Note: This Blog Started out with a totally different topic.
Blogging is a weird thing. I feel like I need to blog every day, and sometimes there is just nothing that interests me or that I think will interest you. Other days I am blogging as fast as I can from morning until night. Feast or famine. And then there are stories I am not sure how to tell, that I want to write whether you are interested in them or not. It’s 12:30 a.m. and I have a blog with lots of sources I have pulled up but I am not sure how to pull it together. (Turns out it will wait for another day).
I’ve been cranky all day. The day started off poorly from the first moment and became more annoying as time wore on. I blame the utter failure of #compassion2013. It seems the more “successful” your blog becomes, the more comments you have, the more you are compelled to babysit. Babysitting the comments requires reading them all. They stream in around the clock. Lately, it doesn’t matter if the topic is a Bravo show or a death penalty trial the comments are decidedly negative. Or illiterate. Or stupid. Or just plain untrue.
Oh yes, I have heard that I should be thrilled with having lots of comments. It a sign of a healthy site. But here is the thing. Y’all only see the comments I put through. Understand, when I started, I thought I would put everything through. Yay! People are reading what I am writing! That, by the way would be assuming facts clearly not in evidence. I could start a blog titled, THE WORLD WILL END TODAY AT 4:29 PM! KISS YOUR ASS GOODBYE! And the first comment may likely be… “So I was on Facebook today (link to facebook.com), and someone said their nephew’s best friends teacher told them the world was going to end, did anyone hear anything about that? The second comment will be, “Hey, I haven’t had time to read the post yet, but does anyone know who much longer til the world ends?” The third will be,” WHY DO YOU HATE THE WORLD? YOU JUST WANT THE WORLD TO END BECAUSE YOU ARE RACIST” The next will be “Hi! I just wanted to tell you that a deranged person has posted your personal information here (link) and here (link) and she also said you are fat. Are you fat? Are you Mexican? I heard you were Mexican. Anyway, I just wanted you (and all your followers to see this!) because I am a loyal and helpful reader. Love your blog!.” Around this time, some other very helpful person will come in correcting grammar. Another person will point out it is racist to call someone a Mexican.
Then the emails start. “This is my first time on your blog and I read something that offended me and I am leaving your site forever (as if I would notice)” “I am a longstanding commenter who really liked your blog until you suggested that Jodi Arias’s attorneys are just doing their jobs! How can you tell us not to mock them?” “Wait, you put up those cool caricatures of the attorneys from that one site, but we can’t call them out of their name and banter back and forth about how fat someone is? Is this because you are fat?” “Why are my posts not showing up? Am I banned?” “Why do you let that cunt TC post here? We don’t like her she is a bitch and says mean things and calls us stupid. She needs to go.” “Why do you let stupid people post here?” “I’m not trying to tell you what to do, but that purtridvidacostrarica person doesn’t belong here.” “If you don’t get rid of Edgarrr I am never ever posting here again, he thinks Jodi was set up!” “I love you on RHOOC, and I totally understand what it is like not being able to express emotions. I really hope you get this email.”
Ooops time to moderate comments again. “If you want to know how my sister died, you just ask me. Why are you tweeting about something you know nothing about? Here is all my contact information. I demand an apology!” “he be being a faggot an it ain’t a thing to do that the mother on the show said praise the lord go to hell satanic in new jersey jailtime gooberpie!” “Travis is a paadofyile.” “Why don’t you blog about Married to Medicine?” “This is a terrible blog and I hate it and I have posted this everyday for the last two months and you never put it through because you only put the nice comments through.” And my new personal favorite, “I donated to your legal fund and I really hope you kick Sheree’s ass and here is what I expect you to do for me, you need to be nicer to the housewives I LIKE and stop throwing shade at the ones I don’t I am sick and tire of coming here and reading something nice about them bitches I can’t stand. Like why you say nice thinks about Aviva?”
It’s a constant stream of negativity. It’s not good for my mental health. Or yours in my opinion. This started sometime around the end of last year. Thus the #compassion2013 plan. Part of the problem for me is, y’all seem to think you can say whatever the fuck you want in comments and I am expected to be “nice”. I’m not a particularly nice person. If I were asked to make a list of my personality traits, ‘opinionated’ would come very near the top of the list. Nice would not. Neither would hateful. And sometimes y’all work yourself up into a frenzy. You turn into an angry mob. I don’t so much have a problem with that, as I do with the fact that my silence implies tacit agreement and when I speak up on issues the sanctimony comes out. “Oh please forgive me, how dare I say something negative about a defense attorney that defends murderers and pedophiles! I’m terribly sorry and besides, I was just agreeing with someone else, it will never ever happen again. I will just be all sunshine and light to the people who are defiling the reputation of a dead man. really. Perhaps I should just keep my opinions to myself.”
So a large part of my day today was spent watching a RHOOC post circle the drain because the comments turned into a 5th grade grammar lesson ( between people, who for the most part, are clearly not capable of giving the lesson) trying teaching someone the difference between subject pronouns and object pronouns. While the Jodi Arias people were busy making sure the people in their mob were not offended by something someone in the other mob said about needlessly debasing the defense attorneys. It’s amazing to me that women, even on the same damn side of the trial, will find some way to attack each other and then declare their side as the good side. Or worse, suggest that someone with a different viewpoint must be a “long time commenter” in order to “get away with saying that.”
I can’t recall shutting down comments on posts before today. But today both camps had a thread shut down. In the RHOOC post, the grammar student, eventually went to another RHOOC post to apologize for mistakenly correcting someone else’s pronoun usage. While there, (comment has been deleted) she seemed confused as to why the comments were off in the other post. I may have banged my head against the wall, considering I asked that she get her grammar education on another site. I am still getting emails asking me why they can’t post in the RHOOC comments.
So today, can we at least TRY to post like the adult women we are? The Jodi Arias trial is sad and depressing enough without me getting a slew of emails from people who feel like they can’t state their opinions without being run off the site. It seems like some of you want to attack posters, who want to discuss the facts of the case and what is going on in the courtroom rather than bashing the defense attorneys. This is not the first time I have mentioned it. Today, I literally went to look for a place to post on the trial MYSELF someplace else. Y’all clearly weren’t reading the updates anyway. The majority of the 200 comments were veiled comments about how someone was just lurking and everyone else was begging her to come back but she could not possibly because she didn’t want to offend anyone. Meanwhile my email was full of “I just won’t post with the angry mob who just wants to debase the defense, and why aren’t you saying anything.” Why? Because I am sick of babysitting grown-ass women. When it devolved into who is the REAL “hater” I was pretty much done. I’d say we all agree that is Jodi and attacking each other is annoying.
This is not a chat room. I’m not AOL circa 1987. There is a post and there are comments on the topic. This is not a teaching site. I COULD teach you the difference between a subject pronoun and an object pronoun, but I am not going to. I have a blog because I have opinions. I don’t want whiney emails about how I should not be on one side or the other. I am. My opinions are generally in the POST which you should read sometime if you are curious. Comments that start with “I haven’t read anything yet but, did y’all know…” Or “I’m new but did you know that…” or especially “I am not telling you how to run your blog but…” will now officially be deleted.
So um, have a nice day.
Tamara,I had no idea how hard what you do is, but I want to say thank you for doing it. Not going to go into long song and dance here, but these last few months for me have been the worst of my life. I have had people I love die, a husband betray me, a really really really bad health diagnosis, the list could go on and on. There have been days that I thought I would never stop crying. And then, out of the blue, I would see your blog come to my email and if just for a few minutes, my problems went away. I want to thank you for that, I really do. It means more than you will ever know. I kind of hope you don’t post this, just read it and know you are so very appreciated and what you do matters to those of us that sometimes have very little other bright spots in our day.
