As you all may recall, Belinda was caring for her husband in the end stages of cancer. Many of us following the Jodi Arias trial offered her support. She tried to slip a message in to you all in the Adam Sandler post comments but I wanted to be sure you all saw it so I hope she doesn’t mind me moving it here.
Click through for her message…
Please excuse my indulgence of posting completely off topic. A while ago I posted that my husband was dying of cancer and my adult sons and I were caring for him. The outpouring of caring and support toward us , from many of you, was wonderful. He died last week with us holding him. Hospice nurses told me that they have never seen sons as committed to the 24 hour care of a parent as our sons were. What a tribute to the man he was to have raised the men that are our boys. To all of you who shared your stories, your feelings and your affection…….THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH !
Tamara…thank you so very much. I am greatly appreciative.
I am hopeful that your family had the opportunity for closure and that your healing is swift, Belinda.
I’m very sorry for your loss Belinda. I will be praying for you and your boys.
My prayers and thoughts are with you and your sons Belinda. May you find peace. I am so sorry for your loss.
My thoughts and prayers are with you. I lost my husband almost three years ago, it is still very hard for me. Let people help and please don’t be alone too much. I will pray for your comfort everyday.
Very sorry for your loss, may all the good times you shared carry you through the difficult times.
I am so very sorry for your loss. What wonderful sons you have and how proud you must be! Take care and please check in with us and let us know how you are doing.
You are truly blessed to have 2 wonderful sons to help,
you both did a great job…
You are all in my prayers…
Peace to you Belinda…
That is one of the sweetest bogs I’ve ever read. Kudos Tamara, You are a great and inspiring human being.
Belinda, what you said was a great testament to the man that your husband was. Because of that, he will live on. My sympathies to you and your loving family.
As a hospice nurse, and a fellow human, I just wanted you to know what a gift you gave your precious husband and father by taking such loving care of him. The greatest gift one human can give another is to BE with them, to the very end of this life’s path as they cross to another realm. You have every right to be so very proud of your sons, as well as yourself, for the care you gave. Take it into your heart with love. Namaste.
Amen.
Prayers to you and your sons Belinda
I am so sorry for your loss. You have wonderful sons and they will help you thru the months ahead. What a great tribute to have the Hospice workers commend your wonderful sons. Y ou are in my heart and prayers.
Twenty years ago, when my children,19 & 22, lost their dad @ 47, the thing I loved the most was how we all loved each other. I think prayers and thoughts from friends have been answered. My deepest empathy to you all. Be well.
Belinda,
Sorry for your lost. Lost of a loved one is always difficult. The charished memories will sustain you. My heart and prays to you and your sons.
blessings to you, belinda. i wish you and your loved ones peace at this sad time.
I am so sorry to hear about this, Belinda. Your husband loved you and your sons so very much, and must be very proud of you all for being such a family united by love, strength and compassion for each other.
So very sorry for your loss. I hope your memories are a comfort to you. You are very blessed to have sons like you do. I hope that time helps to heal your hurt.
I thank you for the music
And your stories of the road
I thank you for the freedom
When it came my time to go
I thank you for the kindness
And the times when you got tough
And, papa, I don’t think I
Said ‘I love you’ near enough
The leader of the band is tired
And his eyes are growing old
But his blood runs through my instrument
And his song is in my soul
My life has been a poor attempt
To imitate the man
I’m just a living legacy
To the leader of the band
-Dan Fogelberg
I’m so very sorry for your loss. Sending you love Belinda.
So beautiful, Trish. Thank you for posting!
Sorry for your loss. Praying for you and your family.
My thoughts go out to you. I’m so happy for you that you have awesome sons to lean on during this time.
I am caring for my father now going on 10 years. The cancer, leukemia, is back after remission in 2009 and a 2010 stem cell transplant. Not sure what kind this time or what’s going on (another bone marrow aspiration tomorrow), but my parents have 2 sons and me.
