Married At First Sight: In Sickness and In Health



It’s been one hell of an irritating day, and I’m several recaps behind what I anticipated doing today.  Everyone seems to feel some kind of way about Married at First Sight this week So I’m going to start there. I’m warning you, I’m in a shit mood and even Banjo is feeling my wrath today so be forewarned.


I forwarded through all the Heather stuff and I can’t believe Dr Pepper suggesting letters of affirmation. But I am stopping at the scene with his mother. It’s hard to watch him tell his mother. She is at a loss for words. She’s upset that Heather hurt her son and gave up after one week. It’s all for the best, Mom. She’s a great mom. Derek is really hurt by the whole situation.

Lily and Tom

Lily is planning a birthday surprise for Tom. She’s asked his brother to fly down for the occasion. Tom is confused by Lily’s sudden cleaning spree in preparation for Tom’s brother to show up. He’s tired from work and doesn’t to want to come home and work some more. Aw…. welcome to adulthood, Tom.



Lily makes a sweet breakfast for Tom on his birthday and tells him she has a showing that day in Fort Lauderdale. Tom asks a ton of questions about the property. It’s weird.  Lily thinks Tom suspects something is up. The story is a cover for going to the airport to pick up his brother. She’s worried she won’t be able to keep her story straight.  Tom says that he is not used to people doing nice things for him and he is really happy that she made him a birthday breakfast.

Tom was thrilled that Lilly got his brother to fly in from Colorado. I love how appreciative he is of all of Lily’s contributions to his birthday. Lily has planned a BBQ at home with friends and family. Both families. Lily’s sister is …that in law. I’m just saying.

The party looked like a lot of fun. Tom had a great birthday. It’s all sunshine and lollipops in this marriage. Tom loves all the positive energy between the two families.


Sonia and Nick

Sonia is ready to consummate the marriage. And then a dog wanders into the bed. Hey Sonia, here is what you do, go out and buy a damn bed that is not on the floor. one that is high off the ground, then buy thick mattress and boxed spring set. Problem solved. I’m not sure why you are sleeping on the damn floor like dogs anyway!  Why do both dogs have bright red asses like baboons? Don’t answer that. I know how y’all are.

Sonia works with a dog trainer to get over her fear of dogs. She also wants the little yappy one calmed down.

Nick says they have good days and bad days. It seems like he would like a bit more consistency in what to expect every day when he wakes up. Sonia just wants to wake up without the dogs in the bed.


Sonia tends to narrate their every move. Maybe it’s the cameras but it’s annoying. It’s like, “So here we are eating dinner. How do you feel about eating dinner as a married couple? Did you ever think we would be eating dinner together?

On the bright side, Sonia is doing a lot better with the dogs. She’s put a lot of work into overcoming her fears. I want the trainer to come back and teach them to stay off the furniture. You know those white couches are rented!

Sonia goes to her friend to talk about her marriage. Her friend tells us that her lack of communication skills has been an issue that contributed to her previous relationships ending.

Nick has some sort of issue with Sonia that is festering. It seems like he is feeling trapped or something. Nick enjoys drinking adult beverages when talking with Sonia. When Sonia suggests that they focus on the positives and move their friendship forward, Nick agrees and then adds, “Don’t get me wrong, I think it’s going to be hard to forget everything that’s happened.” Oh Nick. Really?  Sonia is already starting to tear up when he says, “Who’s to say you are not going to be back to the other way and we never resolve everything because you walk away every time.”

Nick shares a lot of doubt over the course of two confessionals in two different outfits so this has been going on with him for a while. He says when they first got married he thought she was beautiful.  Then he basically says the more time he spends with her the less attracted he is.  He has doubt that the matchmakers got it right.

Nike tells Sonia that they shouldn’t have to work for the relationship. It should just happen and they don’t have that vibe.  Nick says he expected everything to be fucking flowers and rose petals and it’s not. Sonia says she had no expectations (and he’s still a disappointment).  Sonia says they have to put in the work to get there. Nick thinks it’s either there or it isn’t. Oh my, this is not going well. Nick keeps saying that three professionals matched them scientifically and it should just work with no effort at all.

