Things in the divorce between Sherri Shepherd and Lamar Sally continue to get worse by the minute. Back in May, when I first reported on their divorce, Sherri’s camp seemed to indicate that Sal was not working and had not worked for the entire marriage and Sherri was on him to get a damn job. At that time I found it odd that Sal was the one who had left their NJ home and gone back to L.A. to file for divorce. He also filed for custody of an unborn child we found out about that the couple was having through a surrogate.
Then a week later, it hit the Internet that her first husband, Jeffery Tarpley, had gone to court asking for an emergency modification of his custody agreement regarding his son, before Sal had filed his case. The judge did not grant an emergency hearing but instead set one to happen sometime this month. Tarpley said that Sherri was working too much, and leaving Jeffery with unqualified nannies and it was affecting his developmental skills. Also, it was interfering with his ability to see his son.
Now TMZ is reporting even more shocking allegations from all sides. You may need a drink for this. As you recall, Sherri had a difficult pregnancy with Jeffery and he was born premature which caused him to have some congenital issues regarding his development. So, “they” decided to use a surrogate. 
But, TMZ’s sources say that Sal’s sperm was used by Sherri’s egg was not. Sherri is claiming fraud now. She says that Sal fraudulently forced her into signing the agreement with the full intention of taking the baby and asking for huge child support payments. She claims it was never his attention to raise the baby with her, but to use the baby for a meal ticket more or less. Sherri wants a judge to rule that based on fraud she has no parental rights. She wants nothing to do with the surrogate baby or Sal. Let him get a job and raise the baby.
Sal of course denies all of that. However, it is very odd that Sal decided to file for separation in California where they are all very 50/50 with everything including embryos. As well as liberal with the child support. But Sal and Sherri have never lived together in that state! I can’t imagine California having the authority for this divorce. It takes six months of California residency for Sal to be able to formally file for divorce there. Meanwhile, Sherri filed in NJ where they couple lived. NJ is much more likely to grant her request to be found to have no parental rights than California. According to TMZ NJ “does not recognize surrogacy agreements” whatever that means. Surrogacy agreements are legal and binding contracts. So I am not sure what TMZ means by that. I do agree that it’s best for Sherri for the divorce to happen in NJ.
There two exes suing for custody at the same time is more enough heartache for Sherri. But when it rains it pours, because just a week or so ago Sherri (and Jenny McCarthy who just relocated to NYC with her son) were both told they would not be back on The View next season leaving only Whoopi Goldberg with a seat at the table. At least, that is what we assumed. So you think Sherri may have quit so she can claim no income during the divorce? Would that be wise?
All I know for sure is that this is a big ole mess and an unborn baby is getting tossed about like a football already. The baby is due within the next couple of weeks so Sherri needs to get a ruling ASAP.
Wow.
I feel for the unborn baby. While Sal’s actions are VERY suspect….I thought Sherri wanted more children. I thought she said that even before she met Sal and was married. NJ should definite preside over the divorce hearing, but I don’t think that Sherri should deny claim to the baby. This baby is innocent and caught in the crossfire before he/she is even here. That just breaks my heart.
sso glad those two airheads will not be on the View. Sherri needs to stop marring men just because she is lonly.
Word!
Sherri really picked two losers!
It would certainly seem so. 🙁
On Sat, Jul 5, 2014 at 6:47 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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This is Byzantine in complexity. First, the baby. The baby needs rescuing. Sal needs tying in legal knots and made pay punitive damages for cynical attempted leverage. Sherri needs all emotional, moral and practical support possible. Nicolo Machiavelli would be shocked at this manoeuvre.
Actually your right. But Sherry knew that they used another womans egg but then when the guy decides to leave her she thinks that he did it to get leverage (which I have to agree somewhat) and what nothing to do with the child. What gets me in a not is the fact how quickly she disregarded that child because of the man number one and two why have this idiot living under your roof for years without a job Sherri. She thought she could control him and it didn’t work.
Unless of course he just knocked up so,done else and she initially agreed to raise the baby as hers. Do I sound insane? Is that a huge leap?
I would love to see the view be watchable again. But with whoopi and without Barbara, I don’t see that as a possibility. So,sad — there is nothing to look forward to on sick days. Kelly without Regis and with that gapped toothed retard is insufferable. They got rid of my two soaps. They convoluted GH so bad it’s unwatchable too. Ellen is about the only show I can tolerate. Law and order reruns and whatever old show are on METv are it for me. I hope Sherri shep hard falls off the face of the earth.
