Because both Vicki and Gretchen did not post blogs last week they both have extremely long ones this week. I covered the Lauri stuff from Vicki’s in this post. In Gretchen’s latest blog, the first four pages are talking about Vicki and her alleged adultery and pretty much that she can’t stand her. She seems very angry but other than that, it’s four pages of how much she doesn’t like Vicki. As I have said before in the fight for Tamra’s friendship, Vicki will win. The show will make is seem like this is because of Vicki’s devious trickery. It’s not. It is because Tamra and Gretchen both fought each other for a Bravo Wedding show and so far at least, Tamra is the only one getting her wedding paid for by Bravo. That is the source of their issues. The little peripheral issues with Vicki are mostly storyline drama fabricated by Bravo.
So let’s get to what happened in Mexico. Gretchen says:
Now onto other things! Obviously Heather and I were beyond upset when we were left behind at the restaurant, and even though Vicki was the leader of the pack Lydia and Tamra are grown woman and knew what they were doing. They should have said “no this is not cool” and turned around. I was beyond disappointed they didn’t. I was happy to see Lydia kept trying to call us at least, but bottom line they all stayed out till 2 am, and, as Tamra said, they were more interested in partying and getting drunk and ultimately proved that they didn’t give a damn about our feelings. I really don’t think I could have ever done that to a “friend,” especially ones that took time away from family and work to put the whole weekend together for me.
I had mentioned to the girls that I wanted to take them to a fun bar. Gretchen and Heather both said they were up for it, and then through the evening they said they were tired. Lydia, Tamra and I waited over 20 minutes outside the restaurant for them, and we wanted to go to Andale’s. We relayed back to the hostess and to let them know we were going to walk there, and for them to grab a cab. It’s obvious from looking at the show that they never got that message, but that wasn’t our fault. They knew where we went, and if they really wanted to join us they could have. They knew where we went so I don’t understand how they acted like we “ditched” them.
Tamra, Lydia and I walked about 30 minutes to get to the bar, and along the way we bought those flashing rabbit ears. It was so much fun to wear those. I know it wasn’t another good hair night for me, as the humidity and my hair turn out to be brutal on me.
About those “rabbit ears” (which are really Mickey Mouse ears) Lydia bought them and she bought five, you can see the other two in her hands. Clearly, they were hoping the other two would catch up.
Gretchen moves on in her blog to talk about Tamra. She has a lot to say about her as well. None of it very nice. Gretchen it seems doesn’t even have to pretend that things work out for her friendship with Tamra anymore.
As hurt as I was and as much as I wanted to get on a plane and just come back home the next morning, I knew that is exactly what Vicki wanted me to do, and I wasn’t going to let her get the best of me. I knew I had to be the bigger person and just suck it up for the sake of being there for Tamra. Many people didn’t know the stress I had going on in my life at the time. Between Grayson being in the hospital and not waking up and right before the Mexico trip I had been in trial for three weeks dealing with the individual that was harassing me, I was exhausted — mentally, physically, and emotionally. But I still found energy to go shopping for bachelorette party and put together those fun gift bags because I really wanted it to be special for Tamra and fun for the girls. So needless to say, I felt like when she just ran off with Vicki (who just a week earlier Tamra texting me negative things about) it was a huge slap in the face — and actually a big wake up call to me. I realized that night that I cared more about Tamra than she cared about me.
I have to admit, Tamra confuses me. The next day when I addressed her about why she sabotages relationships with people who get close to her and actually care about her, she broke down and gave me a glimpse into why she is the way she is. I found myself feeling sad for her and allowing the prior nights activities to just be forgotten. She has this ability, even when she does you wrong, to make you believe she didn’t mean to do it. Unfortunately, someone like me who tends to wear their heart on their sleeve is always going to fall for it because I want to believe her and believe she had not ill intent. Most call it naive, but I like to consider it always looking for the good in someone.
Our conversation on the beach was nearly two hour long. We talked about so many things and I’m sad they couldn’t show it all. Tamra said some very complimentary things about me as a person and a friend, and it made me feel good that she actually recognizes those character traits about me. However, it’s conversations like these that no matter how hurt I am I feel like I get sucked back in to thinking she cares about the friendship the same way I do. In these moments she makes me feel like we are actually very close. For example when she says “I’ve never talked to any friend but you about these things before” etc., it confuses me, because if she feels safe enough to share these very intimate details with me it leads me to believe she really trusts me and considers me a very close friend.
Good Lord, Gretchen’s feelings were hurt by Lydia as well. It’s as if everyone is oh I dunno, bullying her! SMH Gretchen says:
I was also frustrated about what went down in the limo with Lydia. I felt it was very insensitive what she said with Heather and I sitting right there, and more so how defensive she got when we said that wasn’t very nice. I also feel like she kind of stirred the pot by asking if we were all good in the car, which brought the mood down and forced us to address something Heather and I were clearly trying to move past. Then once we stated our true feelings she claims we are sulking and making it uncomfortable? How does that make sense, she brought it up?
Gretchen’s entire theme is that Vicki “was going to try and ruin it as best she could.” Believe me, I have snipped A LOT from her long rant.
Vicki’s entire comment about the first evening was:
When we got back to the condo, I didn’t expect it to be a big deal. We all thought it was their choice not to go, so why would they be mad? Tamra and I had a blast, we laughed a lot and really feel like we made headway in our friendship.
One thing both ladies agree on was that the strippers were awful and scary and inappropriate. So there is that. I bet Phaedra would have loved them! They also appear to have had lots of fun that night that was not shown.
Meanwhile, Tamra is getting married to Eddie tomorrow.
So um, YAY for gay marriage? Congrats, Tamra!