Nick has a meltdown about everyone telling him to open up. He tells Sonia never to use the phrase again or he will …be more over it than he already is!  Then he goes off to production and screams about not being attracted to her. Nick is drunk. He is going outside, probably to smoke when a female producer shouts, “Every relationship requires work!”  He turns around and says, “Well, you’ve got to be attracted to the person to want to make it work.”

He yells at the producer, “I don’t like her, that’s opening up, I don’t think she’s attractive, and I’m not attracted to her and that is me opening up to the fullest fucking extent!” Well now, be careful what you ask for.

Next we see  Sonia packing all her shit. She tells the producers that having a conversation with him is like having a conversation with a ten-year-old. She rolls out her suitcases and tells the dogs, “You have a shitty father, sorry. ”  When she gets in her car she takes her ring off. The little yappy dog she bonded with peers out the window barking as she leaves.


Next Week: The pastor lays down the law with Nick telling him “Marriage is not for punks!”  Tom gives Sonia the impression that he’s just living in the moment and is not interested in long-range planning. And the producers continue to try to make us believe Derek and whatzername might try again.


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59 responses to “Married At First Sight: In Sickness and In Health

  1. Allison

    Excellent recap!! My husband made the same comment about the dogs and their red asses, how funny. He also made a gross comment about why they may have red asses, but that could be libel so I’m not saying 😉
    I’ve kind of held my opinion on nick but I’m thinking he’s easily overwhelmed and that turns him into a douche lord. He was unnecessarily mean. He sucks. Have some manners, bro. And I refuse to speculate on his “spectrum” status because it’s inappropriate and just ridiculous. People can be different or quirky and be just that without a diagnoses. I can’t stand the pastor. They really messed up this season with their matches-new team, perhaps?

  2. Jaded

    So much for me liking Sonia and Nick. I really felt sorry for Sonia. Maybe Nicj and Heather should get together since they’re both so perfect.

    • Patricia's martini glass

      It would be interesting if they swapped them. Although since they are married, maybe that’s getting into a different kind of show. Lol.

  3. Nick was awful. I think he may not like women. I’ve never known a guy who won’t bang a lovely woman who is willing. Gee, get drunk and do it. I think he is gay.

    • Teresa

      You all are forgetting that in next week’s promo Sonia tells the pastor that they had sex! So I think Nick was not happy with the experience, hence is major meltdown.

    • happy@life

      I totally agree with you. I personally think he would prefer an alternate lifestyle; i.e gay. Better for it to come out now rather than later.

      • Please reconsider describing gay as “alternative lifestyle”… I’m gay and I wake up, work, pay bills, take care of my family, my pets, and my friends. My lifestyle is not much different than your lifestyle except that I have to defend my “lifestyle”.

      • tamaratattles

        Alternative lifestyle to me means something ENTIRELY different than gay,,, just saying. And I am more offended that she thinks Nick is gay, he’s not. I have pointed this out ELEVENTY BILLION TIMES. I have impeccable gaydar and he is not gay, furthermore, he does not belong to any “alternative lifestyle” i’m um.. pretty tuned in to those,

        I’m more upset as a not gay guy but literally closest to gay friends by the strange assumption that Nick is gay. My gaydar doesn’t even blip.

    • happy@life

      I totally agree with you. I personally think he would prefer an alternate lifestyle; i.e gay. Better for it to come out now rather than later.

  4. Derek looks like Adam Levine in the pic. Yummy.

  5. Ellis Scarlett

    Nick was very scary and seemed to turn on a dime. How did he pass muster in the first place??

    • Teresa

      That’s what I dont get. How did Nick (Mr. Personality) get picked for this show in the first place? Weird people, terrible matches, questionable professional counseling…this season is a sh*t show. But I keep watching!!!