Knocked up SOMEONE else.
That thought crossed my mind too..things that make you go hmmmmm. Why was Whoopie the only one spared on the View? She’s unwatchable.
I like Whoopi sometimes but I pretty much hate her on the view. She sits there like she is being forced to eat spinach the whole time. You can tell she HATES her job and finds it all totally ridiculous. That makes her unwatchable much moreso than her constant references to being high, he actually being baked most days, and her ridiculous political stance.
On Sat, Jul 5, 2014 at 7:19 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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That won’t happen Sherri’s world is flat, remember?
On Sat, Jul 5, 2014 at 6:55 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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Actually it’s easier that way, isn’t it?
Don’t forget that dumb comment about dinosaurs and the Bible. That comes to mind, every time her name is mentioned. lol
agreed on wh’s spinach face look. Whoopi’s own mom even called her out and told her ‘fix your face you look uninterested!’
whoopi gave an interview when she first joined in 2007 and was honest. She took the job bc she needed the $. She isnt there bc she wants to bring social issues to light, she needs the $!
Oh my God, I knew there was a reason I don’t watch The View!
The View is MUCH more watchable without Barbara. She has zero tolerance for others not seeing her view as the ONLY view. IMO, Michael Strahan is awesome with Kelly too.
Well you’re stupid.
TeeCee- As are you.
“Kelly without Regis and with that gapped toothed retard is insufferable.”
LMAO! @ this
@lilk
Yeah Whoopi DID need the money I remember watching the show where they where talking about some survivor show (with Lou Diamond Philips, Steven Baldwin & a bunch of other has-beens) and she made comment on how some actors careers just “dry up” and she is lucky she got the call from Barbra for a job on The View.
I feel bad for Sherri, thoughts of her predicament will stay with me.
Soooo, should she have to pay support for a baby that is biologically connected to ONLY her ex and one she never bonded with as a mother during inception or after birth? Do couples who seek adoption and then split before adoption is finalized owe the surrogate to take custody or otherwise support the child? This is an unfortunate turn of events for everyone involved. I am sure there will be a long line of people who will step in to adopt a newborn. Maybe Angelina and Brad have a vacant nursery that is waiting for a new occupant.
I’m not sure they will let 2 single people adopt a child. If they were going through an adoption process, she would just refuse to adopt the child and the other parent could possibly continue as a single parent.
have to guess this kind of situation is covered in the surrogacy agreement. poor baby. the other two are grownass people who need to realize the baby matters most.
Yeah! I’m neither here nor there on Sherri, but GROW UP to both! And from the info provided, what’s worse? Having to make child support payments or abandoning a child she OBVIOUSLY knew enough about to have a responsibility and say in all this surrogate stuff.
According to Sherri’s own statement on The View, she “had many abortions”, I don’t think she is very maternal or intelligent. She brings up single mothers or mothers in general in almost every topic, whether it has any point to the conversation or not. She makes it sound like she thinks that gives a person more value and leeway, therefore, childless women have less! She projects as if her kid is all for attention about her, she also never misses a chance to say he is “special needs”. She has quoted him as saying that about himself. I am sure she loves the one she has, but in general, she is manipulative about all aspects of the subject and I am doubtful she does make all the best choices for her son. I think she is probably the better parent, unless his father is not in it only for child support. I am glad she is coming clean about not wanting the 2nd one, would she even have ever loved it? I hope Sal gets his kid and also he needs to man up and 100% support it himself.
“Many abortions”? Oh shes one of those huh? Meaning we all KNOW or at least HEARD about a chick that has had 5-8 abortions *smh* Yeah this just add to the list of f*cked up things about Sherri
You are annoying as fuck. Seriously. Where did you come from and can you go back? Thanks.
If Sherri claims she is not the mother and Sal is the dad, it may be possible that she can get her rights terminated. I wonder if Sherri knew all along that they did not use her eggs. If Sal really wanted this baby, he will have no problem taking care of it and having sole custody. Otherwise, they should put the child up for adoption. It’s sad if that is the only reason he married Sherri.
Um I’m pretty sure Sherri knows that she didn’t donate the eggs….
On Sat, Jul 5, 2014 at 7:25 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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Oh, I thought maybe she had previously fozen eggs. Their divorce will be real messy! The things people will do to get free money.
