It took me a while to warm up to Sherri Shepherd when she first came on The View. But during her tenure there, she has grown up a lot. She even understands the earth is round now. She’s endeared herself to me with her reality gossip updates and because of her BFF, comedian Bone Hampton, who I got to know on Twitter when I first started blogging. I try to keep my distance from the people I blog about because it just makes it easier for me to be objective. The situation with Sherri is so personal, it feels weird to even blog about it. So I am going to ask that your comments be respectful on this post.
I’ve been reading the rumors for days and they are varied and mostly wrong I imagine. On site said that Sherri was divorcing Sal because he has not worked since the marriage. I found that hard to believe. I know that Sal was very close to her son and I think Sherri would probably put up with a lot before taking the father figure out of her son’s life. I don’t know what is going on for sure but it must be bad.
Tonight, TMZ is reporting that Sal has begun the proceedings for a divorce. It’s odd he is the one that is filing. Odder still, he is requesting full custody of their unborn child! It seems Sherri and Sal who have only been married for a couple of years hired a surrogate to carry their baby. Sherri had a very rough pregnancy with her first child. According to TMZ the child is due to be born in late July. Sal is trying to get a court order now saying the child goes to him. Heartbreaking.
He is also trying to get the prenup thrown out based on fraud and is asking for spousal support. Can he ask for spousal support when he technically only filed for legal separation because he has only lived in California for three months? Wait, Sherri lives in NYC. So it seems Sal moved out three months ago.
Honestly, I hope nothing about this story is true. Sherri has not said anything yet. If she goes to work on Monday The View will be very interesting. So very sad.
I agree its very sad. The adults will go on with life but the children will forever be affected.
He wants custody so he can collect child support too on top of spousal support.
Thats my guess, too. Greed.
I can’t stand her. But it made me sad to read it. Mostly, it made me sick the way TMZ was slobbering over it with glee.
I hated tmz at first. Then we watched the show regularly and it made me laugh and I liked it. But then Max left and I stopped watching and started feeding my brain with jeopardy again. Anyhoo, now I don’t like them again. They seem a little…racist. (To me “racist” means thinking that one race is better than the others or one race is worse. So in this case, I feel like they try to make white people look stupid and black people look better. But that’s just my opinion and not what we are here to talk about). And they get way too gleeful about people’s misfortune.
I agree with this. There has been a noted change in TMZ recently, and lots of their reporting is exceptionally nasty, not to mention poorly written. I find myself wincing and cringing now when I read their posts, most of which I just skim right through now.
California divorce court is better for men fighting for custody than NY. If she is working and he is not she could be stuck paying while he raises the child.
That’s California.
Sounds to me like Sal had a plan when he left NY, set up residency in California then filed.
It’s a no fault, 50-50 state which means Sherri needs the best attorneys.
I feel bad for her, she was so happy.
I’m no attorney but his 90 day move to California does not constitute residency as yet. Also in California judges are not impressed with spouses who attempt to take clear advantage of each other. If he gets custody of the child then he might be able to pull it off. If he does not get custody, I think the divorce must take place in the state where the child lives? This might be the reason why he is asking for custody.This man is “dirty”.
“Dirty”.!
This is very sad but it seems to be a new trend among men to marry women making more money than himself & then file for divorce & spousal support!
Lamar Sally’s actions sound pre-meditated! I am sure he probably lied to Sherri about moving to California to either work or to look for work, so he could establish residency & file for divorce. BUT if she is smart she better stop crying & actually file for divorce FIRST in NY. Hire a private detective in NY & LA. I am sure he’s probably cheating with someone (maybe even the surrogate).
If he hasn’t been working then he has already established the fact that he has grown accustomed to the lifestyle her career provides him which is why he is asking for spousal support. Just like any good gold-digger he wants 100 % custody of the baby so he can receive child support, especially if the prenuptial agreement holds up in court.
I feel bad for her but she has to dry those tears, ignore all the gossip, pray but also fight!