      • Allison

        It totally got so weak-I was expecting more meat from Dr Pepper talking to heather and Derek-instead they have to write letters of appreciation? Lame. I question these experts, the pastor is useless-and their matches, aside from tom and Lillian (unless they implode) make no sense.

  6. Dancing Matisse

    Nick touched a booby (his term not mine), tried having sex and freaked out that he’s not attracted to … Sonia, to women … ?

    He’s incredibly emotionally stunted. Run, Sonia, run.

  7. tamaratattles

    WOW! How quickly you guys turn on Nick. I’m surprised.

    I think Sonia did exactly the right thing by packing up and leaving. But I also think they can get through this. Nick had been festering over something for days. Then he had a few drinks and lots of stuff came falling out,

    Everyone take a few deep breaths and give it a couple of episodes.

    • Overeducatedopinion

      Wow. From episode 1 heather was a bitch and now it’s oh give poor nick a chance when he says deliberately cruel and hurtful things to/about Sonia; he’s either checked out or repulsed and those are the only two speeds he has. You are a complete misogynist. Your clear self loathing has spilled abundantly over onto other women. Seriously get a clue or a modicum of education in women’s studies. Gross.

      • tamaratattles

        Oh dear God, Women’s studies? That’s one of them there programs at schools with the safe zones where students can hang out free from hearing anything that might hurt their delicate sensibilities isn’t it? Sweetie, this ain’t no safe zone. You might want to shuffle out of hear before something else upsets you. I am proud of you for getting your thoughts down without going straight to the “I’m offended by something you said.”

        Go find your safe zone.

    • Allison

      While its true he may have snapped out of frustration, he was MEAN. When someone shows they’re capable of being that mean to a woman, their wife, that they really don’t know well so should be on their best behavior it’s a red flag for me. He wouldn’t make eye contact with her and that was weird too. His affect is just off and has been. That said, I agree it’s possible to work it out. If Sonia can get past being told he’s not attracted to her and doesn’t like her. Something like that would stick with me. They say alcohol can be truth serum.

    • Sonia, go and never look back. You deserve better.
      There would be no coming back from those comments for me too. That is a devastating blow to someone’s self-esteem. My ex used to pull that shit on me: not pretty enough, not smart enough, his friends were in agreement with him and questioning why would he marry such unattractive woman. That falls in mental/emotional abuse category, in my book.

    • CupcakeScholar

      My husband thinks that Nick was not “up” for the task and failed to perform. Hence his drunken rage. He behaved like an abusive bum. Angry drunks are dangerous. At least Heather was more friendly and silly whe she drank…Although she falls in the “bum” category too…

    • Nick is just so boring or maybe he just has one speed…. Off. Sonia seems like she would be a great wife. Nick is stewing about something. I have my suspicions, but they aren’t based on anything other than intuition. I think he isn’t attracted to women. They seem well matched in one aspect, though. The both say “like” too much and speak in baby voices, what’s up with that?

  8. Observer2

    Totally surprised by the turn that Nick and Sonia took this episode.

    From Sonia’s perspective, I think she may have had people handle her with kid gloves all her life, and now that it’s gotten “real” she’s having a hard time dealing with it. She probably truly expected Nick to get rid of his dogs for her. And finally 4 weeks in to the 6 weeks – she gets a professional to help her deal with them. I’m getting frustrated just watching her fumble around or just wait and not DO anything to make things better.

    I tried looking @ it from Nick’s point of view and can see that for someone who does not open up, he’s REALLY pushing himself to do it. It would be totally frustrating for the person you are putting all that effort in for to just up and walk away without a single word of explanation. Then come at you again and tell you to “open up” again. For what? For you to walk away again because you can’t handle it? I’d be “testing wine” too!

    Can’t help but wonder if Nick is waiting for Sonja to get over herself about his dogs before he totally commits to her?

    Tom and Lilian had a great week this week.

    Poor Derek. He definitely needs to be happy he totally dodged a bullet by not getting stuck with Heather. That guy has a lot of good attributes. It’s unfortunate that he doesn’t see just what a good catch he truly is.

