Gretchen Rossi Unleashes a Wrath of Furry on Some Bitches

Speaking of people who don’t write their own blogs, here is another doozy by Gretchen Rossi. To be fair, it does sort of have her voice. I am sure she scratched some of this out, but I don’t believe for a minute she knows how to properly use a semicolon. She has a good editor. I should hire him or her for mine. Her blog is NINE PAGES and I have tried to pare it down some, but it’s all pretty interesting so I am going to leave the commenting on specifics to you guys.  You can read the ENTIRE NINE PAGES HERE, if you would like. Let’s dive in. Everything from this point on is Gretchen’s words.

I gotta give it to Tamra though; this girl can sell ice to Eskimos. She has this ability to truly make you believe everything she tells you or texts you and then she can turn around and say or do the complete opposite on camera.  I just wish she would have been honest with me from the get go about this whole Alexis issue, because now it feels like she was lying to us both.  She was telling me one thing, all the while telling Alexis the complete opposite. I was played like a fiddle by Tamra on this one.

Eddie calling me childish for not wanting to be there if Alexis was going was hypocritical. Just a few weeks earlier he was the one saying he didn’t want to be anywhere Vicki was and was questioning why Tamra was having Vicki to events. He even said he didn’t think Tamra should be friends with a liar, a cheater, and a manipulating person like her.  Was Eddie being childish too then?

You can imagine my surprise when I heard from the grapevine that Alexis was invited to go dress shopping. My first thought was Tamra and Alexis weren’t even friends. Tamra kicked her out of her party. The two despised each other. Obviously it wasn’t until I was watching the show that I realized that Tamra went and meet with Alexis and was telling her to not tell anyone else about their meeting.  Being that I thought Tamra and I were very close at that time, I didn’t understand why she kept that a secret. That seemed shady to me.

Not knowing any of that went on, and having Tamra still trash talking Alexis during that time, it was confusing to me why Tamra would invite her to a very special day like this. I mean anyone would question why she would invite a woman who up to this point had never even congratulated her on her engagement, had not been involved in any of the wedding planning, bachelorette party, or showers, and making accusations that she was the biggest bully of us all, and threatening to sue her.  Needless to say I was rightfully baffled, and I’m not the kind of person who just goes “oh well whatever.” I am the kind of person who will question why you are saying one thing and doing another.

Like it or not, it’s just my truth. I will not pretend, be fake, or not question my friends when they are talking out both sides of their mouths. The hardest part about watching this episode is that I remember feeling concerned more than anything that, because of our issues with Alexis, Tamra’s special day could get ruined again — like her fitness party.  Even Heather said to me she wasn’t going if Alexis was going, and that it was ridiculous that she would even show up because she and Tamra weren’t friends and Tamra didn’t want her there.  So I figured, well at least Tamra wasn’t just telling me this but also another close friend. It made me feel like I wasn’t out-of-line being concerned and confused. However I guess in Tamra’s book that is being self-centered and egotistical.  My question is why wasn’t Heather being accused of being those things for not wanting to go to the salsa party or dress shopping if Alexis was there?

I explained to Tamra that her dress shopping day was one of the days that Malibu Country had requested my time and  was honest with her that I rather go take that opportunity versus dealing with the potential drama that could ensue with Alexis there. I really was over all of us having the same fight with Alexis and quite frankly I just didn’t want to be back in that situation or be around it again.  However my “I need to be a good friend no matter how I feel” conscious took over and I decided the right thing to do was go and support Tamra — no matter who was there. I had already asked Tamra to move the date once because I couldn’t make it the first time and was bummed, so I didn’t feel right asking her to change it again. So I told my agent, who called me about the part that I was not available on that Friday and that was the end of it…..or at least I thought.

I had no idea the backstabbing, the crap talking, and the things that were being said behind my back. Just the limo ride alone — I mean what an idiot I feel like now for getting in that limo thinking I made the right decision to go and be there for my friend that day.  What a huge slap in my face.  I mean for goodness sakes they even found fault for me wearing a sentimental ring from my fiancé who passed from cancer. How insecure do you have to be to take issue with something like that? Also, Vicki since you were the one who was so sure that I never wear that ring, why don’t you take a closer look at the footage this year or from the past few years since Jeff has passed and you’ll quickly eat your words.  Just go look at our cast photo from Season 7  where I have it on my finger!  I will never get rid of it, and Slade has been nothing but supportive of me keeping the ring and continuing to wear it.  I realized watching this episode that I was going to be damned no matter what I did.  If I went dress shopping, if I didn’t go dress shopping. If I had a blue ring or the ring from Jeff on. If my dress was pink or red.  it didn’t matter they were clearly gunning for me.

Because of all the things Tamra had been negatively saying about Alexis and the way she felt about her at that time you can imagine how flabbergasted I was watching what I thought was bold face lies to Alexis in the dressing room. I wish I knew that was going down because I would have walked right in and showed her all the text messages from that week that showed a different sentiment.  Then hearing Vicki tell Alexis that Tamra was sticking up for her to me was a joke and the furthest thing from the truth! As the saying goes, if you want to tell lies about me then I will start telling the truth about you.

