Note: This Blog Started out with a totally different topic.
Blogging is a weird thing. I feel like I need to blog every day, and sometimes there is just nothing that interests me or that I think will interest you. Other days I am blogging as fast as I can from morning until night. Feast or famine. And then there are stories I am not sure how to tell, that I want to write whether you are interested in them or not. It’s 12:30 a.m. and I have a blog with lots of sources I have pulled up but I am not sure how to pull it together. (Turns out it will wait for another day).
I’ve been cranky all day. The day started off poorly from the first moment and became more annoying as time wore on. I blame the utter failure of #compassion2013. It seems the more “successful” your blog becomes, the more comments you have, the more you are compelled to babysit. Babysitting the comments requires reading them all. They stream in around the clock. Lately, it doesn’t matter if the topic is a Bravo show or a death penalty trial the comments are decidedly negative. Or illiterate. Or stupid. Or just plain untrue.
Oh yes, I have heard that I should be thrilled with having lots of comments. It a sign of a healthy site. But here is the thing. Y’all only see the comments I put through. Understand, when I started, I thought I would put everything through. Yay! People are reading what I am writing! That, by the way would be assuming facts clearly not in evidence. I could start a blog titled, THE WORLD WILL END TODAY AT 4:29 PM! KISS YOUR ASS GOODBYE! And the first comment may likely be… “So I was on Facebook today (link to facebook.com), and someone said their nephew’s best friends teacher told them the world was going to end, did anyone hear anything about that? The second comment will be, “Hey, I haven’t had time to read the post yet, but does anyone know who much longer til the world ends?” The third will be,” WHY DO YOU HATE THE WORLD? YOU JUST WANT THE WORLD TO END BECAUSE YOU ARE RACIST” The next will be “Hi! I just wanted to tell you that a deranged person has posted your personal information here (link) and here (link) and she also said you are fat. Are you fat? Are you Mexican? I heard you were Mexican. Anyway, I just wanted you (and all your followers to see this!) because I am a loyal and helpful reader. Love your blog!.” Around this time, some other very helpful person will come in correcting grammar. Another person will point out it is racist to call someone a Mexican.
Then the emails start. “This is my first time on your blog and I read something that offended me and I am leaving your site forever (as if I would notice)” “I am a longstanding commenter who really liked your blog until you suggested that Jodi Arias’s attorneys are just doing their jobs! How can you tell us not to mock them?” “Wait, you put up those cool caricatures of the attorneys from that one site, but we can’t call them out of their name and banter back and forth about how fat someone is? Is this because you are fat?” “Why are my posts not showing up? Am I banned?” “Why do you let that cunt TC post here? We don’t like her she is a bitch and says mean things and calls us stupid. She needs to go.” “Why do you let stupid people post here?” “I’m not trying to tell you what to do, but that purtridvidacostrarica person doesn’t belong here.” “If you don’t get rid of Edgarrr I am never ever posting here again, he thinks Jodi was set up!” “I love you on RHOOC, and I totally understand what it is like not being able to express emotions. I really hope you get this email.”
Ooops time to moderate comments again. “If you want to know how my sister died, you just ask me. Why are you tweeting about something you know nothing about? Here is all my contact information. I demand an apology!” “he be being a faggot an it ain’t a thing to do that the mother on the show said praise the lord go to hell satanic in new jersey jailtime gooberpie!” “Travis is a paadofyile.” “Why don’t you blog about Married to Medicine?” “This is a terrible blog and I hate it and I have posted this everyday for the last two months and you never put it through because you only put the nice comments through.” And my new personal favorite, “I donated to your legal fund and I really hope you kick Sheree’s ass and here is what I expect you to do for me, you need to be nicer to the housewives I LIKE and stop throwing shade at the ones I don’t I am sick and tire of coming here and reading something nice about them bitches I can’t stand. Like why you say nice thinks about Aviva?”
It’s a constant stream of negativity. It’s not good for my mental health. Or yours in my opinion. This started sometime around the end of last year. Thus the #compassion2013 plan. Part of the problem for me is, y’all seem to think you can say whatever the fuck you want in comments and I am expected to be “nice”. I’m not a particularly nice person. If I were asked to make a list of my personality traits, ‘opinionated’ would come very near the top of the list. Nice would not. Neither would hateful. And sometimes y’all work yourself up into a frenzy. You turn into an angry mob. I don’t so much have a problem with that, as I do with the fact that my silence implies tacit agreement and when I speak up on issues the sanctimony comes out. “Oh please forgive me, how dare I say something negative about a defense attorney that defends murderers and pedophiles! I’m terribly sorry and besides, I was just agreeing with someone else, it will never ever happen again. I will just be all sunshine and light to the people who are defiling the reputation of a dead man. really. Perhaps I should just keep my opinions to myself.”
So a large part of my day today was spent watching a RHOOC post circle the drain because the comments turned into a 5th grade grammar lesson ( between people, who for the most part, are clearly not capable of giving the lesson) trying teaching someone the difference between subject pronouns and object pronouns. While the Jodi Arias people were busy making sure the people in their mob were not offended by something someone in the other mob said about needlessly debasing the defense attorneys. It’s amazing to me that women, even on the same damn side of the trial, will find some way to attack each other and then declare their side as the good side. Or worse, suggest that someone with a different viewpoint must be a “long time commenter” in order to “get away with saying that.”
I can’t recall shutting down comments on posts before today. But today both camps had a thread shut down. In the RHOOC post, the grammar student, eventually went to another RHOOC post to apologize for mistakenly correcting someone else’s pronoun usage. While there, (comment has been deleted) she seemed confused as to why the comments were off in the other post. I may have banged my head against the wall, considering I asked that she get her grammar education on another site. I am still getting emails asking me why they can’t post in the RHOOC comments.
So today, can we at least TRY to post like the adult women we are? The Jodi Arias trial is sad and depressing enough without me getting a slew of emails from people who feel like they can’t state their opinions without being run off the site. It seems like some of you want to attack posters, who want to discuss the facts of the case and what is going on in the courtroom rather than bashing the defense attorneys. This is not the first time I have mentioned it. Today, I literally went to look for a place to post on the trial MYSELF someplace else. Y’all clearly weren’t reading the updates anyway. The majority of the 200 comments were veiled comments about how someone was just lurking and everyone else was begging her to come back but she could not possibly because she didn’t want to offend anyone. Meanwhile my email was full of “I just won’t post with the angry mob who just wants to debase the defense, and why aren’t you saying anything.” Why? Because I am sick of babysitting grown-ass women. When it devolved into who is the REAL “hater” I was pretty much done. I’d say we all agree that is Jodi and attacking each other is annoying.
This is not a chat room. I’m not AOL circa 1987. There is a post and there are comments on the topic. This is not a teaching site. I COULD teach you the difference between a subject pronoun and an object pronoun, but I am not going to. I have a blog because I have opinions. I don’t want whiney emails about how I should not be on one side or the other. I am. My opinions are generally in the POST which you should read sometime if you are curious. Comments that start with “I haven’t read anything yet but, did y’all know…” Or “I’m new but did you know that…” or especially “I am not telling you how to run your blog but…” will now officially be deleted.
So um, have a nice day.