Your comment is especially profound to me because I distinctly remember one of your comments being the light of my day. I made a response about giving you the award for #compassion2013. It was literally the only nice thing I had read all day that day. I am so sorry you are going through a bad time. I hope your health takes a turn for the good. My problems are not nearly as dire as yours, but you did brighten my day with your comments. It means a lot to me too. And I am posting your comment because I know so many of us NEED a bright spot. You have been mine.
All my best,
tt
Isabella…..sounds like you are living my life. Hang in there. I’m thinking of you.
Wow, so on point, Tamara, I couldn’t agree more. Isabella J., I always like your posts and I do remember the one TT is referring to. This is supposed to be fun. It makes me smile and often LOL 🙂 Keep on Keeping on.
Wow TT…. My mouth dropped when you people donated and this is what i want you to do for me..wtf
Well hold your head high….
Wellsaid Isabella
time to add a comment paypal button…idiots must pay fee to comment 😉 U deserve something for having to read them & I think variable fee would be best so that an especially heinous comment = something nice for yourself 🙂
I am ready to start giving out fines. Contrary to what some of the other emails accusing me of vacationing on the legal fund will tell you, I can do whatever the fuck I want to do with the legal fund money. Unfortunately, I am using it on atty fees. I also can’t BOOK my trip that I GO ON EVERY JUNE until this shit is over unless I want to continue it.
What is so hard to understand for these folks. If you do not like a topic, the moderator, the blog, the FB post, the Twitter comment, the You Tube video….DO NOT POST. MOVE ON. GET ON WITH YOUR DAY … Go WALK YOUR DOG, PLAY WITH YOUR CAT, VACUUM…DUST or something!!!! I never understand that. Especially on someone’s personal blog!!!
It’s a Crazy World-I agree, I recently (an hour ago?!) stopped posting on an attorney’s blog because I realized (and Tamara stated is SO succinctly!) that it is nothing more than an “AOL circa 1987” attack room. Of course it’s about the JA trial and I learned, not quickly enough, that it is an extension of the JA Innocent site. Not that there’s anything wrong with that….but I was trying to have a real discussion with someone who has a different opinion than mine and I finally became fed up with the attacks. Time to move on…..Your blog is refreshing and will restore my mental health.
Tamara, just wanted to say I can’t imagine managing a blog sight is good for your health. ~ If I could illustrate a tip my my hat to you I would. Since (i am new) I have found coming to your site theraputic, but therein lies the irony not lost on you, I am sure. I hope and imagine you’ll find some peace once this Arias trial is OVER..! It will feel like that big party you were forced to plan, that took way too much time & energy, half the people you had to accomodate, you didn’t know or didn’t like – and the other half of the crowd, you missed having a good time with. Perhaps it’s the seriousness of the subject matter – all that pissing & passion ! So, I hope all the backround noise subsides soon. …and while you enjoy your own endeavors… sit back and enjoy some of the laurels for your skills here because the subject of murder – is such a big mess to clean up ! 🙂
[and… ] OMG – I think Jodi has us all “Spliting” Lol ! Divide and conquer ! 🙂
I haven’t had time to read the post or comments and I’m new here and I’m not trying to tell you how to run your blog and all….lol… No but Seriously…. (see what I did there?).
They can only drive you crazy if you let them. There are those that get it. I’ve lurked around your blog for a long time because of YOU. Even when I think you ain’t right, you’re alright in my world. Like the Cynthia and spouses post this morning…. had me laughing like crazy because who does that? Now I have a fun guessing game going for the day.
There will always be folks trying to tell you how, when , why to do what you do , it and how much better it would be if you did it their way. Keep doing you and eventually the ones that get it continue with you and the ones that don’t can start their own Tamara is rude, opinionated heifer and a meanie blog.
TT i apologize cuz at least one infraction was mine. I never thought of how much you wade thru for us to have this place to enjoy.
Tamara, thanks for you honest, candid post. I know I haven’t been a model commenter, but for the most part I really like everything about this site, including the visual layout and generous white space that makes you want to hang around for awhile and enjoy the read.
Oh, and Ms. Isabella — I’m sending you my best wishes. Thanks for having the courage to share your travails, hope the skies will clear up for you.
Thank you! I did not think Tamara would publish what I wrote to be honest. I just wanted her to know that she is appreciated!
I almost feel bad commenting and adding to your dilemma, but I just wanted to say, I empathize. I blogged religiously for about 13 years – I began back in ’99 before “blogging” was even a thing – and long before the Psychotic Commenting Phenonemon latched it’s busted teeth into the butt of everything we say and shook it’s head like a bad version of Cujo in drag on an unaired episode of RuPaul’s Drag Race. Along the way it became The Thing to have as many followers and comments as (in)humanly possible in some strange show of worth.
Ultimately, last year, I just threw in the dirty towel and let them eat it. If Jesus is a biscuit, I hope they choke. I just couldn’t do it any longer.
I, personally, enjoy your blog immensely. I found it via the trial posts, but have come to love it as a whole – even for the shows I don’t watch (your posts are, often times, better than the show itself).
You are doing a good thing here. It’s a fantastic read all around and one of the few I actually check into daily and look forward to.
Don’t let the vultures get your down.
I read this and when you got to the grammar part, I realized I started that one. Sorry. I was actually just trying to be flippant. I never thought there would be a whole debate about “I” and “me”. It was a joke. I posted it and never went back to it again, until I read this. While I very much enjoy making fun of the Housewives (because if you choose to put your life out there, you get what you deserve), hence making fun of Gretchen’s grammar, I have never, ever gotten into it with a commenter on any blog I visit. And I never put down a blogger. If I don’t like what you say, I don’t comment. If I don’t like your site, I leave it. Sorry to have causes such a mess.
Morning Tamara. Thanks for all your hard work and allowing us to have a place to connect with others who are sometimes like minded and sometimes not. I’m still a newbie to your site and if I’ve ever stepped over the boundaries I truly apologize. I will keep myself in check, can’t miss talking to my interweb playmates, and I certainly don’t want to get kicked out of the sandbox. Get it? Kitty – sandbox.
TT I want to apologize because at least one infraction was from me. I promise not to “poke the bear” from now on and will ignore. Your blog is the highlight of my days! I had no idea what you went through. Ugh. No wonder you get crabby as you say! Your blogs on the HW are so much fun and your humor and wit is amazing to me! I wish I could think up half the stuff you do! Plus you are articulate and well spoken and even though I am not, I do recognize it in others and appreciate it.
Miss Isabella J. I just want to let you know my heart goes out to you. That was very brave to share all the hardships you have endured this past year. You have given back to TT and to myself. Thank you and hang on for the ride! It has to get better right?
Hi TT, I just want you to know that I also enjoy reading your blog,and appreciate what you do where it is concerned. I don’t think I could do it though, because I haven’t learned the art of not letting people get on my nerves. But I believe you are good at this because you like it and you have a passion for it. If you don’t have a passion for what you do, then you won’t like what you do.(I obviously have NOT found my passion in life yet and am quickly running out of time:) But I enjoy reading other peoples passions and thoughts especially when they are inspiring, creative, informative and above all POSITIVE! Keep up your good work Tamara. I won’t comment on here unless I feel I have something relevant to say. Have a great weekend!
this is the only blog i check on a daily basis, sometimes 3 or 4 times a day craving new stories. you’re doing something right! you just “cain’t fix stupid”. hang in there. love and light to you, mean it. 🙂
Tamara, thanks for taking us through a day in the life of a popular blogger. I’m certain many folks, such as myself, had no idea how stressful it can be for the blogger. I just always kind of imagined you sitting in front of your tv with a bottle of wine, some snacks, and your dvr remote and laptop, with the reviews just naturally flowing from your sometimes-cranky fingertips (smile)!
