In this week’s Real Housewives of Orange County blogs, both Alexis and Gretchen rehash their failed friendship. One makes a brief statement and the other, well… Click through to see what they are saying….
Alexis keeps it short and sweet:
Lydia saying to Gretchen that I missed her needs clarification. I am not “missing” Gretchen because the current Gretchen is not the same person I was friends with three years ago. I do miss the old Gretchen, but not the person that I know and see now. What I had mentioned to Lydia is that Gretchen’s behavior towards me hurt the most, because at one point we really were friends. I’ve never had a close connection to Tamra or Heather.
I would have had to point out that the women continue to talk about her all the time even when she is not there. She sure seems to be on their minds a lot.
But Gretchen has a whole lot to say. First she attacks Vicki over the Wines with Wives thing, and then she gets down to business with Alexis.
When Lydia brought up Alexis at the table and said she missed me the most, there was a part of me that wanted to believe that was true. But her actions towards me have shown none of that. Here’s a little insight to why I questioned that: I remember when Peggy and Alexis were not talking and fighting and Alexis reached out and texted Peggy when she heard that her daughter had broken her arm and said something like “I know things are strained between us but I just want you to know I’m thinking about your daughter.” So in the spirit of Alexis always claiming she is that type of person no matter what, I guess I was hopeful that when she found out that Grayson was in critical condition she would reach out to us as well. But I was disappointed. I thought for sure if she reached out to Peggy over a broken arm she would reach out to us about Gray’s condition. But instead she tweeted about it, which needless to say I was even more offended about. This gesture made me felt like it was more about her looking good to the rest of the world rather than reaching out to the people that mattered; which was Slade and I.
I realize that Alexis is “a fine Christian woman”, but really Gretchen? You treat her like crap but she is supposed to come to comfort you when you are having issues?
Unfortunately this was my experience with the friendship at times, and part of the reason I pulled back. There were contradictions between the way she was claiming she was living her life as a Christian and the way she was actually living it. I’ve had friendships like that in the past, and it just got to be too draining trying to understand what was real and what wasn’t. Her stories and actions just weren’t adding up, and I don’t like questioning my friends. So, instead, I just decided to remove myself from it.
She goes on to talk about Heather and Terry’s marriage, but then comes right back to Alexis.
One more thing I would like to address since it seems to be a question I keep getting. People ask why I was willing to forgive Tamra and not Alexis. First and foremost, I have forgiven Alexis because I had to in order to move on. However, the main difference between Tamra and Alexis is that Tamra apologized for the things that were said and the hurt that was caused, which is something that has never happened from Alexis. Tamra and I both said we were sorry for what went down between us and that we really wanted to move forward — and we did just that.
Forgiven Alexis for what? What is it exactly that Alexis is supposed to apologize for? Being a pretentious snot? Her sanctimonious nature? She was like that when you were “friends.”
I actually apologized to Alexis the very next day on the beach in Costa Rica for hurting her feelings, as that was never my intention. Alexis is actually the one that has never let it go, and even chose to make it worse by making the ridiculous accusation that I bullied her. She found it easier to blame me for being honest with her than to face the truth as to why she was being alienated from the group; which is OK, because it has become apparent that is the way she deals with things in her life.
Alexis never let it go, but you are the one still blogging about it ad nauseam.
Even Lydia tried to explain some things to her, but she was in complete denial and said it was almost impossible to get through to her. So it has nothing to do with not forgiving Alexis versus Tamra, it has everything to do with her actions since that day and how she continues to handle it all. Unfortunately, I just lost respect for her and her perpetual victim act. Honestly, forgiveness is the easy part, but going back to being friends with someone that questions your intentions as a friend, calls you a bully, never apologizes for it, then even after you apologize continues to not let it go, is the hard part. I can still wish a person well and choose not to have that person as a close friend anymore, they are two are very different things.
Lastly because some seem to be confused on this, one thing I want to make beyond clear is that my friendship failed with Alexis because of our issues, it had absolutely nothing to do with Tamra and our friendship. My friendships with all the woman are separate and work or don’t work because of my experience with that individual in particular.
Got it. You are not a bully. You do not tag team with Tamra. Alexis just plays the victim over nothing. You have moved on and we are all seeing things that aren’t happening.