Yeah, I’d bet my “vast fortune” (ha ha) that Sherri was totally involved in the surrogacy agreement. She’s not getting this sprung on her.
Of course she was involved in the surrogacy agreement. She was under the impression that Sal wanted to have a baby with her. What she did not realize is that he apparently married her, just to get a baby, chose not to use her frozen eggs, so he could get primary custody and she would have to pay him support.
He fraudulently represented that he was in the marriage for the long haul. Then as soon as the baby was viable, he took off.
On Wed, Jul 9, 2014 at 4:10 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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I wish Sherri well in her life after the View. I always cringed at most of the stuff she said on the program. She is annoying to me and has no talent but she’s a lucky biotch. LOL.
I kinda disagree. She is a moron. But she is a really good character actor. She was on Almost Perfect (was that the name? With Sarah Rue and Eric Roberts and Andy Dick? I loved that show) and Everybody Loves Raymond and lots other shows. She’s very funny and competent with the right direction.
Oops. less Than Perfect.
She played Tracy Jordan’s crazy wife on 30 Rock. Hilarious IMO.
I think that if Sherri is telling the truth, and her husband only went into this surrogacy because he knew he was going to divorce her, and it’s a pure money grab, that would be so evil. This poor kid. He’s doomed with these two. The surrogate has made a huge commitment and has to be worried about who’s going to raise this child.
If Sherry is not telling the truth and the father honestly wants this child than let Sherry out. His sperm, not her egg. She obviously does not want this baby.
I wonder what Sherri has on her husband (besides him filing in CA), proving that he committed fraud. How does one go about “forcing” another to fraudulently sign a surrogacy agreement, which is what she’s alleging. She’s getting dumped on a lot right now. Unemployed with both her husband and ex husband suing her, all with a surrogate baby that was allegedly forced upon her. You can’t make this shit up. Well you can but who would believe you?
@pkati I agree! The mess that come out of her mouth is ridiculous. It’s because of her & Elizabeth I stopped watching the show a LONG time ago.
This is a hard one yet this ruling will be a historical decision for surrogate contracts made between couples. I believe the California court system will yield to the state of New Jersey. This is where all agreements took place and where Sherri still resides.
Because Sherri’s husband initiated the separation and his sperm along with the surrogate’s egg produced this unborn, then the court’s might see it like this: The baby is not the biological child of Sherri’s and the responsibility of parenthood rest solely on the shoulders of her husband who is the biological parent. I am looking forward to seeing how the court rules and which state takes on the case. My bet is that New Jersey will preside over this divorce case.
Honestly, Sherri has always struck me as too dumb to be alone without supervision. I stopped watching the view about the time she became engaged to Sal. The show became unwatchable before that, but I kept trying.
She always sounded so desperate to get married, I thought she was ripe for the picking by an opportunist. Looks like that’s what happened.
This is very unfortunate for Sherri, but if she was part of the surrogate agreement, then she is partially responsible for the child and should be, unless Sal agrees to let her off the hook (unless she was lead to believe her eggs would be used).
I have always disliked the way she portrays her son on the show and question whether she always does what is best although I do not question her intentions. She is likely to continue making poor decisions.
Both E! News and Entertainment Tonight reported that Sherri was asked to return next season, but negotiations on the contract failed. If that’s true then Sherri may have done that purposely. But then again, perhaps they were proposing a huge pay cut to which she could not agree, but you’d think if she wanted the job or needed the money she’d agree. Personally, I think getting rid of her would have have the best idea, and tend to think E! News and ET got it wrong. The show needs a total overhaul if there is a chance of it continuing.
Negotiations failed because she wanted more money, according to reports.
there are all sorts of stories out there. I tend to think she was fired along with Jenny.
On Mon, Jul 7, 2014 at 3:53 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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I am SO glad I am not married, and have no children. Maybe that’s being selfish, but I don’t care.
What a mess.
It’s not being selfish, you’re just telling the truth.
(Setting up my soapbox) I think we need to teach our daughters that marriage and children are not mandatory so they don’t see this as being selfish. If it’s not something they want they shouldn’t feel guilty or less of a person. (Putting my soapbox away.)
Cat, I’m sure you’re perfect just the way you are. Selfish, you are not.
Totally agree! Girls/women need to be happy and confident with themselves first instead of believing marriage will make them happy and complete. This is why I like Sue on Life Below Zero on the National Geographic channel. .
