I am not happy that I haven’t had time alone with Tamra. Her bike ride ran long and she was even late for the Balinese dancers. I did my best to initiate a conversation one-on-one with her at the dinner table, but, of course, that didn’t work. Tamra was upset that Lizzie told me things that were said behind my back and questions why Lizzie told me. Tamra never denies saying any of those cruel statements. She doesn’t apologize for them. And I never got an explanation before she stormed away from the table. Clearly I never will. Time to move on and know that Tamra is not my friend. Friends don’t talk behind each other’s backs like that.
It is interesting that I have had some fun moments with Heather on this Bali trip. I thought it would be a nice gesture to pull Heather aside on our last night to thank her for including me on the trip. Heather also extended an olive branch by apologizing for talking about my email to her group of friends. Maybe the tides will turn. . .
I feel like Tamra does a lot of projection from her own life. I read her blog from last week and I must say, what an ugly essay. How dare she say anything about my family or me as a mother? How dare she say I was drunk when I was absolutely not at the Valentine’s party. She was EXTREMELY RUDE to me after the game and visibly bent out of shape over the game. I called her out on the game because that was why she was being so rude. In no way does it give her any merit to say or do any of the things that she has done to me. It’s character defamation. In my experience when people reach at those things about other individuals it says so much more about them. I’m trash, vile, self absorbed, foul, nasty and now I’m a bad mom, family doesn’t mean much to me? WOW! Is she talking about herself or me? What’s next is she going to write my cell phone number on the bathroom wall? Oh, wait she did that, too. I don’t even have to say anything about Tamra Judge. The way she acts and the things that come out of her mouth speak volumes about her character and integrity.
Tamra was in fact the one that drank a lot at the Valentine’s party and she told Danielle the very next day that she didn’t even remember what happened because she drank so much. At the Valentine’s party, I made a point to not drink. The party was on the tail of my birthday party, in which there was quite a bit of drinking, and it didn’t end well. I had maybe a drink and a half and spent the entire night drinking water. Heather had special signature Valentine shots and I passed on those as well. I was NOT drunk in the least. I explained the ‘Shag, Marry, Kill’ game in great detail in my last blog. I am going to say it again and then stop defending myself. The truth is the truth. I pointed out to her, after she basically told me she screwed me over on my birthday on purpose, that she was just mad because her husband wanted to ‘marry’ me. She knows that I said that, too. She got up and repeated it at the door. Every time I try to continue to that part of the story where she REPEATED “marry you?” she gets louder and louder and I am not able to even speak.
I am not proud of calling Tamra “crap” or “insecure.” I just couldn’t help myself. She even attacked my marriage and said “Everyone knows you have a horrible marriage!” I’m sorry, why this woman has any room to speak about anyone’s marriage or parenting is beyond me. That was the last straw for me.
For the life of me I have no idea why Lizzie has such a problem with me. I was always so nice to her. One thing that comes to mind is maybe she is used to being the center of attention? So, when things don’t go her way she tries to destroy me and even threatens to destroy her own marriage. She can not handle NOT being the princess of O.C., and she will fight for the RHOC crown. Good luck girl I am not giving that up without a fight.
The bottom line is Vicki is my friend and what she allowed to happen in Bali is sick! I would have never allow that to happen to her. I would have pulled her aside and talked to her first, because that’s what friends do. When Lizzie told me that Vicki threw me under the bus for not going to her party, I kept quiet and called Vicki on the way home from the party. I did not bash her or believe what Lizzie told me. I guess our friendship meant more to me.
Tamra saying that I wanted to her to “go down” isn’t the truth. I’m tired of her causing problems and never being called out on it because of people fearing her backlash. Every season and every year, she has gone after someone. I don’t know if that’s for the show or if it’s really how she is. I cherish my girlfriends and their trust, and there is NO way I ever had any desire to see her “go down” or be hurt this year. What I do know is that Tamra is known to stir trouble with someone every year — and I for one am tired of it. I really didn’t have much compassion for her after hearing what she had been saying about everyone.
Bottom line is the hurting one another and talking behind everyone’s back has to stop. I’m over it, and it’s hurtful. I have come to be very good friends with Shannon and she’s a great wife, friend, and mother. I was proud of Lizzie to stand up for herself to Tamra and have really come to like her as well.
Heather was in a tough spot that evening and I am proud of how she handled herself as well. I think Heather has gotten some unnecessary “heat” this year — and I for one am sorry for being any part of any hurt I caused to her.
This reunion is going to be epic!