In this week’s Real Housewives of Orange County blogs, both Alexis and Gretchen rehash their failed friendship. One makes a brief statement and the other, well… Click through to see what they are saying….
Alexis keeps it short and sweet:
Lydia saying to Gretchen that I missed her needs clarification. I am not “missing” Gretchen because the current Gretchen is not the same person I was friends with three years ago. I do miss the old Gretchen, but not the person that I know and see now. What I had mentioned to Lydia is that Gretchen’s behavior towards me hurt the most, because at one point we really were friends. I’ve never had a close connection to Tamra or Heather.
I would have had to point out that the women continue to talk about her all the time even when she is not there. She sure seems to be on their minds a lot.
But Gretchen has a whole lot to say. First she attacks Vicki over the Wines with Wives thing, and then she gets down to business with Alexis.
When Lydia brought up Alexis at the table and said she missed me the most, there was a part of me that wanted to believe that was true. But her actions towards me have shown none of that. Here’s a little insight to why I questioned that: I remember when Peggy and Alexis were not talking and fighting and Alexis reached out and texted Peggy when she heard that her daughter had broken her arm and said something like “I know things are strained between us but I just want you to know I’m thinking about your daughter.” So in the spirit of Alexis always claiming she is that type of person no matter what, I guess I was hopeful that when she found out that Grayson was in critical condition she would reach out to us as well. But I was disappointed. I thought for sure if she reached out to Peggy over a broken arm she would reach out to us about Gray’s condition. But instead she tweeted about it, which needless to say I was even more offended about. This gesture made me felt like it was more about her looking good to the rest of the world rather than reaching out to the people that mattered; which was Slade and I.
I realize that Alexis is “a fine Christian woman”, but really Gretchen? You treat her like crap but she is supposed to come to comfort you when you are having issues?
Unfortunately this was my experience with the friendship at times, and part of the reason I pulled back. There were contradictions between the way she was claiming she was living her life as a Christian and the way she was actually living it. I’ve had friendships like that in the past, and it just got to be too draining trying to understand what was real and what wasn’t. Her stories and actions just weren’t adding up, and I don’t like questioning my friends. So, instead, I just decided to remove myself from it.
She goes on to talk about Heather and Terry’s marriage, but then comes right back to Alexis.
One more thing I would like to address since it seems to be a question I keep getting. People ask why I was willing to forgive Tamra and not Alexis. First and foremost, I have forgiven Alexis because I had to in order to move on. However, the main difference between Tamra and Alexis is that Tamra apologized for the things that were said and the hurt that was caused, which is something that has never happened from Alexis. Tamra and I both said we were sorry for what went down between us and that we really wanted to move forward — and we did just that.
Forgiven Alexis for what? What is it exactly that Alexis is supposed to apologize for? Being a pretentious snot? Her sanctimonious nature? She was like that when you were “friends.”
I actually apologized to Alexis the very next day on the beach in Costa Rica for hurting her feelings, as that was never my intention. Alexis is actually the one that has never let it go, and even chose to make it worse by making the ridiculous accusation that I bullied her. She found it easier to blame me for being honest with her than to face the truth as to why she was being alienated from the group; which is OK, because it has become apparent that is the way she deals with things in her life.
Alexis never let it go, but you are the one still blogging about it ad nauseam.
Even Lydia tried to explain some things to her, but she was in complete denial and said it was almost impossible to get through to her. So it has nothing to do with not forgiving Alexis versus Tamra, it has everything to do with her actions since that day and how she continues to handle it all. Unfortunately, I just lost respect for her and her perpetual victim act. Honestly, forgiveness is the easy part, but going back to being friends with someone that questions your intentions as a friend, calls you a bully, never apologizes for it, then even after you apologize continues to not let it go, is the hard part. I can still wish a person well and choose not to have that person as a close friend anymore, they are two are very different things.
Lastly because some seem to be confused on this, one thing I want to make beyond clear is that my friendship failed with Alexis because of our issues, it had absolutely nothing to do with Tamra and our friendship. My friendships with all the woman are separate and work or don’t work because of my experience with that individual in particular.
Got it. You are not a bully. You do not tag team with Tamra. Alexis just plays the victim over nothing. You have moved on and we are all seeing things that aren’t happening.
Love your take on this Tamera, sometimes I feel so brain f***** by these women but you read them loud and clear.
Gretchen is a bully and Tamara is a bigger bully, but Alexis does cry victime ALOT. wah! (violins playing in background)….
However, I did catch up on “Tardy for the Party” and although this blog is not about Kim, I wanted to comment on the Thansksgiving episode is sweet. It is so sad that her parents are such scumbag! Your own blood screwing you over, but I’ve been there and can totally sympathize. That’s why I don’t talk to my sister anymore.
I see Brielle up at the shopping center close to my house with her best friend Brandon all the time. They are so fun and cute together. I think that scene where she and Brandon made her sister bob for apples were so funny and cute. She loves her sibblings!