FOR REAL! Even without children and marriage, so many women can’t be alone, so they get together with the first guy who comes along and shows interest. I see it in my friends and SO badly in my sister over and over again! At least hold out for a good guy–they do exist!
You are not selfish at all and should never feel guilty about your choice. I have so much respect for people who freely admit that parenthood is just not their thing instead of doing what they feel is expected by society and/or family and having kids that they really do not want.
Yeah. Makes a lot of sense. You know, I had trouble with my AC. So maybe I shouldn’t have a house. I know people who have had asthma. So I’m going to stop breathing. One time someone’s flight was delayed. I’m glad I never fly. I’m going to completely disregard the fact that having a home is a great comfort, breathing is a necessity and flying has taken me to the most increadible places.
Some people are just not cut out for parenthood. I am one of those people. Why bring children into the world if you know you can’t handle the responsibility? The way I look at things, having kids just because society says you need to IS selfish. If I had kids, I probably would have abused them. I decided to break the generational curse. I have no regrets.
My son and daughter in law simply don’t want to have children. They get so much pressure from her parents. It’s driving a wedge between them. I have two and they were very planned. They are good kids, but every day I worry. If you don’t want to have kids, whatever your reason, it’s your body. There shouldn’t be so much pressure IMO.
Historically, if a married women got pregnant by a man not her husband, and the child was born while they were still married, the husband is the legal parent. Is this child is born before they divorce, I’d think the same precedent applies. Two married persons are the legal parents of any ensuing offspring born to the woman (or the woman’s surrogate.)
How this has changed now that there is DNA testing, I have no idea.
That is why Kim K. was so eager to finalize her divorce. She was knocked up and her legal husband would have been listed as the parent on the birth certificate. Maybe this latest marriage will last longer than 72 days.
Yep. That’s the legal technicality that Michael Jackson depended on concerning his kids with Debbie Rowe. Not sure if it works the other way ’round, though.
Most of the husbands did not have clue until years later or before the divorce. Most of the men had raised those children. It make sense that they would be legally responible. In addition, their name is on the birth certificate.
Wow, this is a sad story. It could set new legal precedent regarding surrogate pregnancy using donor eggs/sperm, the surrogate parent’s rights to retain the child, the biological parental rights to the unborn child, the adoptive parent’s right to annul or rescind their legal ties to a child, and the rights/protection of the unborn child. I believe that NJ will decide this divorce case, but the sticky issue is the rights to/of the child. I would not be surprised if the state of NJ interceded on behalf of the baby and appointed a social worker or some other court representative to act in the child’s best interest. Sal may have decided to file for divorce and custody of the child in California because that is where the child was actually conceived or that is where the surrogacy agreement was drawn up. He may therefore believe as the biological father, he has more leverage with the court than Sherrie has because she is not the child’s biological mother. He was probably aware that the ex-husband intended to sue for sole custody of Jeffrey, and he saw that as his opportunity to dump Sherrie and stack the deck to make her look bad in order to break the pre-nuptial agreement and surrogacy agreement. Sal assumed Sherrie would fight for custody, and he would get child support from her, but she dropped a bomb on everyone by denying any interest in the child. None of us saw that coming, and it is a very shrewd move that may kept her from having to pay any child support, and force Sal to comply with the original pre-nup. No matter what, this is a crummy situation, and there are no winners. Good luck to the innocent baby who needs all of our prayers.
Yeah, this is so much more complicated than just a contract dispute. I hate that I’m so interested in all of this private shit. In my defense I don’t care about what happens to the Kardashians or Bieber so there’s that. Unfortunately, Phaedra, Sherrie and Kendra’s private lives are all the rage for me. I decided I couldn’t get invested in BB. I would be watching non stop if anyone of them became my new Entertainment of choice. I couldn’t risk it, but I feel a little left out.
I agree. Taking two weeks off the internet did wonders for me. I haven’t watched BB, and might, just out of curiosity. But I don’t want to get hooked on it. I have other things to do.
OFF TOPIC: I wondered where you were. Welcome back. Sometimes I need to just unplug too. I had a PET scan and was scared to death waiting for the results. My cancer seems to be behaving itself. No activity thank goodness. I am a worrywart so I thought I was going to have chemo and radiation again or worse. We are in celebration mode. How are things going with you? Are you hanging in there?
So glad to hear that, Valerie! I was sort of afraid to ask,…. #HappyDance!
On Sun, Jul 6, 2014 at 5:05 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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Me too. I had me dead and buried. Happy dancing with you!