Belinda… you and your beloved husband are two beautiful people who raised two wonderful sons. My two brothers haven’t even bothered to call. They dont care. I’m all my parents have. I would die for them. I’m thankful they raised me to be the wonderful, caring, loving, strong woman I am and also thankful I accepted the gift of their teaching.
Sadly, because of this, my personal life has been closed for the better part of a decade. Mom and dad come first.
We all love you. You and your entire family are in my prayers. All of you.
With love and deepest sympathies,
McAmster
(Amy Suter)
DEAR TATTLERS……there are simply no words to express my gratitude and happiness to all of you (starting with Tamara for giving me my very own space ).Who’s luckier than I ?
I have found, through this whole journey, that even though we are hugely grateful for the caring and help of extended family and friends, it is kind of expected. But I never ceased to be deeply and profoundly touched by the kindness of strangers….the cashier in the market when I had to buy adult undergarments, the clerk at the natural food store when I tried the holistic route, the hospice crew are some examples . And all of you….who took your time to share your story or send your good wishes. You can not possibly understand the comfort it brings to us unless you have been on the receiving end. Chuck and I had been together for 51 years…since I was 16 years old
and , in my senior year of high school, became a teen Mom. He made me finish college and together we raised our boys. To watch them lift him, clean him, bathe him, converse with him 24 hours a day, was both heartbreaking and beautiful. They took 6 month leaves of absence from their careers, took turns living here with us, transported Chuck to treatments and appointments…did it all. And the wonderful women that they married tended to their homes and children and jobs without complaint still managing to come here to give Chuck massages and foot rubs. He was completely lucid until the end when the six of us held him and spoke to him. If death can be beautiful, his was. His greatest legacy is the men that he taught, by example, his sons to be. We miss him very much and feel somewhat lost but time will
help as have all of you. From the depths of our hearts, thank you so much.
So sorry for your loss. Prayers to you and your family.
Belinda…”To live in hearts we leave behind is not to die” ~ Thomas Campbell
Belinda, Blessings and so proud of your strength and courage to make his last days the ones he wanted………with family.
Love that quote, Bobbi.
Thoughts and prayers to you and yours.
Belinda,
Please know that you will be in my thoughts. I send you my sincere condolences, along with the hope that all of the happily shared memories with your husband and your two very special sons, will sustain and help comfort you.
kc
Blessed are those who mourn
For they will be comforted
Peace and blessings to you Belinda. I am so sorry for your loss.
Love out to and your family. May your God’s love cradle your hearts.
I’m so sorry for your loss Belinda. I hope your happy memories will fill your heart and ease your pain.
Prayers for you and your sons tonight. I am sorry for your loss.
Belinda I am so sorry for the loss of your husband. Take comfort every time you look at your wonderful sons that you and he brought into the world, I know you can see him in them, and hopefully that will ease your pain some.You and your family are in my prayers.
Loving thoughts and prayers to Belinda and her family.
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Prayers and condolences to you Belinda. Today I am home, my sister relieving me of 3 weeks straight of 24 hour care. My mom was diagnosed with brain cancer the day after Mothers Day. I share your pain and am glad you have the support of your family. I have no children and have moments where I feel I’m about to be orphaned. <3
It REALLY SUCKS that so many of us in this random group have personal experiences. My sister died of breast cancer just a few years ago. Cancer sucks.
So sorry for your loss TT. 🙁 You are so right……Cancer sucks! I don’t think there’s anyone on the planet who hasn’t been affected by cancer in one way or another. ~ Belinda, stay strong………If you ever need to talk, you have a whole bunch of new “friends” who care!
Sorry about your sister, Tamara. I can’t even imagine.
Belinda, My condolences. Just lost my Mom and a 1/2 brother within 2 months of each other and some days – it’s hard to just even breath. You know that being with them through it all mean’t everything to them. And all the good memories will come back to you, and then little by little, the signs will come and show you they are still in your heart and time will start to mend your saddness. ~ Godspeed to you and your family !