Love the blog, and I pray you are able to remain willing and able to produce this great site!
TT i just reread your post and you said to get thru the day like adult women but im a guy so does that let me off the hook? WHEW! Just had to try and get a smile 🙂
Okay, Tamara…I just gotta say it ! I am not a faggot, I am not a Mexican, I am not a NICE girl, I am most definitely a cunt AND I love you. That’s it, plain and simple.
ARE YOU A PAADOFYILE? xD
I file my young pads. Is that the same thing ?
Lol tt
TT, I found your site about a year ago and, I was so pleased to find a great writer. i Love this site and your humor. This is a fun and intelligent place to come to and forget your problems for a while. I no longer go to other sites for recaps and comments, other sites are childish and forget the comments. How sick it is to read mean spirited and, stupid comments, ex: she is such an ugly ho, comment after comment. I very much appreciate your blogs and compassion rule. Thank You, TT and peace be with you.
Makes one never want to start their own blog. Can’t be easy. Thanks for giving us a glimpse of the dark side of a blogger’s world and those of us who sometimes unwittingly make it darker.
I don’t necessarily think doing the blog is the hard part. Consequentially the difficulty is the dominance of social media and the instant access to the population. Twatter allows everyone to be psychotic passive aggressive assholes that can make life stressful for anyone. Plus TT is right. There are a lot of stupid people out there.
And when stupid people show up… I’m not expected to be NICE right? I try to be tolerant. But there is a reason I don’t ban TC… I’m just saying.
um, this post was like that letter you write to your S/O when you are pissed off and then, normal sane people delete because really all you needed to do is vent. But if it is three or four am you just hit send and then wake up in the morning sort of regretting. It was not intended to make everyone question whether their comments were worth posting, It’s just been a one of those weeks. I don’t know what is worse that you are all being nice to me, (I do much better with negative feedback than positive) or if you had all pointed out that I am a condescending bitch who clearly draws negativity into my space because you give out what you get. Well, Kathy Bacon (Whoever the hell that is) would like me to know that I have programmed you all to be assholes and I need to get a job) She posts, “LMAO! YOU the queen of mean is not liking your students? They have become just like you and now your upset? Your little cult followers have allowed you to sit on your ass all day long and now your complaining that there is so much work for you because you have to proof read every post? GET A LIFE & GET A REAL JOB!!”
Anyway, I just wanted to say thanks for being nice and I am sending all the positivity I can muster to those of you going through such difficult life experiences.
As long as I am whining about myself and my trivial first world problems, can I just whine about ONE MORE THING?
I am VERY open about myself. That is at least have of “my problem.” So if you are new and unaware, I became full blown crazy about 3 years ago. It had been coming on for awhile but I really didn’t get what was happening. I have depression (minor issue) and something called Generalized Anxiety Disorder (huge pain in my once life of the party ass). The best way I can explain this type of crazy is that I get panic attacks and huge waves of anxiety over….ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. Happens a lot in grocery stores. I have no idea why. I like groceries. I have no prior history of being abused by groceries. But sometimes, while debating if I should just buy the celery filled with cancer causing preservatives and bug sprays because there is no organic celery and everyone knows that non organic celery is the number one worst thing you can buy… I just panic and leave the store entirely. Or on day three of rain, I become terrified that one of the Brazilian trees in my yard or the neighbors is going to fall on my house. Or worse, one of my trees will fall on someone else’s house. We all live in little cracker boxes that will not hold up well to trees.
But I digress. Because the panic started very early this morning. My dog bites. He RARELY barks (it’s the Shar Pei in him) but he will eat your face off. He does hate skateborders and UPS trucks, but other than that, he ain’t got time for you. So after going to bed at five or six this morning, the garbage man coming at the butt crack of dawn (YES! CANS WERE OUT! SCORE!) The Glass Doctor calling to say his will fix my pane today at o’dark thirty. The dog barking with out ceasing. got me out of bed.
I got the dog to be a watch dog. He usually can’t be arsed to watch. He’s one of those if they come near you I will chew them into bits but otherwise, I’ll be over here napping sort of dogs. I like that about him.
So there was a Satellite news truck for a local TV station with the big tall antenna set up right outside my neighbors house. This is way more disconcerting than the Mexican Publix being out of organic celery. Full blown panic attack omg I need a drink Scary. So I am sitting here wondering how the person who doesn’t attend family functions because everyone is taking pictures with their iPhones is now drinking in the morning while a full newscast was appartently going on.
I don’t know WTF is going on, but I am pleading not guilty and have a death penalty qualified attorney on my payroll. I shall let you know as story develops…
And thanks again for not being assholes.
Tamara – I dont know if it will make you feel better but I am in my home more than out of it too. Still get to our jobsites when I have to. My husband does all the shopping – ’cause I quit going since 2004. I, too panic (in all stores) and run home right away. After I spent 4 years working in NYC – I came back to my home town with agoraphobia – so weird. I sit beside my 100 lb. AKC male police German Shepherd as I type. It’s probably PTSD for real. Depression in degrees. Blogging is very surreal for me as I second guess WTF am I doing this for ! – while all the great love and life is behind me. So, I have to force myself outside – [surrounded by 80 acres of wooded land (not ours)] so may say … fresh air, – get some fresh air, – even for just a little bit… sky is the limit.
JustUsForAll, seems we have a lot in common. I, too, don’t get out very often and my husband also does all the shopping (bless his heart)! Being in NYC would have done me in since I do not do well with lots of people. Restaurants are scary places for me-don’t know why since I hate to cook and love to eat! It took me quite a while to get up the nerve to post my first comment. It really seems silly to be anxious about posting since nobody knows who I am. My 1 year old beagle keeps me company during the day while my hubby is at work. I swear he (my beagle) keeps me sane – gives me someone to talk to. No, he doesn’t talk back! When he does, I’ll know I’m in deep doggy do-do! Thanks for listening, er, reading.
lol. I don’t think most people get being anxious for no fucking reason at random times. It’s a scary flavor of crazy to be sure. I’m (sorta) fine most of the time. However recently someone very close to me (a guy I was dating) thought it would be funny to completely violate my my security in the worst way. ( Not S korea guy he is just saying, come see him). It made me a bit off my rocker.
I do talk to my dog. It’s my first dog. I say stupid shit my mother said to me. I’ve totally turned into my mother. lol. thanks for reading.
Bobbi, I know what you mean – the blogging thing takes a life on of its own. Not sure I have room for another disconnected thing. I wonder what’s making us all freak-out when we need to go out ??? Probably all the media overload, $$ crazy advertising and tech-stuff. Since I was 14 I never sat still – ever ! NYC actually was the last coast I lived at. Strange, I loved walking down 5th Ave. @ lunch. Packed ! – Worked by RadioCity. It sure did something to me – though because I do enjoy my peace & quiet now. Maybe are chromosones (sp?) are changing – Ha ! So hold onto your husband if he’s a keeper and NEVER let them take away your dog. Nothing greater than a “girl” & her dog ! Try to get out and I will too. 🙂
Bobbi – I replied yesterday – but having tech trouble w/TT site – It was waiting moderation – Maybe Tamara will release it today – if it’s hung up here. It a little late now – but I’ll back check it.
Kathy Bacon who crowned Tamara queen of mean who is in litigation with Sheree Whitfield who was in Scary Movie with Molly Shannon who was in What Goes Up with Gabrielle Rose who was in Where The Truth Lies with KEVIN BACON!
