When I recapped the premiere of Southern Charm recently, I had not yet been sent the Daily Mail story with all the court documents outlining the extent of Kathryn’s addiction issues and their effect on her ongoing custody battle that I outlined here. At the time of that recap, I still was of the mindset that Kathryn had gone to rehab and was working on her recovery, albeit with some setbacks that I chose not to cover in detail. I felt that those around her, including her cousin Shelby. should have been more protective and supportive of her recovery efforts. I was particularly harsh with my language toward Shelby in my recap, who I felt as a family member should not have fed Thomas any further ammunition to bolster his custody case.
I was contacted by K. Cooper Ray after writing that recap and he offered to put me in touch with Shelby because he felt that I misread the situation. KCR and Shelby have been good friends for six years. Shelby introduced KCR to Kathryn. The three of them were “thick as thieves” during the time in between Kathryn’s pregnancies according to Shelby. I was able to interview Shelby about the situation and am very grateful for her input.
— Kathryn C. Dennis (@kathryn_dennis) July 18, 2015
I also would like to offer my sincere apologies for my harsh words towards Shelby, who as it turns out shares the attitude of most of us here in wanting a full recovery for Kathryn so that she and her kids can have more quality time together. She went out of her way to help when Kathryn returned from rehab; however,it unfortunately, became clear that rehab did not take for Kathryn and she had to cut ties.
Here is some of our conversation:
TT: First of all, what is the deal with Kathryn saying that you are not cousins and only “share a last name?”
Shelby: Thank you for allowing me this opportunity to share my side of the story. To answer your question, The Dennis’ have been residing in Berkeley and Sumter county for over two centuries. Kathryn and I just accepted we were cousins and treated each other like family.
TT: Please tell us you experience with filming the scenes with Thomas at Eliza’s pool party.
Shelby: Eliza invited me to the pool party (and she invited Kathryn) Eliza and I are long time friends from the polo/horse world. When I arrived at the party I was approached by JD and Elizabeth off camera who were genuinely concerned about Kathryn. I told them I was very concerned. Her stay at my house had gotten really, really out of hand, to the point that I called her mother to intervene.
Thomas approached me, with full camera crew in tow, grilling me about Kathryn. The exchange with Thomas was all captured on boom mike. I wasn’t miked at any point during the 2+ hours of filming. The edit is what the edit is, but I want you to know that I had no ulterior motive nor intention to speak ill of her, I’ve always had Kathryn’s well-being at heart and if this story coming out can get her the help she needs then it’s all worth it.
TT: How did it come about that Kathryn ended up staying with you after rehab?
Shelby: When, Kathryn came back from rehab early in August, I hadn’t heard from her in 3 months but I knew she was in rehab and she didn’t have her phone. I got a call from her Tuesday around noon, which considering the hours she kept prior to treatment was unusual, telling me she was back and asking if she could come stay and hang at my place for a while and she did for about two weeks.
I’ll admit that I’m no saint, I’m a young single woman in Charleston, I like going out and I like a nice glass of wine or two, but I got a lot more than I bargained for with Kathryn during those two weeks. I was excited to have the “Old Kathryn” back, but it was clear she had fallen back into her old habits.
K. Cooper Ray: This was around the time that I was still in New York. KCD called me from Shelby’s house cheery, delightful and charming and said she couldn’t wait for me to get back from New York so that we could all be together again. By the way that was the first I’d heard from KCD in six months, but it was good to hear from her and I knew Shelby’s was the best place for her to be in Charleston.
Sadly, the Kathryn that KCR was happy to hear from wasn’t around for long. While KCR was the person we all saw supporting Kathryn on the show the most, there were other friends of hers who were on the show, who fought for Kathryn and offered their support last season and the one airing now. Umfortunately, in real time, they all seem to have been cast away by her. Kathryn doesn’t speak kindly about them in the media and they are left feeling hurt and unappreciated. Kathryn even went so far to suggest in an interview with Reality Tea that Jennifer Snowdon’s baby might not be fathered by her boyfriend, Lee. Kathryn seemed to agree with internet trolls who claimed that Jennifer’s baby looks just like Saint. It’s a ridiculous allegation.
@jsnowden1 stunned by the lies. Those who truly loved and cared for her are the first thrown under the bus.
— Shelby Dennis (@ShelbyNDennis) April 4, 2017
While Jennifer did hook up with Thomas a couple of years ago, the two friends had mended fences and Jennifer has been trying to help Kathryn with her addiction issues. Kathryn seems to be lashing out at all the people trying to help her. Her comments to Reality Tea appear to be a cruel reaction to not being invited to Jennifer’s baby shower. Jennifer’s shower happened in July when Kathryn was in rehab. Kathryn’s mother sent a gift on Kathryn’s behalf. If you recall, Jennifer’s son was diagnosed with a potentially fatal illness in utero (a brain encephalocele) and had had been under an enormous amount of stress. The good news is that the baby is doing remarkably well today. A case could be made that prayer, a miracle from God and a doctor willing to do the dangerous surgery saved Jennifer’s baby. Her exclusive interview at Daily Mail tells the entire story so please click the link.
This sort of attack by Kathryn is reprehensible. A few months after the baby’s surgery the proud mom had a Sip-n-See to introduce Ascher to the world. Kathryn was not invited. Rather than be happy that Kathryn’s child is alive and doing well, Kathryn focued on herself and she opted to make ugly allegations about a child’s paternity in the media. K. Cooper Ray has spoken out in support of Jennifer, pointedly telling Kathryn to back off of Jennifer. Based on recent information from court documents, I presume the reason was not invited to the Sip-N-See was unstable behavior and suspected drug use. Jennifer has said as much in social media after the Reality Tea article was published.
I talked to Shelby about Kathryn’s behavior as a guest in her house and it was basically typical addict behavior. Shelby did not want any of that mentioned publicly. It is not her intent to air her dirty laundry and it’s not my desire to post it. As someone who had a friend with a drug problem that escalated toward the end of our friendship, it sounded like exactly the stories I heard from mutual friends that let her stay with them for a bit. The addiction has no problem breaking the trust of a friend of the addict. It’s not pretty.
It seems that we are at the stage when friends and family have retreated, because Kathryn is not willing to receive help, and they are not willing to enable her or tolerate her abusive behavior. It’s a scary standoff and I am hoping that Kathryn reaches out to someone in recovery for some help and a positive outcome results. I have heard many things that have occurred after filming in this current calendar year that have me gravely concerned. The recent surge of stories in the media put out by Kathryn is a series of lashing out at others that indicates that her addiction is active. If you are the praying type, it couldn’t hurt. Especially if you are Jennifer Snowden, she seems to have a pretty good track record for receiving miracles through prayer.
P.S. I forgot to mention the People article where Kathryn claims to be living at home with her parents, practicing yoga and focusing on regaining custody of her children. That is a trifecta of lies. She is shacked up with some dude, and partying. Allegedly. As I have heard through various Charleston sources.