Now let’s be clear on one thing, bottom line is that it was Tamra’s day and whoever she wanted there was up to her and I would never tell her who she could of or couldn’t have with her. I am not that kind of person. If I was, don’t you think I would have made a big stink about Vicki coming to the bachelorette party? I have had more issues with her then I ever had with Alexis. It just doesn’t match up.  One thing I will not do though is sit silently and be played and then accused of things that simply were not the case.  As much as everyone wants to try and play it this way, it had nothing to do with jealousy or not wanting Alexis and Tamra to be friends. We are all adults and everyone can be friends with everyone or whoever they damn well please! It had nothing to do with that it had everything to do with Tamra not being honest with me and feeling like I was being played.

Over the years I have been accused of a lot of things by these woman: cheating accusations, not wanting each other to be friends, conspiracy, lying, just to name a few.  So let’s review some of these accusations:  One: I was actually encouraging Tamra way back at Heather’s clambake to be nice to Vicki and talk to her, so how is that not wanting them to be friends? And you have never once seen me say to Tamra not to be friends with Alexis (I only questioned why she was saying one thing to me and doing another) Two: I was told that Slade was with me for the wrong reasons and that he and I have conspired our whole relationship just for the show — yet four years later we are strong as ever. Three: I was accused of lying and not being offered a job with Fox Five, which I proved was true with proof at the reunion last year. Now this year I am being accused of making up that I got asked to participate in Malibu Country.  Well all I have to say is stay tuned! I’ve learned with this group never say something you don’t have to ability to prove, because at some point you are sure to get questioned about it.

Many have asked if I was surprised about this thing with Tamra, and the truth is yes and no. I was very hopeful it would not revert to this with us again because I felt like we really had something good going. We had regained trust. We had built what I thought was a true friendship. But is seems as soon as outside influences start getting in her ear she questions everything about me and everything she knows in her heart I had been to her. She did it before and so I’m not surprised she is doing it again. Remember this was over six months ago and things have changed since then. We have talked through a lot of things that happened, however that doesn’t mean it still  doesn’t hurt to see what she was saying about me.

It’s hard to watch these episodes and have emotions stirred up about some of the Wives. For instance Slade and I consider Heather and Terry good friends of ours.  We really do adore them and believe they are sincerely happy for us. However I will say that it really took me by surprise and hurt me to hear Heather questioning me and say I either got something colossally confused or that I lied.  There would be no good reason to lie about something like this and especially to Heather who is in the business.

I also can’t help but find it a little strange that two days earlier on the way to the salsa party when I told her I had been called about Malibu Country she failed to tell me she was also talking to them about a part. I would think as my friend she would say, “Oh how cool that we both might be doing something on the same show.” But instead she did not say one word to me in the car ride.  Then when I asked her the night before if she was driving in the limo to Tamra’s dress shopping day she said no because she had an appointment in the morning, once again failing to tell me it was for Malibu Country.

I personally would have never gone to an audition or table read and then discussed something Heather told me with the producers. Quite frankly I think it was unprofessional and inappropriate, and I felt it was done behind my back.  If she got information from producers that were different from casting and my agent then she should have come to me to discuss it or at least allowed me to defend myself or give my point of view in front of all the ladies. As Lydia and Lauri pointed out it was not cool to have that conversation with all the woman without me there to defend myself.

As I continued to watch the show, I became even more baffled because, as a friend, I would have hoped she would’ve not only told me from the get-go that she was talking to them — but if she knew the producers then I thought she would’ve even said something like ,“Hey, I’ve worked with them before.  I’ll put in a good word for you.”  I mean it’s not like we were even competing for the same part. When my agent called she said “They want you to play yourself.” And Heather clearly made it known that we were asked about different roles.  The entire situation was very disappointing to me, and created what I felt was unnecessary conflict between Heather and I and the rest of the women.

I was relieved to see that at least Lauri and Lydia stuck up for me. I would expect that from Lauri,  because we have always been on good terms. But I was surprised and happy about Lydia because up to this point we hadn’t really had that much of a connection. I sincerely appreciated that. Lauri clarifying that Vicki accusing me of being a liar is ridiculous considering everything she has been lying about for years, goes to prove once again Vicki will do anything to deflect something off herself.  It was crazy to see how desperate she was to have everyone believe I was a liar.  It just continued to make me realize how truly malicious and hateful she is towards me.

It’s always so hard to go back to these feelings months later and rehash the hurt and pain you remember dealing with back then and having emotions stirred up from what is now our pasts.  I feel like a lot has changed since then, truths have been realized, things have been discussed and some relationships have been restored.  I have learned to keep my heart a little more protected. Good news is every week I learn a lot more watching the show.