Yay, 4 degrees!
Speaking of Kevin Bacon, he can still get it even though my viewing of The Following turned into hate-watching
Speaking of being mindless cult followers, I was told there would be koolaid. WHERE MY KOOLAID AT?
Holy Hail. I kin barely keep my Internet access up let alone pass out the goddamn koolaid. Ain’t I got minions for THAT?
After chugging two beers to quell panic attack. I know, I know old remedy. I didn’t want to “waste” a Xanax which you know are prescribed for just such things… I really need to take a nap before the glass doctor comes this afternoon. I was supposed to clean the kitchen at least the sink full of dishes so he can get to the window. but fuck it. I’m paying YOU 200 bucks to fix a little window. I just can’t be arsed today.
You can’t see it but in giving you a standing ovation right now.
My standing ovation is for Seriously… I really suck at this commenting stuff.
TT I suffered from panic attacks for years, and grocery shopping is the worst-why I don’t know, but any excuse to get out of doing it is OK with me. Actually….it’s a huge pain in the ass, and as you probably know, panic attacks can strike anywhere, and once they do, you usually cross whatever you were doing at the time off your list of things you can do alone. They CAN be cured though, if my own experience means anything, so hang in there….I used to go shopping with someone else, then leave them for short periods of time to ‘harden’ myself. Just knowing there was someone I knew in the store gave me some courage to be alone. Eventually, I stretched the time out longer and longer, until I could go into the store with them and not see them til we were both done. (I had a VERY supportive cousin who indulged me this way, and it really helped.) Sadly, I think you have to push through the panic and show it who’s boss–and that is scary!.Amazing what our own minds can do to us
I used to ENJOY the grocery store. I’d look at new stuff, putter around even. Sometimes that still happens. I think the reason it happens in the GROCERY store is WE HAVE TO GO THERE. And some days we don’t want to leave the house and everything is an issue, but we need coffee, beer, cookies, toilet paper… it’s a place we are forced into. And my underlying crazy doesn’t like to be forced to do anything. I am obsessive about being debtfree. I … it’s just a thing.
TT dont sweat it we all have those days(some too many). Mine started with my quiet husky going batshit crazy at 5am found his dilema was a skunk. Now its the tomato juice bath for him…and me now. Anybody have a tip for deskunking carpet? Will be appreciated
You started your blog for a reason. Go with that and keep doing what you do. I don’t always agree with everything you write and frankly some of the people who comment are scary. I think your blog is informative and you can be funny as hell. You don’t suffer fools at all! I dig that! We have some of the same issues with employment and health so I can relate to that. Keep on keeping on and I truly wish you the best with your health.
Your blog certainly does brighten my day, that’s why I continually check it all through my work day and into the evenings. I don’t often read the comments, I just like reading your posts. There are probably many of us who don’t necessarily “participate” but still enjoy your site very much. I hope you know that. And I hope you know so many of us care very much about you, as a person. Much love to you, Cynthia/Pischina/Popcorn&Vodka
Oh HONEY. For the most part the comments are the best part. It’s mass hysteria at times. 🙂 I strongly recommend them. It’s just sometimes… I’m like oh holy fuck, really? Thanks. I LOVE that I brighten someones day. We all need that.
I completely agree w popcorn and vodka, and love the name! This is my first time posting and ive been lurking for a few mos. now, I used to go to a diff RH blog but dare I say the rules were becoming stoopid. I love your style TT and the fact tht u know a good cuss word can bring color to a statement now and then! I intend on sticking around Bc I need my daily TT dose and appreciate all ur hard work and research.
Ever since I came across your blog, I have loved it! I read each blog you write. I love your insight and love how you have the gossip on the real housewives. You got me into the Jodi Arias trial because I read your blog and started to watch it! I love all your blogs and don’t want you to close this site. You have never banned my comment or anything like that! You have always answered my questions. I have also donated to your fund because I don’t think what Sheree is doing is fair to you. If I donate money to use, I would like you to use that money any way you like. I’m sorry about your health issues. Let me know if there is anything I can do to help you out! Please don’t worry about the haters. If they want to leave reading this blog then let them!!!!
TT I am glad that I found your site. I find you to be an intelligent, informed, and great woman. I ALWAYS read your blog before posting (if I have something to say on the topic). I fully support you in the situation with She By She Nuts. Keep up the good work!
I don’t comment often but read here with regularity. I appreciate your style. You seem bright, direct & fearless enough to occasionally go off the deep end in front of all of us. It’s part of what makes this site distinctive. You did good. Thanks Tamara.
OMG. First I need to confess I don’t know how facebook works. I have a tamaratattles account and I hit a button and it posts my links. When someone comments I get a email with a link.
Anyway, that Bacon person is over there telling people I am duping you all into paying for my atty fees but I am really not in court at all and using the money to go on vacation. It’s really funny. If you know how FB works… you should go look.
This is the link I use and my page is totally public so it should work. https://www.facebook.com/tamara.tattles/posts/389828724464091?comment_id=1994646&offset=0&total_comments=3
Anyway. Now that the anxiety has passed (STILL NO IDEA WHY THERE WAS A NEWS CREW OUTSIDE MY HOUSE!) This Bacon person is cracking me up.
Wow. That isn’t even funny. Just block her. I would never in a million years allow someone like that to post on my FB page.
lol I don’t care. Are we “friends” or can anyone see it? I am pimping the link. She sort of exemplifies what this post was all about.
No, we’re not “friends” (on FB!) so anyone should be able to see. I would be having fits every damn day if I had to deal with that stuff. But that’s what the “block” function is for. 🙂
Kathy Bacon is mean and probably related to She by She Hoo Ha…
Hey cammierari who is Kathy bacon? I don’t have FB and I don’t remember any of her posts but would love to see them.
click on the fb link in Tamara’s post above mine and you can read Ms Bacon’s thoughts
You are the worst cult leader ever! You ain’t got time to pass out the koolaid, you haven’t touched us inappropriately, and you’re collecting money for legal fees and a vacation instead of an awesome compound for us to live on!
We don’t have a cool name or awesome outfits (except for Teecee but I’m pretty sure she made that herself). You don’t even use your army of ass sniffing puppies!
I mean, really!
Please. My suckitude as a cult leader is my devious plan to force you all to donate. See? You are feeling it now…. I want to donate billions to the legal fund. You have all seen my ghetto house! Clearly I am a scam artist out to become RICH BITCH!
That was a fantastic read, I just friended (made up word) you, so you will pop up on my news feed. I feel like I have missed so much. Ms. Bacon seems found of using the you must be fat insult, showing her true colors and intelligence. Only the immature, childish and un educated resort to the you are fat insults. I can see why you do not want to block her, she is rather entertaining.
I get the fat thing a lot online, while other loonies think I am Phaedra Parks or Tamra Barney. I am one of those three. 🙂 And I have no idea how to block people on fb. and even if I did.. lol. She’s hilar. Just like she is on twitter, in my emails,, etc etc. again a hint of what you guys do not see here.
I can teach you, it’s amazingly satisfying when done correctly. I mod 3 pages for an internationally successful Reggae band, and the tripe I have to see and delete on a daily basis makes my head explode. They ask the same questions over and over ad nauseum, don’t bother to read others comments and answers and then ask the same fking question yet again….. I find myself scream, “fk off you fktards…please, I beg you, stop procreating!”…
Kudos to you and thank you for all of your witty, sarcastic and humorously written blogs, they keep me sane as I charter the insanity that only the Internet can bring.
