Tamra Judge can finally breathe easier now that her custody battle is almost over. A judge ruled yesterday that there was no evidence to suggest a change is needed to the current custody agreement between Tamra and her former husband Simon. Simon has been alleging that Tamra is a neglectful parent and the children’s basic needs are not being met. The judge did leave the door open for Simon to officially be granted full custody for their oldest daughter , Sidney, age 15. Sidney has lived with Simon since late last year. Sidney has anxiety from issues with schoolmates who taunt her about her mother’s behavior on the show, according to multiple sources. Sidney and Tamra have tried counseling with little success off and on over the last year. The mother and daughter have also had spats on social media. Simon has also allegedly leaked phone calls to the press where the mother and daughter can be heard engaged in conversations. In those calls Sidney would repeatedly say that they should discuss these matters in therapy with a mediator and Tamra would seem to escalate the drama. The judge will decide the permanent custody of Sidney in a hearing set for December.
Tamra sold her feelings on the court case to Star Magazine and gave them the quote below:
“I’m extremely happy!” Tamra told Star after the hearing. “I’m so happy this nightmare is over for my children’s sake. What Simon did to tarnish my image was so damaging to the children. To make up horrible stories about the mother of his children is horrible. I’ve never been anything but a wonderful, hands-on mother to our children. Shame on him for putting everyone through such an emotionally draining experience. I hope that this will stop his constant harassing and make him move on with his life.”
Tamra also thanked her fans and supporters on Twitter. “Thank you to everyone that supported me and knew All his allegations were false. The truth always comes out. I’m so happy! Thank you Jesus.” Did Melissa Gorga ghostwrite that tweet for her?
Are you surprised the judge did not take Simon’s concerns seriously?
yes. there’s often a CYA mentality in the CA court system when it comes to children or the elderly, regardless of the truth. hope the judge’s opinion was a fair one, that’s all.
She’s so full of herself! She engaged in slugging it out in the press just as much if not more than her ex! She’s not setting a good example as a woman the camera doesn’t lie! Will she ever get what we call some class? Focus on becoming a better person Tamballs how bout that!
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On Fri, Oct 10, 2014 at 6:12 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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Not really. It take a LOT for a mom to lose custody. I also don’t know what was said in court, like maybe the judge addressed those issues. Perhaps he told her that she has to promise to stay more on top of the things that Simon complained about, etc., but that as long as she does that there is no other basis to justify removing her children from her or something like that? Maybe they really were all just bs. I don’t know, but no, I’m not surprised.
For a modification of custody in California the changes in circumstances must be significant and urgent. Being an asshole on a reality TV show really isn’t a change of circumstances for Tamra. She pretty much was one to Simon and everyone else before the entered into the joint custody agreement.
I will say Tamra’s statements to “The Star” are not designed to foster a relationship of cooperation between she and Simon. I would never describe her as a wonderful mother but that is just me. Basically, all Simon accused her of is not having the kids cleaned to his standards, providing medical care (son’s broken thumb) and getting the kids to school late. None of these are earth shattering.
I would think Tamra, being the wonderful mother she claims to be would downplay this and focus on mending her relationship with Sidney. There was no nightmare for these children unless she created it. Responsible parents keep their children out of the court process with the exception if meeting with the independent mediator. Crying and carrying serves no purpose.
Agreed. Unless your on crack, they wont take away custody from a mother. Also, the judge may not have wanted publicity or to incur the wrath of Tamra’s fans. Simon may be a jerk but I believe his allegations. Broken thumb…ouch!
I think Tamra has been stretched thin from Cut fitness and I think it says a lot that Sidney doesnt want to see her. The texts that were released of them arguing between her and Sidney appear to be from two teenage girls. Tamra is very immature…
that is not true. i have seen lots of cases rubber stamped here in CA. social workers are often controlling and unfair. i personally know a young mother who lost custody because she ran out of money fighting her wealthy ex’s constant allegations ($300,000 bill by the end).
I so agree with you Chris. There’s some bad kinda crap going on with judges against moms for the wrong reasons.
Tamra should get the F*ck off TV for her daughters sake. But since Bravo is her main source income she can’t quit. She could act like an sane adult next season and she should stop talking about her problems with Simon when filming.
Simon is a. Creep too.
I could not agree with you any more! Simon is a creep, he was very inflexible and anal with Tamra’s son Ryan (even though Ryan clearly needed discipline). He and Tamra did a terrible job with Ryan. However, Tamra clearly isn’t the best of parents either.
I hope she has no debt and is hoarding and investing her cash well, because if she’s not she may end up in a cardboard box seeing as how she ruins every friendship or relationship she’s in. Not that he’s a prize or anything, but I don’t know what Eddie saw in her or still sees. Perhaps being on the show is another paycheck for him? Hope it’s worth it.
I think they are probably both horrible parents.
Haha
Divorced parents have no business vilifying each other. My parents divorced and never said a bad word about each other to my brother and me. Quit the twitter feuds with your daughter, Tamra. She’s a teenager you are 40+. Simon may be your worst enemy/ biggest jerk in the world, but at one time you loved him enough to have kids with him. Try to remember that. Try to keep a united front with the kids. You both will be in the same family for the rest of your lives. Don’t bad mouth the new girlfriend. It will always come back and bite you in the butt.
