All of the RHONJ blogs are up except for Amber’s and Nicole’s and theirs will probably warrant their own blog. Most everyone agrees that Jim is an idiot but a few of the RHONJ are trying to give Amber the benefit of the doubt. For me the strangest blog is Dina’s. I’m going to need lots of feedback that. In fact I may need an entire interpretation. I can’t be sure about who she is talking about.
I did feel sorry for Amber because she was just in a physical fight and what her husband was saying wasn’t her fault. But I wanted to hear the rumors about what Jim said directly from him. So I asked him. And he lied. Right to my face. That is not what an honorable man does. Dina and I were giving him the benefit of a doubt, trying to be nice to him, and he got even madder and uglier with us. You don’t need to speak to women like that, you don’t need to speak to anyone like that.
Then we got to hear Jim’s little lawyer speech. There are no words. What professional talks like that? I know Amber tries to defend him saying he was protecting her and got dragged into all this, but that amazingness was all said in an interview with him, apart from the fight. No one tricked or forced him into saying those awful things. That was all him.
As I said though, I don’t blame Amber for her husband. Amber has always been very nice and gracious to me. I try and see people for who they are, not who they’re married to. Although her taste in facials does leave a lot to be desired! Bird poop, are you freaking kidding me?
This is how I feel when it comes to Amber. I feel like she came back into my life with so many negative things to say about me and negative feelings. I don’t buy that she just wanted to rekindle our friendship and make me “her friend of the year.” I don’t see her trying to be my friend at all.
Amber wants to act as if I’m not loyal? Well, where is her loyalty to me? Was she being loyal when she came right off the bat saying that I married my husband for money? Is she being loyal when she came on accusing me of being a horrible friend, after not seeing me for close to ten years and accusing me of not being there for her when she had cancer? No, I don’t see that as a friend trying to rekindle a friendship at all. I see it as an old friend coming around to try to throw me under the bus. And there is A LOT you didn’t get to see, so no, I don’t believe Amber has nothing but good intentions.
Amber has also been ranting in her blogs and on Twitter, trying to remind everyone how our family had so many problems and that MUST make me a bad person and somehow prove that she and her husband are justified in their actions. Amber, do me a favor and stay out of my family business. It has nothing to do with you and you don’t know the true details. You were a guest at my wedding ten years ago and never even met my children. So the ONLY things you know about what has been happening in MY life is by watching our show as a fan for the past three seasons.
As far as Amber, Dina, and Teresa going to the spa together right after that all happened… I’m a little confused as to what I saw there too. Amber apologized for her husband right away to Dina and Teresa. But I guess I don’t deserve one? Amber was also so “emotional” and “teary-eyed” when she was explaining to the girls how “hurt” she was that I betrayed her. But when I went to talk to her about everything over lunch, she was acting very pompous, very rude, and was looking to argue. So which is it? Was she just trying to get sympathy from the girls? What are her true feelings? She flips around so much it’s hard to believe anything is real. I feel like I keep meeting her for drinks, for lunches, keep trying to move on with her and she just doesn’t stop. So I needed to let her know that I’m not sure what her agenda is and that I do not trust her.
Now let’s talk about the first responders fall out and what I said to Amber’s husband Jim. At this point in our relationship there was so much sexual talk between us girls that you didn’t get to see. You know chicks get together, open a bottle of wine, and the giggles begin. Amber had shared some of her hysterical stories of shall I say…taking over in the bedroom with us, and I would tease her endlessly.
So calling Jim a bitch and telling Amber to shove it up his ass was COMPLETELY inappropriate but actually more of a joke, because I knew Jim didn’t like it when I teased Amber about their bedroom life. It just went along with what I know would annoy Jim, but it was wrong and I’m sorry. And guess what? If he does, more power to him — a healthy sex life is all about keeping it interesting.
What I said about Melissa pertained to what was going on in this situation. Amber had made it CLEAR to us that Melissa had no remorse for her part in the fight. Other than that, I really don’t know much more about Melissa than what you the viewer have seen. Like I said a million times, she’s always come to my Ladybug events, so for that I like her. What went on between her and Teresa is not my business to discuss. It was brought to my attention that she dropped the bomb and walked away, and I agreed. You will see how things turn out between me and Melissa. But the bright side is it opened the door for Teresa to suggest that she and Amber work through it like they have. We shall see where that goes!
Lastly I want to talk about all the betrayal going on this week. I have to say I do admire TerEsa’s loyalty to her sister Nicole, and it was so refreshing to see Joey Gorga stick up for Joe Giudice. That is how I believe things should be with family and long term friends. I am a FREAK about loyalty and I am loyal as a freakin’ dog until you are not to me. Then guess what? I don’t go out for revenge, I simply cut you out of my life as if you died. I am BAFFLED when I see people put their loyalty where it doesn’t belong. I don’t always agree with what my friends and family do, but I WILL ALWAYS have their backs. That is unless I’ve had a funeral in my head for you because you didn’t have mine.
So Dina has funerals in her head for family members? Really?
As for Melissa giving Nicole a head’s up on the rumor that Amberzilla is spreading… That is not called betrayal, that is called being a girls’ girl and having Nicole’s back. Amber must stop insulting the intelligence of everyone watching, because it is obvious to everyone that she is one BIG habitual liar, and she is constantly back peddling. Also thank you, Melissa, for reiterating what took place that night at the first responders party about how Amber did grab Nicole’s arm first while having dinner with Amber. Amberzilla was the aggressor and Nicole was defending herself — the truth always comes out!