Now go back to your happy place and keep us updated. I read all of them and enjoy my ass off. Haven’t watched a minute of it, but very entertaining reading your blogs about the goings on in the BB house.
I’m doing well, thanks. I ran out of money, and couldn’t pay my internet bill. I had to go a whole month with what little I had left. If I had gone back to work, and couldn’t handle it, I would have to wait the 5 month waiting period all over again. So I buckled down, and within a few weeks, I got an answer. My disability was approved, so I don’t have to go back to work. They said I was at risk for Lymphedema, and the job I had may trigger it. So I’m happy about that. Starting a new life….It’s time I concentrate on my artwork, and finish my book. I just can’t waste this opportunity.
I also need to go back in for another biopsy…While I was in chemo, I had a pap smear and ultrasound, and they said they found a polyp in my cervix. I couldn’t do the biopsy then, because they said the chemo drugs would skew the results. I’m not really worried about it, though. Once I went through chemo, I stopped spotting. But I’ll do the biopsy anyway, just in case.
Thanks for asking! I’m glad you are doing well!
Good for you getting back to your art and book. I know art can be a very healing activity. I don’t have an artistic bone in my body so I’m always impressed with people that are artistic. I hope everything is looking up for you now. Good to have you back.
Wow – so glad to have found this exchange, I almost posted “where are you Cat” the other day. Really glad to hear how you’re both doing.
You are all so sweet! I really appreciate it! Thank you!
Thanks spk.
I have been worried sick about you! I am so glad that the MRI said you were fine!
Thanks for worrying about me. Very relieved.
Lol..I was just about to remind everyone that the world is flat.
That poor baby. I hope it’s fate isn’t sealed.
I’m sure there are couples praying to love and raise a child with morals and good sense…unlike those two fools fighting for custody/ non custody.
If Shepherd’s allegations are true, what does this do to her faith? How and why did her god(s) allow her to go enter holy matrimony that would lead to the public rejection of a child? If this fiasco was a spiritual lesson that money is NOT the most important thing in the world, it has failed – at the expense of a child.
Crummy situation all around, but please remember – The View is not Sherri’s only income. She also hosts The New Newlywed Game. Is that show not filmed in Cali?
@Toi~ It may be filmed there, but the court will look at where she is a legal resident. Shows like that are usually filmed several episodes at a time.They will look at where her primary residence is and that would be NJ.
Oh yeah, I forgot about that. I wonder what the going salary is for game show host.
The unborn child has no idea this happening so I can’t with the prayers and concerns “poor baby” There are thousands of couples out here desperately wanting to adopt a newborn so the child will be fine. Those folks are scouring the internet for clues as to how to contact the surrogate. If Sal is a real jackass opportunist he will give up parental rights to the highest bidder and split it with the surrogate using some kind of legal maneuver. Sal and Sherri are both morons. The poor surrogate walked into a firestorm of BS thinking she was helping a loving couple with infertility. Plus Sherri is a “celebrity”. The surrogate is sitting somewhere SHH but she will have a good payday.
In NV, it is illegal for a surrogate to make money. They can get paid for certain things, but the law is very specific that you can only get paid for certain expenses. Otherwise it’s like your purchasing a baby. I know people purchase babies all the time, but you’re not suppose to.
Sounds like a legal chess match to me. I hate the “win at all cost” attitude that lawyers have in divorces. There’s all this animosity at the end, then the parents are supposed to act like mature adults and work together for the sake of the child. I feel for Sherri’s son and Bethany Frankel’s daughter.
Hopefully, Sherri quitting her job means that she won’t have to pay or reimburse the ongoing legal fees of these two deadbeat slime ball sperm donors.
Pretty sure she didn’t quit…
Doesn’t matter if Sheperd doesn’t “want” the baby. In Jersey, she can give up all the parental rights she wants, she’s still on the hook for support.
That is not true, TB. I just read the NJ law and Sherri has no parental rights until after the birth. After the baby is born because Sherri is not the bio parent she has to formally adopt the baby. In California, she can get a pre-birth order that is stayed until birth. Then at birth the child is hers. The question is not where Sherri’s residency is, I believe the relevant point of law will be based on where the surrogacy was contracted.
On Sun, Jul 6, 2014 at 12:15 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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Yup, same in NV. if it’s not your egg you go through the adoption process.