I am confused….salsas/is/has filed for divorce cause his ex girlfriend was in Sal’s wedding and Sherri didn’t know they been in a romantic relationship? Please tell me there is more going on than that? This is very reminisce of Star Jones wedding then divorce but I believe she was surprised that she was an unsuspecting beard! Shame on Sal…using his unborn child to try and manipulate Sherri!
TMZ is reporting today that the prenup states the unborn child will live with Sherri. Do people put custody clauses in prenups? Is that like a thing? Also according to TMZ, Sal would only get a one time lump sum of $60K. His income was primarily from unemployment according to the documents Sherri filed in her divorce filing this week.
This all seems very weird to me.
On Thu, May 15, 2014 at 4:41 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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And he hired a big time shark attorney. He’s not playing. I think it’s you ask for everything, then she’ll have to pony up a lot of dough, and he’ll back off. Willing to bet he’s not interested in the baby, he wants the money. And if she pays up with alimony,Etc, then he will back off on the baby because he won’t be depending in child support. And that move to CA, that’s all about establishing residency to file for divorce in CA. She better brace herself. Unless something shady happened here that sherri did, I’m totally Team Sherri unlike the Bethenny thing where Jason deserves money. I’m not Sherri’s biggest fan as she’s not the brightest bulb, but I think he’s using her and I feel bad after what she went through the first time.
Just wondering if he is the only biological parent, meaning they used an egg donor? I wonder if that’s why he would file for custody of the unborn baby and if it even matters if she is a biological parent or not.
Either way, it’s a sad situation.
How far along is the surrogate in the pregnancy I wonder? How you file for custody of something that doesn’t exist yet?
The baby is due in July…supposedly.
On Fri, May 9, 2014 at 9:34 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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How sad. Maybe let the new baby come into the world safely and innocently. Sherri’s son had a difficult transition into this world. I hope this baby arrives peacefully.
The baby DOES exist if the surrogate is pregnant.
I feel badly for her. She is a decent person and he sounds like a dead beat dad. I wondered early on what kind of television script writer he is. I remember when Necie Nash introduced her to this guy and pushed him as someone “who would be free to take her son to the doctor when she’s working.” Well, it sounds like he didn’t even do that. Peace out to Sherri. And Necie should stop trying to do love and marriage matches.
Most divorces are sad. I don’t wish it on anyone. I don’t watch The View but loved Sherri this last season on HIMYM.
I know but image divorcing with a surrogate carrying your child and the man moving to LA to try to steal the baby! What kind of man did she marry?
On Fri, May 9, 2014 at 9:52 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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Possibly a gold digger 🙁
Tamara I usually agree with you, however, why say “steal?” Fathers have rights, just as mothers. If he’s a freelancer, he could give more one-on-one time with the child. Sherri has a child, this may be his first. Don’t forget Sal left California to be with her. Finding employment in New York may not have been very easy, The competition is fierce.
The word “fraud” has been mention. What is that all about?
A man who demands full custody of the unborn child after moving 3000 miles away with only “visitation” to the mother (if true) is trying to steal the child. A baby needs its MOTHER. This man does not want to raise a baby as a single father, he is clearly trying to harm Sherri. It’s AWFUL and CRUEL.
On Fri, May 9, 2014 at 10:15 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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WAIT! So this is this dude’s writing resume? I’ve had more paid writing gigs than this man. How the fuck does he stay in ramen noodles?
http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0758642/
I agree, which is why I wondered if she is the bio mom and if that would play a part in custody. If a donor egg was used… My head hurts from trying to sort out the custody issue.
I do feel bad for her. It looks as though she has a lot on her plate. I think it’s sad that her son was so close to him. I know that she talked about wanting another baby so I hope she gets to keep the baby.
Well, his resume took all of 5 seconds to read.
I really loved her on 30 Rock, she was hilarious. I hope all the best for her, her son and her unborn child.
1996 – 2006 no job. I feel bad if he’s a gold digging opportunist, but it does seem to be leaning that way
One that ‘s trying to take her for everything she’s got! He wants custody so he can file for divorce in California without challenge.
A douche.
