This episode of Couple’s Therapy is about repeating the same patterns. It’s a great topic, but I have no faith at all in Dr. Jenn’s ability to explore the topic with any degree of success. I must have been naïve to think that therapists who come on TV shows are any less attention seeking than the “patients.” Regardless, I just can’t quit this train wreck, despite the lateness of my recapping, here we go.
Jon and Liz. Part of the whole group therapy thing from my perspective is for people to get an idea of how they are perceived by others. You know, like with that great head shrinker of our time Dr. Phil asks the audience who thinks the person on the stage is full of shit. It’s supposed to make the person realize that the group consensus that change needs to be made. Yet every fucked up person on this show has tried several times to tell Jon that his cowering submissiveness is beyond emasculating and Liz’s constant cracking of the whip and humiliating him is wrong. Yet they seem to be just fine with the power exchange and so why the hell are they even there? Clearly, Jon wants to be the doormat and Liz wants to walk on him. If they are into that? Good for them. But quit trying to pretend like you are there to make changes that clearly you do not want to make. Jon has a history of submission and I suspect Liz has a history of humiliating her partners. Maybe it’s a match made in BDSM heaven. But let’s move on, for fucksake.
Dr. Jenn meets with Jon to explain that he needs to grow some balls. Jon starts right away defending Liz. Jon says Liz is really good with his kids. Didn’t the love profile last week indicate that neither of these two procreators were in the least bit “family oriented?” Oh wait, I remember. He just dismissed that whole thing as television for ratings. Dr. Jenn says that Liz doesn’t really care if she hurts Jon or not. Dr. Jenn suggests he stop being a wounded animal, take his power back and stand up for himself. Later. Liz seems to be realizing she is a bitch. Progress?
Taylor and John. What is Taylor on? Is she just drunk off her ass or is she is on something to keep her awake and drunk all at once? Are these two ever going to address their own co-dependency issues or did they renegotiate their contract to just be pseudo counselors to the other idiots?
In group, Taylor is asked to go first to share her childhood traumas. She is crying immediately and giving a very detailed recounting of an even from when she was two or three. The story goes she was sleeping in the bed with her mom one night when her dad came home and started beating the shit out of her mother. So Taylor at let’s say age three stood up and grabbed her dad and attempted to stop the abuse. Taylor says she feels bad for not divorcing Russell when Kennedy was a baby so she would not grow up with those scars.
Whitney and Sada. These two seem to have the most easily remedied problems, and an actual desire to improve their relationship, but with all the squeaky wheels, they don’t seem to get much therapy time. Whitney and Sada both seem to have helpful feedback for others, but most are unwilling to listen.
In group, Sada cried through Taylor, Ghost, and Farrah’s sharing. When called on she says she feels physically sick. Sada grew up with an abusive father. She says he was two different people, he could be very abusive but also very loving. Sada says her father ripped the locked car door off the door and she doesn’t remember what happened after that.
Dr. Jenn meets with Sada and tells her that her group work was amazing. Sada says she feels guilty for talking about her father in group. Dr. Jenn wants to bring in Sada’s dad. Sada is very nervous but she trusts Dr. Jenn.
Overall, I think that the problem with these two is that Sada needs to tell Whitney what she wants rather than constantly making her guess. Whitney seems forever confused. Does she need space? cuddling? quiet time together? WTF does she want? OMG now we are back from commercial and Whitney is saying the same thing.
Next week: Sada’s Dad arrives, Anger Therapy Sessions happen. Some dude that Farrah dated on Teen Mom comes to discuss her dating issues. #addicted to this train wreck.
Farrah. Farrah’s sob story in group is also about when she was two. Am I being cynical for thinking most people don’t remember being two? Do you remember being two? I think my earliest memories are probably age five. HOWEVER, I did date a very smart, very sincere man once who SWEARS he remembers being born. I know. I know. But he was one of the most honest people I ever dated. I almost believe him. Anyway, enough oversharing. Farrah remembers being isolated from her parents at age two and realizing they don’t give a shit about her. I hate to discount anyone’s childhood abuse stories, but a two year old doesn’t have that sort of brain capacity. Apparently, though it is hard to be sure since things were bleeped, that Farrah’s father was abusive to her and her mother did not care.
I give Dr. Jenn a lot of shit for playing along with this whole bogus boyfriend story. But she is right when she reminds us that Farrah is 22. It’s very easy to judge 22 when we are um, not 22. 🙂 So Dr. Jenn is bringing in her mother for a joint therapy session.