Oh Lordy. Kathy Bacon is off the [fab] rails. There are more “Jodi Ariases” living out there than we think. 🙂
I miss my friend and our shared but opposite insanities. I read most days so still feel connected to you but from a distance that you know I often need to have. For some strange reason I need you to know that I miss you in my own way.
Thanks. Hope you are hanging in there.
So..wait… Are you saying you don’t want me to post here anymore?? FINE. I never liked you or your blog ever. I’m leaving this blog forever!!!
Ok. I’m back. This would have been better if you didn’t upside down the comments to last goes first. I’m not telling you how to run your blog, but….
As hell freezes over, I agree with this observation.
me too :X
I missed you. never leave again. and I will unreverse them just for you when Jodi Arias stuff is done. With hundreds of comments it is better this way. Soon I will thankfully fade back into oblivion.
Stop being a cunt. And by that I mean, never stop being a cunt, but quit giving the others hope you will ever leave. 🙂
Lot. It’s hard to resist getting their widdle hopes up and then crushing them like the maggots they are.
But then you have maggotish entrails lodged in the treads of your $150 Gel-Kayanos. And is there really a Bacon Person? That sounds awesome.
I am sure I have maggotish entails all over place but what are Gel-Kayanos? and um which side of the family… and yes there is a bacon person on that facebook thing.
I think that’s some sort of sex toy. But I’m not sure.
oh Tamara what a huge pain in the ass we all are lol. Internet popularity has it’s ugly side, and it’s BIG. My daughter does a Youtube thing and she is always telling me how many people take the time to insult her or correct her or degrade her. It gets old quick. Thanks so much for wading thru all our comments, which we feel are so intelligent and correct that we MUST post for everyone to read haha…I just want to tell you that I think you are doing a GREAT job, and that your blog is always entertaining, humorous, and well written, even when I don’t agree with what you think. Moderating sucks for you but makes this blog great and I really appreciate the hard, draining work.
Thanks for drinking the koolaid. AND REMEMBER it’s mostly the ones MOSTLY that you don’t see that are the problem. As a teacher I explain it this way. Those of you who post here a lot are on the good kid list. I don’t have to make a special behavioral sticker chart for you, you were raised right and while you need occaisional prodding to stay on task, you guys are fine. I spend WAY MORE TIME reading the Kathy Bacons of the world. So when the good kids go astray sometimes I implode with FOR FUCK SAKE! CAN’T YOU SEE WHAT I AM DOING? (no, no you can’t) and stop being negative nellies about every goddamn thing? YOU KNOW WHAT YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO BE DOING. Is that fair? no. Life isn’t fair. The above post was an explanation…
Tamara we do love you,your writing and your witty insight.I would love to to write a screen play about a reclusive, intelligent but possibly disturbed (that part is just my imagination ) female Blogger that has a worldwide following. This blogger is used to getting threats of violence so when she receives threats of violence and death she simply overlooks these threats and has no idea that one of her dedicated followers ( granted the posters posts are usually very strange and written in Machivillian, manifesto style riddles) is a true psychpathic killer that is obsessed with her and her Blog. It’s only when the Blogger shows favoritism toward one poster that the psycho starts planning sabotage that begins as mental harassment then moves to drawn out legal battles to send Blogger over the edge causing the vulnerable blogger to let her guard down,at which time the psych is prepared to pounce. This is just an idea for a book or movie and of course you are the inspiration. I hopeim not coming across as creepy, I’m just a mom and homemaker bored out of my mind most of the time. Lol.i hope this wasn’t off topic,you are a bright light in some of our foggy lives and we appreciate your talents.
heh love it. People who know me IRL know I have an arsenal in my house for the “Zombie Apocolyse” that I truly believe is coming.Mine is not the place to come for shelter. I may be crazy, but I am well protected. It’s part of the anxiety disorder. So your play/movie would end in a spectacular fanfare. 🙂
No way! The defense is doing the best they can with Jodi Arias? People are mad you said that? Say it ain’t so!
One of our rights in this country is to have a fair trial and an attorney!
I do not agree with CA verdict, but the defense also did their job as well. To get on someone for saying that takes a really disturbed control freak. In my opinion of course.
As you see JA was found guilty; said she wanted death, changed her mind ( not really, she never wanted death ) and now the Sheriff showed her cell off for media exposure.
I have to laugh people thinking she has it good in jail. In her head she may or Jodi may believe her own exaggerations, but the Sherif of that jail has a big a•• vacancy sign out side the jail, what made people ( not here on this blog ) think Jodi actually has it good there? On second thought, she is alive and Travis is not.
Okay this is not a Jodi post.
I will just say grammar cops of all types annoy me. Well over half of us use smart phones.. I find it funny on all blogs there is always a self appointed grammar cop who gets on the commenters but doesn’t dare to say a word to the blogger when their posts are filled with errors. We all know what ya mean most of the time.
I just don’t like people insulting and I do agree, act like adults, we all don’t have to agree, we can agree to disagree.
Tamara, don’t let it get to you, I know you’re at you’re at a breaking point of some type to do this blog, just block people, you don’t have to put with that shit.
I read here allot and have commented but I can’t remember what email I used. I have 3, so today I made an email just for blogs. 🙂
Have a good day, back to work.
I too hate the grocery store and got panic attacks when I went in. I have since found out I have severe severe allergies to all of the chemicals they use to clean the stores and spray for insects. The symptoms mimic panic and didn’t start until I hit my thirty’s Something to think about anyway. Am I back on the good list yet?
um noe. MAJOR donations are the only way. HUGE. Like I need some shit from Tiffanys…
lol.
BTW, in case one with tot lawyer he read a comment or two in court and I was like, did you read the ones around them? Do you understand SARCASM?
Perhaps this one will be in court next time. TAMARA TATTLES BEGS FOR DONATIONS FOR TIFFANY SHOPPING SPREE! FILM AT 11! lol.
Heart in hand, here. Whatever else may be true in the larger world of this blog, I committed infraction(s) that set off other infractions. I sincerely apologize. Without re-opening the whole can of worms, maybe I could just say that I exchanged a few words ( a very few) way off to the side, where it never occurred to me they’d be noticed and, so, thought that was that. But, then, was shocked, hours later, to see the sore spot re-engaged (out of real time) at the head of the thread. Then I got grrrr. Then became conspicuous… then embarrassed.. unintentionally drafted focus … tried to equalize… Train wreck. I recount this much only to say that I’m learning, in fits & starts, how posting triggers, gives rise to personality. Mine’s certainly not flawless.
Also, I had no idea that there were email conversations going on behind the threads! First, I can’t fathom how an owner/moderator, already juggling multiple themes & comments, fields even FURTHER tiers of input. Threads past, I marvelled at what must be supersaturation. Again, I marvel, Tamara. At the workload, the weight. But, second, I’m not sure how I even feel about emails-behind-the-threads from a poster’s POV. I may not understand this all correctly, but, when I’ve erred, I feel, at least, I’ve erred in full view of my fellows. It would never occur to me to go behind the curtain. It would be a bit like tattling, wouldn’t it? Like striking up false intimacy with the puppeteer… the Tattler, herself, as it were? An email, it seems, maybe, crosses a line.
These days, I’m on a 14-day turnaround, with the 1st 3 – 5 per cycle, being a bit ugh & keeping me more housebound than I’m used to being. Finding your blog was a godsend. I appreciate the wit, edge & intelligence of your writing, the remarkable versatility of your writer’s voice. I read every Arias preamble, prompt & update & have even lurked past housewives pieces, written months before I came. You’re an essayist, satirist, humorist & it occurs to me that your gift is likely wasted on us here :-). Except that, in terms of Arias, you’ve inspired a witty, edgy, intelligent gaggle of geese, who’s individual voices, now, are as recognizable to me as those of my fleshy pals. You’ve given me heart. So, please, let me offer some back in return.