Kids are so mean and so JEALOUS! My daughter is beautiful (it’s true even if that sounds conceited) and there is this girl in school who is always trying to have drama and keeping other girls from being friends with my daughter. It’s too bad that bully of a girl won’t jump off a cliff or in front of a bus. I know KARMA is a bitch, but I still wish it! #thefeelingisreal
I totally see why Kim does’nt talk to her Mom. I’m sure seeing the way she is now she has been like that all of Kim’s life. I understand because I have’nt talked to my Mother in about 10 years for doing things like Karen is doing. I feel really bad for Kim’s kids.
Why do these people use their tragedies as bargaining chips? Why should Alexis feel bad for Gretchen over a kid she did not care enough about to go see until it was convenient for her?
That whole “you need to drop everything and suck up to me while I sit back with smug satisfaction because someone died/I got sick/someone in my family was sick, etc. is not how real peoe act, is it? Especially with manufactured friendships more akin to business relationships.
You obviously haven’t met my (104-year-old) grandmother… 🙂
When Gretchen met slimey Slade, she is his 3rd OC housewife ya know, Grayson was and still is suffering from some horrible brain cancer. I don’t know how often Sade has seen his son, but Gretchen’s new play to be a great step-parent a la Leann Rhimes, is new to this season. Me, I think she does truly want to be a mother and realizes that if you couldn’t care about a little boy with brain cancer, viewers would probably not believe you would be a good parent PERIOD! And, I always liked Gretchen until last year.
I agree. Why would someone send messages of concern to someone who is not the parent, not the step, not anything. All she is is someone’s girlfriend who’s just upset because this ‘ inconvenience’ is getting in the way of her life plan. When they use this child’s story on the show, I really cringe. Isn’t anything off limits.
G*ddmanit! It’s Slade and me…NOT Slade and I.
Maybe since I’m getting old and it’s maybe changed in the past 40 or so years. I remember learning in school that it was Slade and I or Me and Slade.I remember so well because I did it wrong 1 time on a paper and my teacher called me out in front of the whole class.
Subjective case: Slade and I went to the party.
Objective case: They invited Slade and me to the party.
Thats the correct grammar and always has been
Oh and it’s not godmannit..Unless thats a new word I have never heard. Because there’s a lot of new words out now days that I don’t know the meaning of…
You NEVER put yourself first. And if you take out the other perso and leave yourself, you can tell of it should be I or me. Anastasia is correct.
Ok then Slade and I is correct?
There are numerous sites on line you can find using the search engine of your choice to learn basic English grammar. This is not one of them. I wish you great success in your academic endeavors, elsewhere.
Actually I just went to one of those sites and they are both correct. Thank you TT. I just know when I was in school I was embarrassed in front of the whole class for saying Slade and me.Well not Slade but you know what I mean..lol
I just saw your last sentence so I am not allowed on your site I see..Alrighty then..
ME SOWWY!!!!
Gretchen has become as likable as Slade. <– Not a compliment.
“Got it. You are not a bully. You do not tag team with Tamra. Alexis just plays the victim over nothing. You have moved on and we are all seeing things that aren’t happening.”..perfectly stated TT. That is pretty much it in a nutshell.
Someone pls tweet that last paragraph to Gretchen
Please don’t encourage harassing tweets on my site. Thanks.
She will see it, she probably has already. You know the hw’s read all the blogs and google themselves daily.
It seems all of the OC’s are obsessed with Alexis. They are making her the star attraction. She’s really not all that significant. By their excluding her, she’s getting far more air time than she warrants. I like her new look and she obviously has gotten a coach because she is handling the constant stream of attacks really well this season. THEY just look nuts. Like him or not, at least she and Jim really seem to be a team that has each others backs.
exactly! I don’t think any of us particularly want to be on Alexis’s side… but their horrid behavior gives us no option. And she has clearly learned how to remove herself and make the bullies….er I mean not bullies because that is not a good word. How bout we use cunts? She makes the cunts look like what they are.
Charley, I echo your remarks 100%!
If they did not focus on Alexis, what other drama would there be on the show? It’s been 8 long seasons. It’s near its expiration date.
Gretchen is an immature brat, her behaviour was horrible accepting expensive gifts from a sick ‘dying boyfriend’. especially flaunting a $65,000 ring to his kids while he was in ICU. I have been watching early seasons of the show, didn’t really have a strong opinion to write until I watched Gretchen gimme attitude while the man was sick and vulnerable. clearly she had no income. one scene the kids were talking hoping their dad was cured when he gets out of hospital, Gretchen again drew attention to her ring During the conversation.
Wow. Is that really true? If so I dislike her even more now
Where do you find early seasons? Ive been looking for them but have had no luck on netflix or my go to torrent site
Project free TV is a great site. That how I found mob wives.
Another one 1channel. I live in Australia so not all site available. I check these 2 sites Wednesday to watch Current OC.
Hope it helps, I am on my phone I can post t links next time if TT is OK with it.