Farrah’s mother is telling her story from the perspective of being supportive to Farrah when she told her she was pregnant. NO ONE on planet earth believes that. I am sorry. So Dr. Jenn asks her to explain how she supported it. Farrah wanted and abortion and her mother forbid it. That is not supportive on my planet.
Farrah seems to come by her delusions honestly. He mother is in total denial. She looks like someone in a LOT of pain, and yet she keeps insisting she is happy. Dr. Jenn brings up the violence between them. Clearly Farrah got dealt a shitty hand. She did not have the emotional maturity for all the things that happened to her. The whole Teen Mom thing was perhaps the worst thing that could have happened to her. Clearly she thought that was her escape route. She thought she could be the next Kim Kardashian as if that is something to aspire to. It’s all really sad, despite all the fakeness and bullshit involved with this show.
I am starting to buy Farrah’s whisper cries. Am I the only one? Farrah’s mother has a breakdown. Farrah is stone. Dr. Jenn tells Farrah that she needs to grieved the loss of the mom that she wished that she had, because Deborah is never going to be that mom.
Ghost and Kelsey. I am surprised that Ghost is still even there. What is the point? However, right after Taylor’s childhood abuse story, Dr. Jenn calls on Ghost. Ghost says that his father left at age 6. He felt like he had to be the man of the family. He started a bunch of criminal activity. He says he was not hugged enough as a kid. Apparently, his mother recently died. He doesn’t feel like he had a mother’s love either. So he isn’t really able to bond with women.
Oh lord, after group, Kelsey seems to feel less angry with Ghost. Kelsey is trying to get to a place of forgiveness with Ghost before they leave.
How funny was it when Taylor said “lesbians help me out” and Liz responded first saying “the lesbians are tired”?! She def gets the side eye claiming to like John.
Even though I was never a watcher of the whole 16 and pregnant or teen mom shows, over the years I’ve caught enough episodes here and there to get an idea about the situations. Anyway, there is something about Farrah that just really makes my heart go out to her. I really do think that this girl is doing the best that she can with what she has. I mean, I really do think that she does want to be the best person she can be and a good mom to Sophia. Yesterday I watched a special, sort of an update on some of the teen moms. They are called “Being ________”. So I watched the Farrah episode, and I have to give her kudos. I think she is providing a wonderful home for her daughter, and what really impressed me was the way that she set boundaries with her mom (who was visiting from our if state), who is already talking about now moving from whatever state she’s living in and taking a job and moving to the town where farrah it’s. It made me tell out “NO!” to my tv. Farrah handled that, and every situation where her mom was trying to step in with sophia, etc. very well. I pray for this girl that her mom doesn’t do that, but if she does that she can stay strong and not get sucked into that dysfunction again. Her father is actually living in some part of Farrah’s house as it is. IDK… I just really feel for Farrah, and I think that considering everything, that she seems to be doing okay for herself. I was also touched by the relationship between her and the producer who has been with her through it all.
I was thinking, maybe they should just have a show called “Celebrity Therapy”. This way, like Farrah, you don’t need to have a partner. So many D-list and reality stars would surely jump to be on it. That would be like a wet dream for them.
Farrah is that you?? I feel bad that Farrah is Sofia’s mother! I guess if you want to take the easy road as a single mother, I would have to say Farrah did it! Who wants to place bets on Sofia having a college fund when Farrah’s Reality TV/ Porn career is over??
I was thinking the same thing Jellybelly, lol! I have seriously doubt Farrah is saving anything for her daughter, except a lot of heartache. She lies, she lies! Liz is a bully!
Farrah is that you?? hahahahhaha!!!
I’m with you! I can’t keep all of her lies straight and quite frankly, I find her to be a deplorable human being. This is the porn star who initially said her tapes were meant to commemorate her “hot body” when she was older, went on to mold her lady parts and pose for CORPSE MAGAZINE for the love of God, and who can forget her bring daddy and toddler to her PORN NEGOTIATION! Has she made dumb mistakes? Sure. But move on with REAL therapy, which seems desperately needed, and do it OUT of the spotlight. Her daughter is school age now! Oh and lose the pacifier! That’s what Teddy Bears are for! Hell, even her toddler called her evil! I just can’t with this vapid twit! Her need for attention overrides and sound decision that might potentially cross that vapid excuse of a brain. (Next time I’ll tell you how I REALLY feel, lol…)
Wow. Really? I think you and “Dr.” Jen see something no one else does.
Farrah “lives” (there’s great debate as to whether that’s her home) in Austin. In Lakeway, to be precise. It’s rather expensive to live there, but really, what 22 year old with a PLASTIC HEAD would choose Lakeway over downtown? Just because you look Stepford doesn’t mean you have to live Stepford.