Jane… I can say you are one of my most favorite posters. You are witty and smart and I appreciate you. Perhaps I should have said that more. But it doesn’t bid well for me to have favorites. Especially when, I disagree with you on some things.
I’d like to be able to call you out at times. perhaps in an offensive way if I have been drinking or whatever. and say , “YOU ARE BETTER THAN THIS COMMENT! You are one of my smart commenters. I count on you to keep things… intelligent. Dammit!” But that would be hypocritical. Because I am pretty much known for being in the gutter myself. A lot. So what I will ask of you is (1) DON”T LEAVE ME! and (2) let me cuss at you like a sailor when I feel like it as a trusted member of te clan and not someone I am trying to run off. Deal?
um..I’m just butting in here to say I LOVE THIS COMMENT!! We can all disagree, and we can even all fight! Let’s not waste time getting all hurt and emo over it…defend your position or admit defeat! Being wrong on a subject isn’t the worst thing in the world-and yes, we are adults who can all agree to disagree as long as we don’t make it personal. Especially you fatties. (KIDDING)
Love Jane, love, Tamara and I love this blog because it’s real.
The tennis analogy (O not tedious sports bits) is that the weaker player rises to the level of the stronger. You’ve got winning voices all over this place &, if I fake good on occasion, it’s in rising to meet them. So don’t hold back, Tamara, because I, like others, need nothing less than the true grit right now. Curiously enough, for me, not on the down day of 14, but on the upswing, when I get a bit slap-happy & cocky. Pampering won’t do. Maybe what I begin to see is that this Arias thing (& I should say Travis & put the emphasis right) doesn’t leave the wiggle room I count on. I saw this, last night, as I reviewed past threads, then current, & heard posters, each in their own way, trying to get it right. Some w/ wit; others more soberly. Both a style of soul-searching as we come to an end? And, I saw it, too, in the courtroom – not just in the impact statements (that’s clear) & steadfast prosecution (no wiggle room in either), but also in a new gravity on Willcott’s face, a different self-control, and a subtle self-consciousness as Nurmi, more vaguely now, shot his cuff. Hit me in the gut. As well it should have. Even, the killer’s increased invisibility & pallor. The grandmother’s gone. The room, again, has changed. Please trust us to feel it, Tamara. We hear you. Yes, deal.
Wow Jane! No wonder TT views you so highly. That was absolutely brilliant. You are a hell of a writer yourself. Just wow.
Yeah, Jane, don’t run off. I count on TT letting us all have it in equal measure. Hell, you don’t see me running off after the “putridvidacostarica” comment, do you?? 🙂
heh that was a quote I remembered. not one I gave to you.
Ok, Guys: Just calipered skin. Awesomely thicker! Maturity level: still a tad disappointing (but maturity might be over-rated?)
I missed the drama in the court thread so I had no idea this was going on. I did see the drama in the WWHL thread and will once again apologize for anything I may have done to fan the flames.
I too once had a blog. I blogged about Top Chef and although we, my two blog partners and I, had nowhere near the success and loyal following TT does, we did have a few faithful readers. I was supposed to be a behind-the scenes team member since my grammaring ain’t so good, any correctly used comma or written sentence on my part were are purely coincidental, but long story short, both blog partners quit and I ended up doing it alone. It became a job and I was failing miserably. We had a decent run but I stopped blogging 2 years ago but do still maintain, barely, a Facebook page for the show.
How you do all the blogging by yourself is beyond me. You’ve mentioned your health issues and that makes all the work you do even more impressive. I don’t seen you as mean at all, being opinionated is a good thing, but even if you were, I’d say with all you’re doing, you would have every reason to be.
I hate that you’re taking such a beating behind the scenes. The worst emails/comments we ever got were from fans thinking we actually worked for Bravo and they would vent their frustrations about what chef was kicked off that episode and how if we didn’t do something about it, they would stop watching. You’re getting so much worse and on a large scale. It sucks and isn’t right.
I hope things improve for you, both blog wise and personally. I e been a longtime lurker who only recent decided to start commenting and and wish I had done so sooner.
Well shit, hit enter by mistake but I did prove my point about my bad grammar! 🙂
I just wanted you to know I support you and your blog TT.
There is also chatter on Twitter about “us” who participate on this site – referencing what and how we write and the fact that we sometimes ask questions that have already been answered.
Not all of us are perfect; have the best grammar; display the best writing style and we sometimes overlook things we should have paid attention to.
I for one, don’t like getting my head bitten off. As a post- menopausal women, I get a little snappy – but, I try to re-read my statements before I hit send. This site is no different than being at work, or anywhere a lot of different personalities, educational and intellectual levels collide. There will be drama. If it crosses the line for me, I get away from it for a while and come back. There are some people who feed off negativity and drama and don’t care who they hurt. If it ever gets to be too much, I’ll say bye..bye. Or TT can shut me down. Being totally boring will likely be the reason I’ll be deleted. That’s just who I am.
Keep your head up Jane. I which I had your writing style.
You see, I can’t even spell. Or I need another pair of Walmart glasses…lol.
Ain’t nuthin’ wrong with them there Walmart glasses. Us post – menopausal girls need all the help we can get for readin’ and writin’.
Gotta love the Walmart glasses. Walmart glasses in every nook & cranny. Available in Canada. Cheaper in the States! (Costco’s are sturdier, come in a 3-pack… available at Costco Edinburgh. But husband scarfs them.)
(Moderating: “cranny” ? 🙂 )
“my grammaring ain’t so good” LOL my grammaring ain’t so good either because Its not that serious. It’s not like I am getting paid for this…has anyone ever viewed one of the Youtube ads? And no too late don’t start doing it now. lol. I would get in trouble if you all started watching them. I think. Maybe. I dunno. The ads are a long story and if I felt like figuring it all out I would but I don’t.
But I loved your comment. It reminded me when I was TEACHING COLLEGE and students AT COLLEGE would answer. “I be not knowing.”
How lovely it must be to be not knowing…I be knowing too much.
You see TT, that’s why I like your site. You make me laugh when my but is dragging.
I have to confess I riled her up for my own pleasure. Sue me I was bored and not feeling well. She is so ignorant it made me laugh. I guess I should atone but it was just so easy and fun.
Loved your comments on TT’s FB Marsha. Maybe “Kathy Bacon” is a euphemism for Eve–ryone we’ve ever known and disliked at one time or another. 🙂
HELP! I don’t have FaceBook and I don’t “tweet”. I’m really out of the loop with this “Kathy Bacon” person. Who is she, and why do we care?
It’s okay, Bobbi, you’re not alone. I don’t have any stuff either. Well, except this little red aloha print stamp next to my Jane, which, I’ll tell ya, still startles the socks off me. Facebook, twitter, time lines, followers, following, like… a daunting universe out there, in which I’m guessing kathybacon is space junk. Space junk intent on knocking our cowgirl off her orbit. There’s also something about Tang. No, shit, it’s Koolaid. There’s something about Koolaid. Christ, kathybacon just knocked my metaphor over.
If you find out anything, Bobbi, post up. You have a great little stamp. I really like the green. 🙂
Don’t feel like the lone ranger. I have a Facebook and Twitter account, but I don’t post anything on either. I set them up just to have access and read what’s happening out there.
Nice try Putrid. 🙂
Bwaahaahaaa. So you DO have a sense of humor! Jolly good!!
I’m quite fond of Eve, actually and will miss her input on the Jodi threads.