I’m not a big fan of Sherri’s, but I agree that she has grown quite a bit since being on the show. I think her early missteps (especially her apparent lack of familarity with a “globe”) actually prompted her to improve herself. She clearly started reading more, formulating more cogent opinions (usually), and seemed to have gained a lot more self confidence in terms of generally expressing herself. But the one thing that has never changed is her deep and abiding love for her son. I am especially saddened for her (and Jeffrey) because she did seem genuinely happy that Sal was in Jeffrey’s life. I don’t know what happened, but I too think it would have to be pretty bad for her to remove that male presence. I feel for her. I really do.
I’m still salty with Sherri for inviting Porsha to the View and not Kenya- but hell I’ll live. “Damn did she not do a background check on dude before jumping the broom. We humans can be persuaded to do ANYTHING. Just yesterday I said I would never ever have a child, and well what do you know?! Today I’m holding one. Sherri has bad luck with men and bad taste, but I’m sure she has good lawyers. Feel sad for the kids involve.
Chile please, Sherri doesn’t do the booking only the interviewing and she WENT IN ON PORSHA!
http://s17948.p858.sites.pressdns.com/2014/04/29/porsha-williams-on-the-view-kenya-brought-weapons-to-the-reunion/
On Fri, May 9, 2014 at 10:47 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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The reports I have read where she talked about the surrogate (before she stopped mentioning it.) was, “our egg” and “his sperm” which makes me wonder. If it is not her biological child and his only, then I’d give the baby to him.
I’m not a fan of Sherri Shepherd but reading this really did make me sad for her. I also got shivers as I began to speculate that (assuming the reports are true) all of this may have been an elaborate, carefully orchestrated scheme for him to get his hands on Sherri’s money. The custody move seems clearly for the purpose of obtaining child support and if he is the only biological parent (as another commenter alluded to) then that could open a whole “can of worms” – i.e. complicated legal matters – that could drag on for a while and may force Sherri’s hand during negotiations. I’ve never heard any allegations of Sherri being a negligent or abusive mother to her son, so the biology of this unborn child is probably his only legal argument for taking sole custody. His move to California was definitely key to all this. I really feel terrible for Sherri and hope this is resolved favorably for her.
If she is not the biological mother and he wants full custody then he doesn’t deserve child support. He’s going to waste money trying to overturn the prenup. That’s what prenup are for dummy, and I’d like to hear how she frauded him. Whatever at least it opens room for her to find someone better.
Depends on how well the prenup is written and this might be where the fraud claim is coming from.
She is the mother because she agreed to create this child. And a man should receive child support if he has sole custody. She should have to pay child support just like any man would.
She currently is not the child’s parent. She would have to adopt the baby. She is not planning to adopt the baby. She therefore doesn’t owe child support.
THis is not rocket science. Try to follow along.
On Mon, Jul 7, 2014 at 10:30 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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I used to follow Sherri on twitter until last month or so and she tweeted a lot about her husband and how much she loved him and how he treated her so well. But, now that I think about it maybe not so much towards the end of my following her. This is really sad. She seemed so happy and in love. And given that things apparently were so bad with Jeffrey’s father during their divorce, sad to hear she might have to go through that again.
I’m going to wait and see what the fraud thing is about. Maybe she’s not the victim we think she is.
Fraud is quite the accusation I agree. Again, he can’t take custody of a child until it actually exists. The surrogate has rights too–she may not give over a child now that the situation is changed. (Unless he tries to take custody of the woman giving birth to the child).
I hope that prenup was written by great attorneys. In California the person with money has to pay for both attorneys out of community property. Sherri’s money could be used against her.
The person with the best attorneys will win this.
Never really liked the View but when I’m working on emails at home, I turn it on. And it did seem like for a while, she’d mention Sal just as often as her son but then recently, I never hear her say his name. Made me go hmmm. It’s sad, divorce.
On a sidenote, Bette Midler was on today and she was fantastic.
I HATE TMZ
This is a shame, hopefully the judge will see through his gold digging angle and throw him out of court with nothing . Hopefully she has great friends to help get her through this. It’s hard for some to go through a divorce in private ,it must be 100x worse to go through this publicly .
