taking her parenting seriously? That’s just lame. I’m sure she wishes she hadn’t done it now, since she got so much flack over it, but in the grand scheme of things, it seems pretty harmless to me. It’s not against the law to be too thin.
I don’t know what planet you live on, but fat shaming is about the only free insult out there anymore. Fat jokes are all funny and accepted. It’s the last realm of free insults.
On Wed, Oct 29, 2014 at 6:22 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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I live in the real world – not online were every comment page is full of fat jokes along with any sort of possible diss or offensive joke, and not magazines that would just as quickly tear down Kristy Alley for gaining 20lbs as they would Ashley Olsen for losing 20lbs.
I specifically said “publically” because I meant just that – the general public. I’m talking about out at dinner – a work meeting – a fundraising event – a midday birthday party – at any given time someone I’ve never met before can come up and say “we need to tie you down I’m afraid the wind is going to blow you away” which would be met with laughter and piggybacked jokes.
If, in that same situation, a random fat person were to walk up, you would never hear an off comment like “wow looks like Whale World let you off early today” to a complete stranger. That would not be met with solidarity and laugher – generally everyone would thinks s/he is a dick or a drunk douche bag.
I live in the real world – not online were every comment page is full of fat jokes along with any sort of possible diss or offensive joke, and not magazines that would just as quickly tear down Kristy Alley for gaining 20lbs as they would Ashley Olsen for losing 20lbs.
I specifically said “publically” because I meant just that – the general public. I’m talking about out at dinner – a work meeting – a fundraising event – a midday birthday party – at any given time someone I’ve never met before can come up and say “we need to tie you down I’m afraid the wind is going to blow you away” which would be met with laughter and piggybacked jokes.
If, in that same situation, a random fat person were to walk up, you would never hear an off comment like “wow looks like Whale World let you off early today” to a complete stranger. That would not be met with solidarity and laugher – generally everyone would think s/he is a dick or a drunk douche bag.
Walmart just got into a shit ton of trouble because some snarky art director called certain plus sized Halloween goods “Fat Girl Costumes”.
If it was her natural metabolism, her body wouldnt look that stringy. I don’t like the look of Lupita Nyongo’s chest. But its obvious that is just the way that she is built. Bethany has that ‘madonna” look to her body. Not to mention that her face is sallow, she has huge undereye circles, and her expression always looks painfully put together for the camera. The whole effect looks unhealthy.
What kind of “friend” would encourage her to return in her current situation?
I like Andy but he is the head of a reality franchise wheezing under the weight of old age, bad press, boring story lines, miscasting and audience ennui.
I thought Rosie said the cocktails this morning were of the virgin variety which is why she could enjoy drinking it too.
Rosie says hers was. Nicole and Bethenny’s weren’t. Nicole said her drinks were making her opt not to go to the gym as planned. Bethenny’s response was something along the lines of drinking was “working out” your problems so it counted as working out.
On Wed, Oct 29, 2014 at 7:55 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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Andy is not a friend. He didn’t go to her wedding although she invited him. He may socialize with her on a minimal basis, but she’s still businesses to him.
That was because she was employed by Bravo at the time. Once she wasn’t they were thick as thieves.
On Fri, Oct 31, 2014 at 6:38 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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She’s going to end up in hospital if she keeps losing weight like this. Remember what happened to Karen Carpenter!
Okay, I’ve been poking around a little. I mentioned in an above post (that no one responded to) that Bethenny’s jawline looks different and it does. If you look at pictures “now” as opposed to pictures “then” her jawline is much different, much less pronounced. Maybe, she had some kind of surgery to get her jaws reduced (I don’t know how else to say it) and wasn’t able to eat solid food for a while and lost weight. I dunno, but it’s plausible.
I saw an article not too long ago that said something like “Botox injections for a more feminine jawline!”
It could just be injectables – but I think it mostly has to do with angle so we won’t know for sure until rhony comes back.
A jaw line shaving sounds super invasive and borderline impossible, but who knows what the fuck they can laser these days
Bethenny twatted:
“BREAKING NEWS! World Scandal: Former reality star, failed talk show host & cocktail maven jokes by wearing her kids’ pjs! #itcantbetrue.”