If I had her (alleged) kind of money, I know I’d move to the swankiest building downtown Austin has to offer and put my kid into a great private school. Besides, she wants to open a restaurant here. Hipsters and college kids ain’t gonna drive the half hour and Lakeway people aren’t going to eat garbage.
I stand alone. 🙂
No you don’t. I agree with you. I believe Farrah’s been through a lot, and she’s just trying to do the best she can. I don’t think she anticipated what kind of impact her sex tape would have on her life, as we’re seeing on the show, though.
I just feel bad for Sophia, who will ultimately bear the brunt and burden of her mother’s poor choices. Farrah is going to have to hold herself accountable SOMEDAY. She needs to grieve the teenaged years she lost and work on becoming a good mother and responsible adult. There is just no going back in time.
I could totally see Farrah being able to realize her parents were completely insane at the ripe old age of 2. I don’t totally blame her for the way she’s turned out and really the fact that she’s not doing crack and/or heroin on top of the other dumb shit she does is a step in the right direction. She showed plenty of glimmers of maturity and ambition on Teen Mom despite her lunatic parents. I hope she pulls through.
I don’t buy the 2 yoa traumatic memories. I barely remember being 7 yoa if it weren’t for a bully asking me to hold a rope that had a rock tied to the other end and was slung over a high-hanging tree limb. Of course the kid let go of the rope on purpose and the rock fell right on my noggin & I ran home screaming & bleeding. But it was a lesson learned.
As far as Farrah’s whisper cries, I can buy that it’s the real way she cries, it’s just annoying as hell since it requires subtitles.
You mean you can’t read the words coming out of her Botox and Filler face?
I asked my dad about memories, and he said his earliest one is from age 2 or 3, but it wasn’t this giant detailed memory like Farrah. Even my first “memory” isn’t as I thought. It’s my father’s memory of me at a specific event. My first memory is from the age of 4. My sister doesn’t remember anything prior to 6 or possible 8 years of age. That’s 3 people, one family. I’m hard pressed to believe that 2 people in a group setting of 7 could have memories from age 2. I think that’s statistical absurd.
Oh, and my earlier comment was meant for Lori, not JellyBelly or French.
No, I have to squint very hard since the TV’s in the living room and I watch from kitchen. It annoys the shit out of me. Not that I think she’s saying anything world shaking, but if she’s going to continue to spill truth or build on lies, I want to know 🙂
Yeh, it’s very odd I would think for a detailed memory at 2 yoa, even odder in that group setting.
If anyone’s ever seen Farrah’s Dr. Phil interview with her mother & father, it is night & day from Jenn. Farrah was an absolute brat & hated Phil calling her out on anything. Her mother, who obviously is no mother of the year, was much more pleasant and calm than the off-centered bitchy person shown in this episode. Who knows maybe it was because Phil was doing all the dirty work! And of course it was only a 40 min. show. But I still think Farrah’s a brat, justified or not.
Lol at whisper cries. Sorry but Farrah is full of crap. Even sophia knows she is evil. She talks to her parents like crap and karma is going to kick her azz later through sophia who is too darn cute. She jacked up her face and looks like a plastic bobblehead which is why no man will put up with her. I was rooting for her until the sex tapes. She has a lot ofgrowing up to do. Her sister should be in her life more and she needs to get off of tv film and internet!!!
Sounds like she was upset about being put in time out, not exactly a traumatic experience. I think she took some dramatic license here. For attention.
It is hard to believe anyone could have memories from the age of 2. I saw a few minutes of “Being Farrah”, and it looks interesting. It is on M-TV @ 12:04 EST tomorrow, if anybody wants to see it.
*PM*, sorry!
My entire life I was certain I remembered having the same dream of falling and being terrified of the crash, but always woke before landing. When I did wake up I also remember seeing the bars to my crib.
I was having a dream conversation with my mother one day and I told all this along with the layout of the room I was in. We moved out of that house before I turned 2. My mom gave me a look of surprise and told me a story. My dad was a drinker. He came in loaded one day, picked me up from the crib and dropped me. And…I.gave an exact description of that room.
Your story actually makes sense to me. I wasn’t buying Farrah’s 2 year old memories but if it was something that was very traumatic for her it’s very possible that she would remember . Another reason I find it possible, is one of my favorite Maya Angelou quotes:
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” (I’ve found this to be very true)
That being said I’m pretty sure it’s partially a memory and part Farrah land fairy tale.