This was bound to happen…She went into this marriage with blinders because she was “desperate”! Now at the 12th hour she’s putting 2 and 2 together. When she said he wasn’t working right after the engagement the words freeloader and gold digger entered my mind.
I am a single lady with no kids…never wanted kids and LOVE my life..that being said I would NOT take any ownership for this baby. I would fix him real good…let him be a single parent with single parent responsibilities. And however or whoever she is using to find men…STOP!!! because it isn’t working. This is a mess…smh
I do believe that that is what she is trying to do. I just don’t know if she can back out of that contract. But like TT said, once the baby is born it is his, but she must go through the adoption process. I don’t have a clue if she can back track now. Again, I am feeling for this surrogate and the poor baby. This does not make Sherri any new fans that’s for sure.
What if the Surrogate decides to keep the baby now that Sheeri doesn’t want the baby and sues Sal for child support?
Stranger things have happened. This surrogate now knows the child she’s carrying would be better off far away from these two IMO.
Yes LoLo, Sherri was just like a drowning person going down for the third time. She was reaching for anything. I kind of feel sorry for her but she knew Sal didn’t have a job when they began interviewing surrogates. As I was reading the sentence, “And however and whoever she is using to find men…STOP!!!” made me wonder how the friendship between Niecy Nash and Sherrie is going. Niecy has been mighty quiet since Sherrie sent Sal packing. I wonder if She feels sort of guilty because she introduced those two? Humm…
I thought Sherri said recently that she lived in Harlem. I know she used to say NJ when she first moved east. I found out she is age 47, her eggs must be fried. That is a bit old to be having more children by any means. She should have chosen a husband with children or no desire to have his own. Statements by Sal sure make him sound like an opportunist. Sherri is even dumber than I thought to have married this guy. She must have been blinded by desperation and dazzled only because he was interested and religious. Desperate women make really bad choices. She was only divorced in ’09 and married Sal in ’11. On The View, she let on that she was on the search for a man for years. In her religion, I don’t think being separated means dating is okay. I suppose she can twist it to fit what she wants to, she does that a lot.
FYI – They didn’t use her eggs.
Because they are too old.
Indeed.
The gold digging marriages in Hollywood never gets old!! I feel so bad for this unborn child. I hope he/she is adopted by a loving couple that can provide a normal but happy life.
I don’t feel bad for Sherri at all. She is a moron that was not sure the earth was round. Google it! how someone that unintelligent can claim to be a comedian is beyond me.
At the end of the day 😉 she decided to have a kid with that other moron. Imo she should suck it up and pay him the money that he obviously wants and probably deserves for marrying that hot mess.
Even though they are clearly both morons, at least she has The View money and if by miracle that surrogate baby grows up defying the moron genes and wants to get a good education, Sherri should be there with a big fat check to facilitate that.
No. Sherri was fired from The View — as was Jenny McCarthney (sp.?).
I would fight tooth and nail to not pay that loser ass man, she chose….
she doesn’t have to perpetually pay for one bad mistake…the baby now that’s another story; in which the courts will decide, but I wouldn’t pay no gold digging ass Negro a Motha Flockin dime…get a job shawty…grow the hell up! Sherri is an idiot, and sometimes you got to cut folks off at the knees…and it’s time for that big old over grown Sal to get CHOPPED! I hope she has a decent prenup
It was in the news not long ago about a Congress person battling against surrogacy laws. Many states actually ban surrogacy so it’s no surprise to me that NJ is a state that wouldn’t recognize the agreement.
Actually ZERO states ban surrogacy. Only DC has laws against it.
Here is the breakdown by state. http://www.creativefamilyconnections.com/state-map-surrogacy-law-practices
On Sun, Jul 6, 2014 at 3:31 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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wow how can dc ban it ? so no office will do the procedure of implantation in dc?
Why should she be there with a big fat check un 18 years? That makes no sense. It is not her child. Sal should be there if anyone outside of the child’s custodial parents. The child is biologically his. But only the adoptive parents would be responsible financially if Sal is not the custodial parent.
The baby is not here. And the baby is not Sherri’s.
On Sun, Jul 6, 2014 at 7:16 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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“In both adoption and surrogacy it is a legal document that makes you a parent.”
That is not true at all. Sherri would have to adopt the child after it is born to become the child’s mother.
On Sun, Jul 6, 2014 at 8:07 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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Agree.