TT, I only wish I could write something as smart and snarky as you do on a daily basis! I join with all the others in apologizing for the asshats of the world and the fact that they’ve found the way to your website. I know I love your company on a daily basis. I’ve told ladies at work, who told other ladies, who told more. We’ve kinda passed you around in a good way, with a smile and wink. But if any of the rude ones are from Illinois, let us know and we’ll have us a little talk with them, TT. Keep up the great work! Many blessings to you and your pup. When you’ve had such a hard year, you’ve got nothing but sunshine ahead, hon.
BACON LADY WANT YOU TO KNOW, SHE ONCE LOVED ME… THIS A A DISTRUBING AND UNNECESSARY LIE I DON’T UNDERSTAND. IT ALSO MAKES HER SCARY. “Kathy Bacon I am NOT on her page! I am on FB and like I said before, I don’t need to be on TT’s page to know what she is all about. This is NOT her first blog where she gets her Ass licking puppies to donate money to her. She has done this many times. I used to be one of her ass licking puppies on another one of her blogs and was also suckered into donating money to her. So I do know what I am talking about. As far as hating TT? Its not hate, its being pissed off that she took money from me and many others who gave believing we were giving to a sincere cause only to find out it was all a big scam. Then again, maybe you could call it hate.”
Again, just a sample of the day.
Wait, am I supposed to be sniffing your ass or licking it? Ms. Bacon needs to pick one and stick to it.
Have you checked out her likes? Chef Bernie Guzman and there is another piece of the puzzle that is Kathy Bacon.
haha oh come on. I like Chef Bernie and I would never act like Ms Bacon, so don’t go making assumptions. Does she maybe think you are someone else TT? Maybe she’s one of the people who think you’re Phaedra or whoever else you’ve said people think you are (way too baked to remember now-it’s my 32nd anniversary so, yes, in the middle of this gorgeous May day, I’m sitting on my porch having an afternoon burn). That’s the only explanation that might justify her hate. OR -she’s just BSC
So is this miss amia? Grammar is too good though. Annie Normous butt? I have to think it’s someone just messing with you.
I used to read Dlisted religiously and never commented there because its very cliquey and the comments had nothing to do with the posts and i found them tedious. I found this blog because I wanted something that was mostly housewives related. While i enjoy it, i feel like you get way too invested and have these emotional breaking point posts that just seem weird to me and unprofessional. Dlisted is not like that at all. I feel the role of a blogger is to type the post and then let it have its own life… I know you dont care about my opinion at all and I dont know why I chose this post as my first post. I like your blog, but why do you throw so much of yourself into it that other blogs dont? If you stopped doing that youd probably feel a lot better. Seems bizarre to me when the owner gets so heavily involved. My old boss used to respond to negative Yelp reviews in the same fashion and it makes the business owner look bad. Just sayin. I know you wont post this but its been brewing since I started reading
Oh I will post it. And I will wonder why you think I am trying to be like Dlisted and how you found me to start with… I am just some chick with a blog. I would imagine if you like it you like hearing about me, and if you don’t you will leave.
I don’t know why I used that as an example, I don’t think you’re trying to be like that blog at all. I just haven’t read many blogs I guess and that was my “first love” so to speak in the blog world so I compare most other blogs I’ve read since to that one.I like this blog because of the housewives recaps and I like to read other people’s thoughts on the housewives. This blog fills that niche for me more than a general celebrity blog. I do like hearing about you, but I think bloggers have a fine line between sharing nothing (such as a faceless blog run by a corporation, something like Radar Online) and sharing TOO much about themselves… I always feel highly uncomfortable with the secrets of strangers and I guess that’s what I feel when I read posts like these. This person (you, any of the other posters) are literal strangers so me. So when I know a lot about them it gives me the icks.
Just something to think about.
Thank you for not being rude to me, as I have seen you sometimes be rude to other posters which baffles me even when I think they might deserve it. But I guess it’s your blog, you be rude to who you want to.
I understand your comment about sharing TOO much information to a certain extent. I think it is only human nature to want to connect with others on a more personal level. One post leads to another, then another, and before long connections begin to form. As @JustUsForAll stated, “It seems to have a life of its own.” When a poster shares a personal experience that you can relate to, it is only natural to share a little of yourself. I think many of us were brought together by TT’s insightful and witty blogs on the Jodi Arias trial. Here we have a place to vent our frustrations, express opinions, and banter back and forth. Sometimes that comes along with human emotions and our need to connect with with like-minded people. (for the most part, anyway). I think the EVILNESS of JA has made us open our hearts and minds to others in a way that we didn’t think we would. Stick around, I think you might find us to be a caring and heartfelt group of people!
Seems like you have blogs confused with news sites. Blogs ARE people’s opinions and as such, reflect he writer. It’s funny that somehow you think it’s ok for commenters to put themselves out here and talk about themselves but somehow, TT is supposed to just give birth and walk away from her baby. I’m going to go ahead and be rude and say you’re a self centered jerk wad. Who may just have ulterior motives.
I actually don’t think it’s ok for commenters to put themselves “out there.” At all. The Internet is anonymous and that’s why people feel comfortable telling strangers their dirty laundry but I’d never do that. I mean get some friends maybe or a therapist if you feel you gotta let stuff out.
Hahaha ulterior motives? Like what? I’m Sheree Whitfield? I’ve seen your interactions with people too TEECEE666 and I think you love being the contrarian. Which is alright I guess but slightly obnoxious. I don’t really think you’re as cunty as you make yourself out to be, you probably even volunteer with sick kids in your spare time.
Sure. I hope your kids get sick so I can volunteer to not help them.
I don’t have kids. Unlike you and maybe a lot of others here I’m not a 45 year old hausfrau.
Just someone who thinks maybe we shouldn’t take blogging so seriously and get so worked up about it. That’s all.
It’s weird that you don’t think people should talk about themselves but yet you’ve volunteered a story about your boss, that you fell in love with a blog and that you have no kids because you are not a housefrau. Hmmmmm. Does not compute.
i am a pro editor (31 yrs), yet you’ll never see me correcting someone’s grammar here. it’s annoying. wish people had better things to do. frankly, i read your blog for your posts, not for the comments, and i’m sorry the comments have gotten troublesome. just wanted to write this in support and let you know how much i enjoy your blog.
I am laughing. Thank you Tamara, (not Tamra peeps, Tamara), for that. I am always baffled by those that do not understand blog etiquette and think it’s cool to argue with the site administrator, post recipes, or send emails. Oh and yes Tamara, I understand being anxious for no f-ing reason, I do it everyday. I think it’s a mark of intelligence.
Agree Tango and sometimes anxiety manifests itself as blogged recipes, sending emails, and arguing with the site administrator. 🙂
Ruh Roh Pura! I didn’t mean to “de-edify” emailers…lol
Beautiful! Points for de-edifying de-edify in a sentence.
TeeCee66 is not a Cunt. She is THE Cunt. She also left a 6 off of her name.
Tamara, you should just use a standard STFU to hateful comments and re-write them like you have in the past. Those are my favorites. 🙂
Anxiety sucks, I have it too but it’s under control. All you panic attackees need some medical MJ. Seriously. I had a panic attack at the dentist office the other day, I had a Medical cookie before too so I wasn’t expecting it. It took a few minutes but I got it under control. It’s stupid and I HATE it and it seems like no one gets it. I think it was the first time my husband witnessed a full blown one, with the crying and shit. I’m usually by myself when they happen so he has never seen me that way. He was real nice for the rest of the day. 🙂 I have had anxiety since I can remember but the panic attacks started around 30, I’m 43 now, I didn’t know what it was for a long time, I just knew it was scary and I didn’t tell anyone for a while. Good Luck, but you will be okay, my husband always tells me,” what’s the worst that can happen”, then I proceed to tell him and he wishes he had not asked. lol My crazy life.
