This episode of Couple’s Therapy is about repeating the same patterns. It’s a great topic, but I have no faith at all in Dr. Jenn’s ability to explore the topic with any degree of success. I must have been naïve to think that therapists who come on TV shows are any less attention seeking than the “patients.” Regardless, I just can’t quit this train wreck, despite the lateness of my recapping, here we go.
Jon and Liz. Part of the whole group therapy thing from my perspective is for people to get an idea of how they are perceived by others. You know, like with that great head shrinker of our time Dr. Phil asks the audience who thinks the person on the stage is full of shit. It’s supposed to make the person realize that the group consensus that change needs to be made. Yet every fucked up person on this show has tried several times to tell Jon that his cowering submissiveness is beyond emasculating and Liz’s constant cracking of the whip and humiliating him is wrong. Yet they seem to be just fine with the power exchange and so why the hell are they even there? Clearly, Jon wants to be the doormat and Liz wants to walk on him. If they are into that? Good for them. But quit trying to pretend like you are there to make changes that clearly you do not want to make. Jon has a history of submission and I suspect Liz has a history of humiliating her partners. Maybe it’s a match made in BDSM heaven. But let’s move on, for fucksake.
Dr. Jenn meets with Jon to explain that he needs to grow some balls. Jon starts right away defending Liz. Jon says Liz is really good with his kids. Didn’t the love profile last week indicate that neither of these two procreators were in the least bit “family oriented?” Oh wait, I remember. He just dismissed that whole thing as television for ratings. Dr. Jenn says that Liz doesn’t really care if she hurts Jon or not. Dr. Jenn suggests he stop being a wounded animal, take his power back and stand up for himself. Later. Liz seems to be realizing she is a bitch. Progress?
Taylor and John. What is Taylor on? Is she just drunk off her ass or is she is on something to keep her awake and drunk all at once? Are these two ever going to address their own co-dependency issues or did they renegotiate their contract to just be pseudo counselors to the other idiots?
In group, Taylor is asked to go first to share her childhood traumas. She is crying immediately and giving a very detailed recounting of an even from when she was two or three. The story goes she was sleeping in the bed with her mom one night when her dad came home and started beating the shit out of her mother. So Taylor at let’s say age three stood up and grabbed her dad and attempted to stop the abuse. Taylor says she feels bad for not divorcing Russell when Kennedy was a baby so she would not grow up with those scars.
Whitney and Sada. These two seem to have the most easily remedied problems, and an actual desire to improve their relationship, but with all the squeaky wheels, they don’t seem to get much therapy time. Whitney and Sada both seem to have helpful feedback for others, but most are unwilling to listen.
In group, Sada cried through Taylor, Ghost, and Farrah’s sharing. When called on she says she feels physically sick. Sada grew up with an abusive father. She says he was two different people, he could be very abusive but also very loving. Sada says her father ripped the locked car door off the door and she doesn’t remember what happened after that.
Dr. Jenn meets with Sada and tells her that her group work was amazing. Sada says she feels guilty for talking about her father in group. Dr. Jenn wants to bring in Sada’s dad. Sada is very nervous but she trusts Dr. Jenn.
Overall, I think that the problem with these two is that Sada needs to tell Whitney what she wants rather than constantly making her guess. Whitney seems forever confused. Does she need space? cuddling? quiet time together? WTF does she want? OMG now we are back from commercial and Whitney is saying the same thing.
Next week: Sada’s Dad arrives, Anger Therapy Sessions happen. Some dude that Farrah dated on Teen Mom comes to discuss her dating issues. #addicted to this train wreck.
Farrah. Farrah’s sob story in group is also about when she was two. Am I being cynical for thinking most people don’t remember being two? Do you remember being two? I think my earliest memories are probably age five. HOWEVER, I did date a very smart, very sincere man once who SWEARS he remembers being born. I know. I know. But he was one of the most honest people I ever dated. I almost believe him. Anyway, enough oversharing. Farrah remembers being isolated from her parents at age two and realizing they don’t give a shit about her. I hate to discount anyone’s childhood abuse stories, but a two year old doesn’t have that sort of brain capacity. Apparently, though it is hard to be sure since things were bleeped, that Farrah’s father was abusive to her and her mother did not care.
I give Dr. Jenn a lot of shit for playing along with this whole bogus boyfriend story. But she is right when she reminds us that Farrah is 22. It’s very easy to judge 22 when we are um, not 22. 🙂 So Dr. Jenn is bringing in her mother for a joint therapy session.
Farrah’s mother is telling her story from the perspective of being supportive to Farrah when she told her she was pregnant. NO ONE on planet earth believes that. I am sorry. So Dr. Jenn asks her to explain how she supported it. Farrah wanted and abortion and her mother forbid it. That is not supportive on my planet.
Farrah seems to come by her delusions honestly. He mother is in total denial. She looks like someone in a LOT of pain, and yet she keeps insisting she is happy. Dr. Jenn brings up the violence between them. Clearly Farrah got dealt a shitty hand. She did not have the emotional maturity for all the things that happened to her. The whole Teen Mom thing was perhaps the worst thing that could have happened to her. Clearly she thought that was her escape route. She thought she could be the next Kim Kardashian as if that is something to aspire to. It’s all really sad, despite all the fakeness and bullshit involved with this show.
I am starting to buy Farrah’s whisper cries. Am I the only one? Farrah’s mother has a breakdown. Farrah is stone. Dr. Jenn tells Farrah that she needs to grieved the loss of the mom that she wished that she had, because Deborah is never going to be that mom.
Ghost and Kelsey. I am surprised that Ghost is still even there. What is the point? However, right after Taylor’s childhood abuse story, Dr. Jenn calls on Ghost. Ghost says that his father left at age 6. He felt like he had to be the man of the family. He started a bunch of criminal activity. He says he was not hugged enough as a kid. Apparently, his mother recently died. He doesn’t feel like he had a mother’s love either. So he isn’t really able to bond with women.
Oh lord, after group, Kelsey seems to feel less angry with Ghost. Kelsey is trying to get to a place of forgiveness with Ghost before they leave.