Billie, sometimes there is just no human decency to be found in this world. You were there for your girls and I applaud all parents that successfully raised a child alone. You are stronger than me. As far as Sherri is concerned, like I said before, this is not going to make her any fans. They both look bad. Him, because he seems to be using this surrogacy as an “in” to her money, allegedly. Her, because she obviously signed a contract regarding two live people, the surrogate and the baby. All of a sudden she says she was forced to sign this contract fraudulently. This makes her look like she’s a lunatic IMO. She looks as if this surrogate and the baby meant nothing to her. Their the ones that take the brunt of this.
Sorry, “They’re” the ones that…
IMO she is a moron not a monster. That baby is not hers, there is no emotional attachment evidently. Did she go to every sonogram? Was she meeting on a regular with the surrogate to hear heartbeats or feel the first kick? I never heard her mention it and she is a oversharer. If the child had been born and she reneged then yes maybe I could understand the outrage but at this stage under these circumstances, no.
I see what you are saying, Billie, and I agree with you- up to a certain point.
Basically, this baby is a step child to Sherri. (put the contract aside for now, I’m speaking biologically for the moment). I’ve never known a step parent to keep a step child in a divorce. Much less pay child support for a step child. In my mind, this is the husband’s child and he is responsible for the parenting duties of his child. The contract may come into play later but I think first and foremost, she is requesting to establish the baby as the step child that it is.
I hope that makes sense.
Guess Sherri isn’t as dumb as I thought. Good for her for putting, what I believe, is the cold hard truth out there. Must be hard to admit she was taken for a fool. The joker she was married to for less than 3 years moves all the way to California to file and wants custody, spousal support and child support for the next 20 years?! Wow. Who does he think he is fooling? Good for her to call his bluff. How much you want to bet that he puts up a good hard fight to force her to claim parental rights while wanting full custody?
If she quit the View to lower her salary then that is a smart move. Also, it is better for her to focus her time on these cases. Wonder what she means by fraud? Maybe she was reluctant to have another child and he talked her into it…we shall see…
I believe the fraud allegation comes from the fact Sal chose to use donor eggs instead of Sherrie’s own frozen eggs. Sherrie had her eggs frozen several years ago and has continued to pay for their preservation all of this time. I believe Sal convinced her to not use her own frozen eggs, and then turned around to sue her for child support of his (not her) biological child. Sal was very aware that Sherrie wanted more children, and in my mind, I feel he believed a child would be a bargaining chip that he could use to follow the yellow brick road to Sherrie’s bank account. The baby is being used as a pawn in Sal’s scheme to enrich himself unjustly by emotionally black mailing Sherrie and trying to damage the public image she has tried to create for herself. A child is a person and not a possession. I know from personal experience, some one needs to protect the baby and look out for the child’s best interest while these two duke it out in court.
I agree wholeheartedly. If that is what she alleges by fraud then he may have been concerned that her egg would be viable and wanted to be sure to produce an offspring/meal ticket.
I find the timing very suspicious of the first filing of ex #1. I wouldn’t be surprised if Sally was the one putting ideas in his head that she works too many hours etc to make a stronger case. Otherwise how would he know? Ex #1 lives out of state. Just a hunch.
In all this, I don’t remember seeing how long Sal has lived or had an address in California. Because simple residency doesn’t allow you to use it for divorce proceedings, I don’t believe. I think you have to live there more than 50% of the time for over 6 months, or something similar, to apply CA law in a divorce.
For Sherri’s sake, let’s hope so…
I wonder if he found a job or is even looking. Many people have to take lesser jobs than they may have had in the past or are educated to be. Seemed odd in 3 years he could not find any writing, editing job, anything in NYC in 3 years. Sherri has contacts, I’d assume, at least for an interview. Dead weight?
Again, I agree with you. But… If this were a mistress that her husband fathered a child with, she would still be a step parent. I’m not discounting your opinion because I really do agree with you. I’m just commenting on the legal side. I was a step parent for 14 years, had full custody and all. When I divorced, the child left too. My heart says do right by the child, but technically? The only parent in this particular situation is Sal.
Billy, the choice she made was to co-parent her “husband’s biological daughter. Sal broke the arrangement not Sherri. And the only thing Sal seems to want is Sherri’s money. This baby has a biological Mom. and at the end of the day might want to get to know her Mom one day.And Sherri is a mature woman. She is not going down without a fight. It took some courage to back out of this mess Sal set-up.
Sorry, ladies, but women should pay child support to, just like men do. If we women want equal rights, we need to pay child support if our husband gets sole custody. It is only fair.