Sunny…sending you hugs! I have a daughter who has panic attacks and I admire her so much. I have watched her struggle through much of her life and it breaks my heart for her but it also makes me proud!!
Her biggest goal as a child was to be a teacher but college was such a trial for her, though at times I called it a nightmare!! So many days she came home sobbing because of something she couldn’t do because she was in panic mode. I felt so helpless! I listened, I cried, I consoled and hugged her and I stayed on my knees praying for her. Time after time after time, she would dry her tears and, as she heard a preacher say once, “Get another grip’ and start the day fresh. It took her 7 1/2 to get through college and I think she is the best teacher ever. She teaches 5th grade at a school for less fortunate kids and has so much compassion for them and touches their lives, inspires them and changes some of them for the better. She understands and struggles with them. She still drops by and cries on my shoulder sometimes because testing or evaluation or something is coming up and she is in a panic because she doesn’t think she was good enough or taught enough or whatever it is that triggers the panic. She is my hero!
About two years ago she was finally able to find a medication that helps..somewhat…and is happily married and expecting a baby in August.
Thanks for sharing your story, Sunny! God bless you…
Thanks! *smiling* There are silver linings everywhere, we just have to look for them. Good luck to your daughter. The best thing I ever did was tell people.
What a blessing she must be for those kids. Kids are the greatest, they give the most honest opinions and the purest love.
Bless you too Rose. 🙂
As commenters we are participating in a discussion and sharing opinions…. Our own opinions. People may agree or disagree and they may not respond with sunshine or rainbows. But if we believed in unicorns we would not continue to come back. So let’s just all embrace our inner bitch and get over sensitivities because at the end of the day our lives will not be negatively effected by Housewives and trials. But Tamara has committed a lot of time and energy, plus she has been extremely open with her personal struggles. Let’s not waste her time and turn the blog into something negative. Long story short….. Pick your battles!
The chitchat on here about grammar, spelling, etc. is interesting, but TT is right and blogs are informal in nature. I love blogs and commenters who are authentic in expressing themselves. I don’t give a damn if someone doesn’t type in proper grammar, punctuation — blogs are meant to be inclusive and informal and are a tool to communicate spontaneously.
Everyone on here is intelligent, creative, witty and insightful. I totally enjoy this blog and like it more and more as time goes on.
Hoping you all have a fun-filled, glorious weekend!
For the most part as new kid here because of the Arias trial – I’m reading alot of exchanges that are amazing and also trivial, but it’s at an arm’s length. The whole dynamics of blogging is quite reactionary (almost like a lunch room debate) but seems to have another “life of it’s own”. I find it exciting AND frightening at the same time. I see group acceptance & rejections playing out just like in any real group..! I can feel where one could actually get to far into the role it plays in their daily life… especially since none of us have human contact. So I beg pardon to those of you who see all my mistakes in blogging formalities (typos & punctuations). My mind is never short-winded. My wit is dry, but my mouth can be a sailors – so I will humbly watch, learn, and (? listen in my head) to all of you. Word salad of my day is: B (e) L(ogg) ING. ~ to be logged (down).
I defer to all who are experienced in this medium. Arias… Monday… together here we go… All for one & just us for (free) all.
Tamara, I got to tell you, I really like/enjoy you &your blog. Like others, my live is very NUTS! I am a Grandmother raising a 4 year and a 18 mo. old grandchildren. I also run a small business that supports this brood! While I listen to my piers bitch and complain about how soon the can “retire” and maintain their life style, I have to bite my tongue knowing my prayers are that I live long enough to get these adorable children on the right path in life! The news is sooooooo depressing I have to force myself to stop reading and listening to it! That is where you come in! I love coming here! Your wit, style, don’t give a c**p attitude is so refreshing I always find myself laughing out loud at some of your posts. You write about these twits on bravo whose mental acuity has flat lined and bares no resemblance to reality. You my dear provide a wonderful mental vacation! For real! Keep do’n what you do! You don’t give yourself enough credit. You are fun, bright, sharp as a tack and yes very human! A breath of fresh air. See now,I feel better all ready (couldn’t get the kids to eat breakfast cause we are out of all staples and I have to go to the store ASAP!). Hugs to you!
Beautiful…
I want to say, I enjoy the back and forth antics of your blog, Tamara. Sometimes it does enter into the ‘WHAT????’, when it is about things I don’t have a clue about, but nevertheless, it is an avenue of adult banter that a person has to put their big girl (or guy) panties on for.
As a retired teacher, having spent 30+ years with 12 year olds…I was beginning to lose some adultness (not a word, I know) qualities. My dog doesn’t talk back to me, so I enjoy keeping up with the real world, or reality world as we know it, and the internet is a great way to do it.
I used to tell my sixth graders, “come on, let’s all get along, play nice, share”. Well, life isn’t always fair, isn’t always nice, and sometimes we don’t feel like playing with others. Tomorrow is always another day, our perspective sometimes changes with the weather or day.
Each day I have come to your blog to catch up. The nayslayers are just part of the negativity of the world in general…they will go somewhere else to spray their venom. We have to look at them as they are, not let them be part of our life’s energy.
I have only posted a very few times, as I am a gleaner of information, and occasionally will put myself out there.
Please keep doing what you are doing. If someone doesn’t like it here, by golly heck, they can go elsewhere.
Your blog was recommended by sister. Never posted a blog until I came to your site. It’s smart. Followers you have are just that, followers. You are a great a great writer I like your whit. I am 57 so writing and checking spell check takes so much time for me but the time I finish responding folks are on another topic. Sometimes it is safe just to read the posts. You are doing fine. Sorry for the dim whits (sp?) like me. If you are not being paid for this site you should be you would be a great TV critic or day time show host with the type of blogging you do. You make your site safe. Thank you.
PJ, I do not think you are a dimwhit! I agree with you I think TT is a talented, fun blogger.
Come on people, what’s all the crap about typos/grammar. We’re interested in people’s thoughts. We get what they’re saying. Everyone makes mistakes, especially when they are having fun quickly responding, etc. Keep the bitching to the housewives, not each other. This is supposed to be fun.
I love slapping the housewives around on this venue because it keeps me from slapping around everyone else within my reach.
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I thoroughly enjoy your blog. I read without posting comments many times. But I am usually nodding in silent agreement with your take on most things. This needed to be said and I am glad you did.
Wow, I went away for the weekend to attend my oldest son’s wedding and missed all the fun/not fun. Hope everything is getting better for you. I’ve been a supporter since stumbling onto this site last fall and have even managed to get my hand slapped a time or two but will continue to be a supporter. Oh and can I get a TeeCee fan club shirt?! 😛
I’m still relatively new to this blog but it has by far become the highlight of my day! I find it refreshing that I am not the only one who questions why TC is allowed to comment here. I feel bad for the people who aren’t used to dealing with someone like that. However I actually enjoy debating with bullies cause it seems like everyone else is scared and I am certainly not. I find it comical when someone attacks my grammar. I quit school in the 7th grade so I’m a very easy target. While I did manage to finish college I never learned the things others have. I find it comical because I know I have them. That’s what everyone goes to when they have nothing else. The argument has been lost and there’s nothing left so they get you on the only thing they can and that’s always grammar. I personally would never correct someone mainly cause its annoying but also because I wouldn’t know the correct grammar anyway.
Glad to see you sticking around and posting. I kind of like the cross section of PC and um TC here. 🙂