Makes me like her even more.
I applaud your insightful viewpoint and wholeheartedly agree.
Re: Tamara’s post. I agree. Her daughter needs her and she needs to get help. If you pull up Anorexic Female pics and look at them side by side with Ms. Frankle’s you will see the same similarities. Sunken eyes and body features etc. Somethings wrong and I hope she gets help.
Where did Bethanny find this clown of a husband? What ever he need pay him off!! Or pay the money for the “best” lawyer to make him go away. Start over. TT where can we find any history of jason or freddie cougar what ever his name is.
I’m sure that most of us have done silly things when playing with our kids, like wearing their tiara’s or sitting at a child’s table sipping tea. What is disturbing is her need to ” put it out there ” which makes her appear needy for any attention. JMO. PS: maybe her past assistant Julie could help, she seemed to trust her ? ?
Julie ran for the hills. I think she literally left the state.
I’m thinking the RHONY for the upcoming season needs to be renamed The Real Divorced Housewives of New York. Isn’t Heather the only one that is still married?
Oops….forgot about Kristen…..I wonder why?
I feel bad for her. She has emotional trauma and then put the divorce and stresses of trying to build an empire and you have a train wreck. The drinking is her bandaid.
I used to work in a hospital and make nourishments for rehab. patients. The anorexics were the toughest to treat. I didn’t know till then that eating disorders are a mental illness. Bethenny’s may be in danger of organ failure if she doesn’t get help. She looks very bad. I hope she gets help.
I dont think she is necessarily anorexic and purposely not eating. I think she is stressed out and doesnt eat enough. My sister is like that. She loses when really stressed. My mom and I tend to do the opposite and stress eat.
I remember when Kandi stipulated that Todd needed to be out of the house in 30 days in the prenup. I thought it was harsh until she said her reasoning on WWHL.Bethenney said to her that there was no stipulation for Jason to leave the house in the prenup. She filed for divorce December 2012. Jason refused to take the value of her “Dream” home in a settlement. He wanted the house. Stayed there dragging it out. March 2014, she gave up and moved out. Still not over. He heard she is getting money for housewives and no longer wants to settle. He wants a piece of too. This has been the last two years of her life. People need to cut her some slack.
Wow. If all that is true, Jason has turned out to be a real prick which surprises me somewhat as I always thought he got f’d over a bit by the Bethenny cray cray. Milking the tit for the last drop seems out of character for him somehow, but who knows what drives people to do the things they do and what really happens behind closed doors. Bethenny definitely has gotten the bad edit in all of this, but you know what they say about laying down with dogs.
Rolling on the ground with puppies is fun! Try it some time :D.
LOL. If all that is true is the most important part. It’s once again a Bethenny funded press leak with all the stories.
But then you end with Bethenny getting the bad edit in the press? Maybe here but certainly not in the general sense.
On Fri, Oct 31, 2014 at 4:25 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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I am not a Bethenney funded leak. Ive been posting here for years…i changed my avatar because someone used to say it looked like a swastika.
There is video of Kandi saying on WWHL about the 30 day prenup clause. “When you get divorced it can get dragged out. I was talking to Bethenny recently and she was saying how she hated the fact that – she had a prenup – but they didn’t have any term where he had to get out, so they were still in the same house. That’s why attorney’s try to put those stipulations in. ” I remember Andy chiming in “and he is still there”.
I remember TT reported that there was a “war of the roses” with the standoff for the apartment. TT also reported that B said on the stand that he made her life unbearable and refused to move out. Maybe B was lying but in the end she abandoned the apartment and he is still there. It has been two years and still no settlement. TT reported that he is taking her back to court so Brynn cant film. He had no problem with Brynn being on their previous show. I dont see what I said that made it seem like I am a shill for Bethenney…
Unfortunately, she looks like Karen Carpentar circa 1982.
I’ve always had an issue with her company name. Personally I am someone who cares about being skinny, but I don’t every think that should be the primary focus in regards to health. Attaining ones desired weight should come after focusing on spiritual and psychological health, well balanced diet and exercise. The emphasis of her brand doesn’t seem to be in the right place probably because it reflects the ideology of a woman with backwards priorities