To be honest, I can’t separate childhood memories from episodes of Rugrats. So, I’m sceptical.
I actually have a memory from when I was about two, not an entire story, more like a snapshot. It was in the foster home I lived it until I was adopted shortly after. I remembered what the kitchen and room directly off it looked like.The family was very nice and ended up running into them again later in life. My mother had also brought me to see them a few times after the adoption, since I had bonded with the family and their two biological daughters, but not at their house,
@ Riley: that’s bizarre. I have a similar rememerance. And a similar dream. I remember being in a crib in a home we lived in before I moved out of when I was 3. (My dad was a drinker then my mom left him.) However, the dream stuck with me for many, many years. (Not saying I was dropped, or anything.)
I took a psych class from a world renowned expert on memories (dr Leon Lack – he works with Vietnam veterans on memory formation and access) and he said the reason some people remember being a baby or toddler is that they repeat the memory as a small child – get a response from their parents such as surprise or awe – so they continue to access the memory. Photographs, videos and other family members recollections add to it also. A traumatic memory may be accessed more often than a benign one so you can process it.
As for your gentleman friend who recalls his birth? I could talk to him for hours! Fascinating! My son is 5 and had seen pics of his birth and says he felt cold and scared – but I think that’s just because he looks wet and pissed off.
Farrah lives in her own head. This girl is a complete moron. She has a second “sex tape” out and still insists that “she is not a porn star”. It’s hard to feel any type of empathy for someone when they lie about everything and lays blame on everyone except herself. If she took responsibilty for her own actions my opinion would be very different.
OMG. I just saw that now! My DVR had cut off before they showed this words on the screen, but I am just laying here and decided to watch “Being Catelynn”, which I recorded directly following “Being Farrah”, so as soon as I hit play, I read the words on the screen about Farrah’s second porno. Ugh! I hope that this is just scummy Vivid Entertainment using footage from the original filming to make a second porn. I wonder if this is what she was talking to Dr. Jenn about? Or as someone else had speculated a few weeks ago, maybe she signed a contract for a second film that she couldn’t get out of? Oh Mama Mia! I still feel bad for this girl. Nothing will change that for me. Maybe I’m a fool. IDK.
I’m no Farrah fan by any means. I think she’s horrible. But I definitely think Vivid completely screwed her with that second tape of unused footage! BUT, that’s why you bring an ATTORNEY to your negotiation. NOT your toddler and DAD!
As much as I think Farrah is a problem child who has a child & 22 yoa, it pains me to be fair.
She actually didn’t go and make a 2nd porno tape. That’s her ‘huge contract’ issue she’s been talking about. When she filmed the sex tape, they didn’t release everything, but she signed a release so all that film belonged to Vivid. So to capitalize on her ‘fame’ – they released a second tape with another title. She didn’t anticipate that.
It wasn’t to capitalize on her fame, it was to get back at her for all of the lying she’s done about being drugged and raped while promoting the porno.
I absolute cannot stomach Farrah. I’ve watched her since 16 and pregnant and think she’s a disgrace. While I think her parents aren’t the greatest, she does NOT act like an abused child. Abused children are terrified of their abusive parent(s) and yes a lot act out, some more than others….but the way she talks to them-no way! I think she’s just a spoiled and entitled brat whose parents always treated her as a princess and never said no.
My father was a horrible abusive drunk. My mother let him do things to me…. And I did act out in teenage years, but I made sure to make something of my life and push forward. I own any mistakes I’ve made and don’t blame it on “my past”. There comes a point where you cannot blame your wrong doings on how you grew up. She’s old enough now to know right from wrong. I would have much more sympathy for her if she did that but instead she does no wrong and plays victim. She’s playing dr. Jen like a damn fiddle.
Also- if her parents were soooo abusive why is she leaving Sophia with them so much?!? Why doesn’t dr. Jen ask these kinds of questions instead of kissing her ass? Farrah does NOT think of Sophia first… She would have done everything to make a living without the embarrassment of a sex tape and put that precious little girl first!
Not to mention how much she lies…. I don’t buy into any of her bs. She’s a disgrace.
I’ve been more than vocal on my general dislike of this girl – so you’re kinda’ preaching to the choir with me. The only things I honestly don’t know or can’t even guess at are why Vivid released the 2nd tape (I was speculating about the release being due to her fame as she’s now on national TV again), and I can’t say she wasn’t abused.
I do think she’s an entitled little brat – and that’s the nicest I have been about her, except for saying she didn’t actually film a second porn film 🙂
TT thanks. For the best recap ever you hit the nail on the head.