UNLESS IT’S NOT THE WOMAN’S BABY! GAWD.
I think men and women should get support on a case by case basis and it should depend on a variety of factors such as length of time married, children etc. I don’t think the three year marriage to this gold digging, CA residency trying to get spousal, child support bozo deserves my sympathy.
Most actresses in Hollywood who had children after age 40, did use donor eggs to conceive their children. They won’t admit it to the public though, but we all know that they did. Its funny how they will be open about surrogacy, but not about using donor eggs. It is nothing to be ashamed of, but they make it seem that way when they lie to the public, and then privately chat on infertility internet forums with other women.
Many people are commenting on the men she chose but not the woman who chose them as if they are the problem…something is not right when she places herself in one bad relationship after another and these types of decisions should also cause questions in regards to her parenting. Irregardless of what these men have done, she herself has made comments that she was fully aware of who she was with and accepted them anyway. Why commit to such a responsibility with a man of such character and then try to say it was by force…again a reason to question her ability to parent, if a person cannot make good decision for themselves what hope does their child have?
If women who choose bad men had their ability to parent questioned and had their kids taken away there would be an awful lot of children without mothers. Also, who should they give her children to? The bad men that she chose? The first cheated. How many women have been cheated on?
I understand the larger point you are trying to make but I would judge her more harshly if she met him on the street. He was a fix up from a married friend and he had a job in the industry. No one has a crystal ball…
Sherri is looking really different on The View so far this week. Instead of a big wig or short one as usual, she has long extentions but showing her flat gray hairs on top her head. Is she trying to show her wig business failed? I’m not saying it did, but it is a toned down look for her.Today she popped off with her first negative joke about husbands. You could tell it was spontaneous. Everyone hooted and hollered, laughed and clapped. I thought, good for her. She probably will get s**t from Sal for it though.
i think sherri legal filings are just legal strategey. initially she did ask for the son.
lamar is wrong.(but so is sherri for letting himnot work for the past 5 yrs! how did he buy her engagement ring and wedding band ?)
i agree that him moving to cali and filing there is a ploy for $.
they havent ever lived in cali!
i hope the judge upholds the prenup, so sal gets only $60k.
i hope he rules for joint custody and says sal has to move back to NJ or NY bc that is where the marital home is.
as far as jeff sr’s filing, I dont know. if jeff jr is disabled that may be why he cant use the bathroom at age 7. But I doubt sh is using unqualifired nannies. i’m sure she went through an agency and checked for qualifications, did a backgrund check, etc.
According to the NJ law, Sherri is not the unborn child’s mother. Sherri would have to adopt the child first. The cour can’t give joint custody to a non parent. Sherri has no intentions of adopting that child. If Sal was smart, he would have waited until the child was born before he started showing out. Sal is just greedy and he will get what is coming to him. He is not even a provider. I wonder who is paying his way now?
Katrina is right. However, Someone called Sherri dumb — no she is not. She fell in love and gave marriage a second chance like many people do. On the other hand Sal is dumb. He made a slick move to try and get money from Sherri for the next 18 years and it backfired. Now he has to figure out how he is going to take care of HIS unborn child.
Well can’t say there isn’t some sort of satisfaction in seeing the common form of financial targeting that has mostly been by women on men to gain payments from them for “life” via a faux relationship. That said since she isn’t the biological mother and if in fact the man only did it to secure her financial enslavement she should be off the hook (as any man should be as well if ensnared in such a situation). Even if she does pay, the courts need to be reigned in in awards for this type of thing. It costs X to raise a kid, not some unlimited percentage of a well off person’s earned fortune (I’ll use the term loosely since my view of “The View” is pretty dim).
It is also amusing to watch the circus of dysfunctional liberal life play out without having to endure the commercials of a sitcom.
Who are you and where did you come from? Please never leave! 🙂
Lamar Sally sadly needs to man up! Get a damn job. Support his family. He wants sole custody. Then he should also have sole financial responsibility for HIS baby. He is a lazy no good gold digger. Who is digging in Sherri shepherd wallet. He came with nothing leave with nothing. He is a wannabe. Also people are always giving up their natural parental rights. Also in many surrogate cases, the surrogate changes their minds. Because Sherri has a money grubbing husband, she can’t change her mind? Also! didnt that IDIOT Sally filed for sole custody before the child was even born, and before Sherri signed the birth certificate?