MJ and I follow each other on Twitter and I am a fan. No matter how much I like someone, I rarely agree with every single action they take or every opinion they hold. This is where I find myself with MJ. She has blogged about her disagreement with GG and I am really trying to wrap my head around her point of view. But I’m not being very successful in my efforts.
I struggle to write this week’s blog knowing half the Bravosphere is tweeting me evil comments from last night’s episode. All I can say is that I’ve been through worse, and despite the toils of my friendships, my priority is to stand up and take less shit from people around me. I love my friends, but I can’t take abuse without fighting back for what I believe. Our friendship dynamic is extremely complicated. Our emotions run high when we we’re faced with taking sides against each other. Bottom line: we feel loyal to one another, but being honest with each comes at a cost.
I’m am happy to hear that MJ is going to stand up for herself more this season. Taking less shit from people is a great start. However, that does not mean throwing more shit is the proper methodology.
In the situation where Shawn ogled other girls at the club, I felt insulted by his behavior. Emotionally, I was equally as offended as if it were my man who was eye f—ing other girls, and I felt it to be hurtful and extremely disrespectful. Shawn traveled to Las Vegas and New York a lot and GG was always questioning his loyalty to her. When I said what I said to him, in my mind, at that moment, I was sticking up for her, by taking a dig at him. I thought he deserved it, and that my comment was one-upping his stares. But right after I said that, I saw that it totally backfired, at which point I realized I meddled counter-productively, and I removed myself from the situation.
I can’t comprehend the logic that says ratting out your girl’s secrets to her new man is sticking up for her. I just can’t. But let’s all try to pretend it makes sense, at least to MJ. Because later she admits that she was meddling. And that she fled the scene when she realized her mistake.
When Reza comes over to discuss the other night, it’s obvious that my mischief was a mistake, and as much I meant to make nothing more than a playful stab at Shawn for acting “douche” toward her, she wasn’t laughing with me, and I ended up being the douche. And she took it and ran with it, and accused me of having malicious intent, which I did not at all have. I felt as betrayed by GG, for having my loyalty taken into question so easily. All of a sudden, even though I acknowledged, was honest, fully owned it, and apologized for a momentary lapse of reason, she made a capital case out of it, and it was as though I was never a good friend in all our years of loyalty. Our loyalty which ran both ways. Suddenly, my funds in the bank of GG were depleted to zero. For me, that created something even bigger, it spoke volumes for how much she can f— up and how I was not given the benefit of the doubt.
It was a mistake. Yes. She was a douche yes. But she did not fully own her actions or apologize for them. GG asked her why she did it. She thought it was funny. Even on the previews for next week’s show, GG asks her again if she was sorry for what she did, and MJ says no. We all make mistakes, all we can do is apologize and move on. It’s not so much what MJ did as much as it is her lack of remorse. I still like MJ, I just can’t support mean girl behavior whether it comes from Reza or MJ.
What do you think?
She did too much.. She may have thought she was sticking it to him, but he nor GG took it that way, apologize and move on… she’s gonna have to bite the bullet on this one, she did it for no good reason, it was dumb as hell and now she needs to apologize…own it crazy MJ, own your crazy and move on
Happy pills,alcohol and time is marching across her face it time for thiis once classy young lady to get help she is begining to look like Her mother and anna nicole smith all she need is blonde hair. MJ
Trust me you are becoming the clown of the show.
I agree, MJ IMO , just let it simmer and settle, then let it die off, and be forgotten, it will, I to believe you made a mistake telling GG’s Bf what you told him. To me, you just don’t do that to your close friend, no matter what . Your explanation makes absolutely no sense, then you say you thought it was funny? Sorry, I don’t get it. I think your great, but you made a mistake on this one, apologize to Golnesa and move on.
Lord have mercy MJ what is going on?? Happy pills,alcohol is aging you. Reza and being a bitch will get you no where. Stop it now!! We love you so let’s rewind its not to Late this show is your stepping stone. Girl you can make this your show, OWN IT!!!!!!
I think MJ moves on from this with GG. They’re in a good place now and that makes me think they’ve reconciled somehow. I just have to remember how cra-cra GG has been and they all have given her so many 2nd chances.
I hope MJ sees the light about Reza. They don’t seem that close right now so I’m hoping MJ has learned who’s who and who her friends really are. Everyone makes mistakes at times
Thanks for the blog T…..
I think GG hurt MJ’s pride at the dinner party when GG called MJ out for not RSVP’ing Lilly’s party. If GG disagreed with MJ, she should’ve done it in private (like Reza did).
Then MJ reciprocated with GG by calling her out to her boyfriend at the party – big mistake – the issues were totally different. But emotional pain can make people say things they wouldn’t normally say, and MJ suffered greatly last season.
Normally I don’t make excuses such high school actions, but in this case I gotta cut MJ some slack. Hopefully she won’t do it anymore, I bet she will, but hopefully not.
At this point I’m trying to figure out who has the more despicable cast – Shahs or Vanderpump Rules? I’d like to think the VR cast is young and may learn as they grow older, whereas the Shahs are adults who behave reprehensively and show no signs of changing, but at this point, both shows are filled with such horrible peole aznd no real “heores” to root for.
Um, MJ said she did it because she couldn’t take GG getting on to her man when she had made out with another guy at Lilly’s party. I like MJ too but it seems she has decided that if you can’t take the dark side, you join it.
#StayOutOfGrownFolksBusiness – Wendy Williams