This is so sad, indeed. I remember how excited she was after the wedding.
Pisses me off that this is happening because I smell some dude wanting all he can get.
Hope she really lawyers up.
I believe 6 months is required to establish residency in CA. With that being said, I wonder if the surrogate is also in CA and plans to give birth there. It would give him home field advantage. This would be a premise as to why he went out there, other than work. As far as likeability… Whoop was asked on WWHN if it bothers her that Sherri continually interrupts her, and of course Whoop said she had never noticed that… tongue in cheek I’m sure. After that, I couldn;t help but notice Sherri is prob one of the worst interviewers on TV w/Jen as a close second. I CRINGE when a guest is asked a question. Before they can give a full answer, in mid sentence the guest is cutoff, and another question is being shoved up or down their orafice. So rude, SO DISRESPECTFUL! I feel embarrassed for the hosts of the view because they just don’t have a clue.
If Sherri’s stand up comedy was anything like her marriage Im not surprised it ended. She’s not funny at all just very annoying. She hasnt had any luck with men . Her first husband cheated on her and Im sure this soon to be ex husband did as well.
I’m wondering if Lamar Sally ever really loved Sherri? Regardless of what you think of Sherri (I’m not really a fan) you cannot deny that she truly loved that man and would do anything to make him happy. I sense Sally was just an opportunist waiting for a big paycheck for life.
Does anyone know if Lamar is stricken with the Al Reynolds’ affliction? Remember Star Jones?
It hurts my heart to think Lamar may have been planning this from day one of their engagement. Isn’t Sherri doling out money to her first husband Jeff Tarpley who was cheating in her which resulted in him impregnating the mistress. I think Jeff married this woman. And Sherri is funding their lifestyle.
Boy Sherri will be working on The View until she is 84 like Barbara. I hope her pre-nup holds up in court!
Divorcing your husband because he is not EQUAL in the salary department is wrong. I recall reading about court records that were publicized when Sheri divorced her 1st husband, and Sheri’s monthly income was $55,000 right after she started the view. Who in the hell can equal 55K a month in salary????. Now unless her 2nd husband was a total deadbeat sponge ass scrub, then yeah divorce his ass.
The reports I was read that he has not worked at all during the entire marriage.
On Sat, May 10, 2014 at 3:39 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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Not a pretty picture
Me thinks he is asking for full custody of the child just to get more spousal support.With the responsability of a minor , he would get lodging plus a meal ticket for the next 18 years…
sad days…
This has nothing to do with this particular situation; however, I was looking at case law and this seems to be a similar situation.
“The New York courts in 1992 gave weight to Calvert with the McDonald Case. Here a donor egg was used with the husband’s sperm. The intended mother carried the child. The couple divorced and a bitter custody battle ensued. The husband sought full custody because he was the only genetic parent. Here the NY Supreme Court relied on Johnson and asked what the “intent” of the parties at the time they entered into the contract? The intent was that the wife was to be the natural and legal mother regardless if her egg was used in the creation of the child.”
It seems that whether or not Sherri’s egg was used she will still have the same rights to the child.
Trying to get the prenup thrown out based on fraud means that Sal is going to allege that Sherri did not fully disclose all of her assets.
1. The agreement is fraudulent.
A prenuptial agreement requires each spouse to make full disclosure of his/her assets. In divorce, it is quite common for the husband to undervalue assets or fail to disclose them at all, so these assets can’t be made part of a settlement agreement. Unfortunately, prenups are prone to this kind of underhandedness, as well. If you can prove your husband did not fully disclose his income or assets at the time you signed the prenup, you may have grounds to have the agreement thrown out, now that you’re getting a divorce.
TT is dead on with her comments. I went through acrimonious divorce 15 yrs ago. My ex and I were married for 20 years. He hid his assets in foreign accounts and in various other LLCs. He duly reported his income but none of he yearly bonuses the last two yrs of marriage. He then left a lucrative practice he had with my brother in law, my sister’s husband. They tried to help me, but they were also trying to preserve their assets. My ex hired a well-know criminal attorney who notoriously represented the mob while it was still alive and well. He initially only asked for visitation because our children were part of his “laundry list.” Then he revised complaint asking for shared custody and for sole custody in the summer even though I was a middle school teacher and had the summer off. The Judge said in court, that my ex “thought he was god” but that due to the face that he left his partner to start a new practice, his funds would be depleted.