NEVER, NEVER, NEVER TALK ABOUT YOUR KINKY SEX LIFE ON TV.
i don’t see simon on twitter bashing his ex. but i thought he was a controlling man on the show and he about killed tamra’s spirit (i am NOT a fan of hers, by the way). i’m sure there’s a little truth to both sides and it is HORRIFIC that the kids are caught in the middle. hope they move on and try to do right. sidney is doing what she needs to do right now and hopefully she’ll have a better relationship with her mom with time.
Very well said fivecats. My parents were married until the day mama died , so I don’t know what that feels like. But, my husband had a 6yr old son. He had full custody of him. We made it a point to NEVER speak bad of her, ever. He is a grown man now.. And we still say nothing.
I feel like if you talk about the other parent, the child takes that In as criticism about him. Cause a child is two halves, one half mama and one half daddy. You are setting your child to fail, have low self esteem, the list could go on.
These two need to just ZIP IT.
It’s bad enough to argue with your teenage daughter while acting like a child yourself, but to do it on twitter for the world to see is absolutely appalling.
“NEVER, NEVER, NEVER TALK ABOUT YOUR KINKY SEX LIFE ON TV.”
Love it.
Very well said. I lived by that rule with my son. You have to because it is what is best for the child. There are no winners. Tamra & Simon have no business airing this out on social media. Her children have to be embarrassed by her TV antics. I’m not surprised by the ruling at all. I am no Tamra fan at all. I think she can be very hateful. There are 2 sides to every story & somewhere in between is the truth. I hope these children will be ok & Tamra & Simon should keep themselves from discussing anything related to it off of social media.
Eve, I agree. The Judge probably said, “between the two of you, I choose the lesser of the two evils.” (LOL)
I think I am on overload with these flipping RH always telling me what amazing, wonderful mothers they are and how their children are their lives when in the real world they seem stupid, vapid and incredibly self-centered. Teresa has pretty well put in OD mode on the subject. Tamra is just
As to Simon from appearances he seems to put his children’s best interests at heart. I agree with Josie, after reading Tamra’s back and forth with her daughter and how her daughter needs to buck it up regarding the divorce Tamra acts like a teenager. The problem with walking out on your husband and children and taking up with another guy and then end up supporting him, all for the viewing pleasure of the world has got to be tough.
I think that BOTH Simon and Tamara are immature! My opinion is that Tamara publicly humiliated Simon and he will never let it go. I think he has used his children as pawns. I don’t think she has done anything significant regarding the children’s care that merits a change in the custody agreement.
Mothers and teenage daughters often have disputes especially when divorce is in the picture. I wish Tamara and Sidney well in their relationship. I also hope that Simon stays out of it.
Not that it excuses her arguments with her daughter, but sometimes out of hurt and anger dumb things are said. I had some mother/daughter spats that now make me cringe!
I think we could judge Tamara for a lot of things, but I don’t think she should be judged too harshly over that.
I don’t have kids, but I am a child of a mother (hehe) and when I was a teenager she said a lot of outrageous things to me. But I was an annoying brat. I agree it’s difficult to judge, and I love my mom.
You hit the nail on the head. Thank you for saying it better than I could have 🙂
Those poor kids there is enough pressure on kids these days without there parents publicly embarrassing themselves going at each other . Unfortunately for those kids neither of their parents are what most folks would consider a stable nurturing environment. These “adlults” are way to self absorbed.
I have always thought Simon wanted custody so he could get child support from Tamra. She’s probably earning more than he is, at this point.
Simon waived child support at the time of the divorce and didn’t ask for any at the modification hearing. In California-even with joint custody a parent with the higher income can be ordered to pay support.
With all the crap Tamra has done and said on national tv I would never expect her to win a Mother of the Year Award. However, Simon trying to gain full custody of all the children is his attempt to continue to maintain his freakish control over her, get child support and look like the good parent. I call it the Disneyland Dad Syndrome. What teenage kid isn’t going to want to live with their father with easier rules than with a mother who might, notice I said might have some rules. Not saying this is what happened, but Tamra’s life with RHOOC, Cut Fitness, 2 other children and a fairly new husband has to be pretty hectic. Simon says he changed jobs just to spend more time with his children even though he earns less. Hmm sounds a little suspect to me. He always came off as an alpha male not the domesticated father figure he’s trying to portray now. I think neither of them are the best parents these kids could have. They have split custody. They should be happy with it and stop putting these kids through their stupid battle.
God, I’m so glad the Judge took Sidney’s concerns into consideration rather than just lumping all the kids together. If she wants to be with her dad, no harm there. Like him or not, we saw how Ryan ended up dealing with Tamra: basically rolling his eyes and treating her like the pathetic, immature 40-something year old middle schooler she is. Like he’s accepted that’s his mom, he can love her from a distance, but she doesn’t define him and he is not gonna get sucked in. Hopefully Sidney will be able to take that same approach as she gets older and more confident and independent.
At this point and time, I think Sidney should be able to have a say about which parent she wants to live with. I can’t imagine anyone not understanding why she might not care to live with her mom right now. I think Tamra would serve herself better in the long run, if she would let Sidney have her space. Tamra may be able to force Sidney into her life, but she can’t force Sidney into her heart. That’s not gonna happen. I hope the judge rules that Sidney can live with her dad if that’s her choice.
“… Are you surprised the judge did not take Simon’s concerns seriously?”
I am somewhat surprised that Simon was not taken seriously. After all, Tamra has proven herself a very difficult person to believe, and for that matter, she subsequently is a challenge to like, considering her mean-spirited temper and her demonstrated reflexive willingness to lie (to Shannon and Heather after she assured both that she was a loyal and truthful advocate).