Bottom line, I was naive and never expected my ex to play so dirty. I was unprepared for what later showed he was planning this divorce for years. The best lawyer won and it wasn’t mine, at least financially, but I did get full custody of my children which was ultimately the biggest win for me. I never remarried and never entertained the idea of remarrying after the pain he put my boys through and the fact that they have no respect for what he did, how he barely had any interaction in their lives growing up. Ever watch the movie Deceived. I believe in marriage and still believe there are good men out there, but the truth is u never really know someone and/or if they’re leading a duplicitous life. Watching the news each day bears this out
If the egg is not hers, I wonder can she just give up her parental rights to the child…a judge could grant that but she may still have to pay child support…..
I don’t think Sherri would do that, she’s been expecting the baby for seven months now. I can’t see her walking away.
On Sat, May 10, 2014 at 11:41 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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Hey T, regarding the issue of donor egg for this surrogate pregnancy, your research is right. Once a pregnancy has commenced, the intended mother (regardless of whether her egg or that of a donor is used) has full maternal rights. I conceived my children using donor eggs (premature menopause in my late 20s) and researched this issue at the time. So Sheri is fully protected in her maternal rights toward the child and she surely will fight for at least half custody (and hopefully will receive more than that, given the apparent character of her divorcing dh). Also, I think the fact that the only income earning parent (Sheri) resides in NYC will make her dh’s desire to live in CA a less than compelling argument to the courts.
This man has ten year intervals in his resume. What did he do when he wasn’t writing on a sitcom during those ten year intervals? Living with his mother in Detroit? He hasn’t had a job since 2006. This means that he was unemployed for at least five years before he married Sherri. Every woman needs to have the man checked out before she marries him, especially if she has a lot of assets. Hire lawyers and private detectives to scrutinize him before he walks away from you with your money, a broken heart, and embarrassment. This sorry guy lived off her and probably off other women because he doesn’t have a job or a career. Hats off to Sherri for getting rid of him sooner rather than later. If he was playing around on her, as has been alleged, then she should say good riddance.
I know Sherri mentioned a couple of times on The View about paying the storage fees for her “eggs”. And I know for sure she talked about it before she was engaged. I remember she was joking about being scared of forgetting to pay that particular bill and having her eggs thrown out. So if those were the eggs she used… They were hers.
I remember that too. I will start watching The View again after a lapse of a little over 3 years.
I looked up the residency issue. I looked on a few sites, and I found that you have to be present in CA for 366 days except for vacations. You have to get a driver;s license and register to vote and register your car too. And if you aren’t making enough money to be financially independent, it says you have to be considered a resident of where your parents are. And if you leave CA after establishing residency, they want you to prove that you still have a principal residence there and intend to live here. Do you think he has done all that? Anyone know if this is accurate?
im wondering why the first thing people have to say is ‘ im not a fan of Sherri’. does it matter?… anyways for this loser of a husband…karma is a total bitch thats gonna kick him in the butt so hard he’s gonna see friggin stars. and for sherri a word of advise you can love someone but dont be blind…he is a loser, gold digger and a bitch. i hope it works out in ur favor all that piece a s#@%t Sal wants is ur money. right now i wish i was Karma cause i would be working on him right now!!!
Agreed, Kay. It doesn’t matter if one cares for her or not. She is a woman, a human, a mother who is suffering great pain now. She may have had her suspicions, but the fact is, he said he went to look for work and soon after, she received legal notice that he wanted a divorce. If he didn’t plan it from day one, he sure has been planning his “escape” for some time now. The truth always resonates and I believe if not immediately, the truth will ring true soon enough.
blame Niecy Nash for the introduction…cruel!
As Niecy Nash stated the best thing we can do right now for Sherri is PRAY.