    • Stacylyn

      Perhaps reflecting back on the comments said that were quite hurtful that made her walk away in the first place. Nick is insensitive and I probably would have walked away too or may have fired back in a negative way.

    • I don’t think Sonia’s used to kid glove treatment. She’s a social worker who places foster children. She has, no doubt, seen the worst of the worst. That’s about as “real” and brutal as it gets.

  9. Lolagyrl

    Sonia seems like a sweet person. I have no idea what Nick’s problem is.

    That said, if someone was set up with me & didn’t love my dogs, I’d immediately show them the door. It’s odd that the couples weren’t screened for things like this.

    • Allison

      @lola isn’t it though? I’ve said it before, I could see setting up a dog lover with a cat lover or dog-indifferent. But to set a dog lover up with someone legitimately fearful of the animals is stupid at best, cruel at worst. Luckily I’m married and my husband loves our dog as much as I do but if I were single and you don’t even like my dog? Later bater.

  10. Totally agree with last two comments…it’s a no brainier and the matchmakers were stone cold wrong.

    When Nick and Sonia were making eggs for breakfast, Nick was acting all superior about the pans being a problem. When Sonia said to use olive oil in the pan he challenged that as being wrong, too. Little things, but they turn into big problems on the daily grind. 🍳

  11. Stacylyn

    Nick is very insensitive. He makes very unnecessary comments like “I’m not in love with you”. Who would expect you to be after several days? He needs to speak before he speaks and have some compassion for a woman who is just trying to get to know him. He has me more pissed than Heather!!

  12. I know Sonia is insecure and akward but she certainly is a pretty girl. Most men will take sex with a pretty girl no matter how annoying she is. I think he is just looking for a way out. This has been a crazy season.

    • Rastajacob

      People here are certainly NOT seeing the forest through the trees. It is NOT that Nick isn’t PHYSICALLY attracted to Sonia, it’s that he constant need for reassurance, immature “up speak” voice, and decision to remove herself from a conversation that isn’t going her way is enough for most men to react the way that Nick did. Sorry, if you don’t believe that and you have a man and you ask him if he would ever do what Nick did to Sonia if YOU, his partner, began to act like Sonia did, he is LYING….sorry, men older than 28 like strong, assertive women. Sonia’s insecurities would push me away and cause me to react that way as well…

  13. Cat

    Disclaimer: I know I don’t have all of the facts, since I can’t watch the show (this was recently brought to my attention here in comments), but I’m going to comment anyway.

    I feel sorry for Derek. If smoking pot was the worst thing he did, then Heather was lucky.

    I won’t go full in on Nick. But he sounds very immature. The impression I got when reading this post and comments was that he has that fairytale mentality that is usually reserved for females.

    “And they lived happily ever after.”

    Fairytale. Fairytales are not real. Marriage takes work. And communication. That was something I learned in my own marriage. Too little, too late.

    • Allison

      @cat our young Nick doesn’t subscribe to the marriage taking work theory. He feels since the experts did the “work” the marriage relationship should be a cakewalk.

  14. Creampuff

    Nick the dick! Since the first episode, when Nick refused to tell Sonia she looked beautiful on her wedding day, I wondered about his passive-agressive coping strategies. He withholds info and affection from her, and expects her to magically understand that he doesn’t like her. But good Lord, Sonia, like, why do you talk, like, a little, like, baby? You sound, like, a little girl, not, like, a woman. It’s, like, embarrassing. Who wants to fuck an insecure, like, tween? (Seriously, turn on the close captioning and you’ll be shocked at how often Sonya says, like.) I feel sorry for meek little Sonia, she is the only one trying, but she needs to put on her big girl panties and tell Nick what a lame, sissy, little bitch he’s being. I’m glad she walked out.

    • FJsquared

      Nick doesn’t like women and is looking for a beard. He is in the closet and probably can’t admit it to him, thus his anger issues. Be grateful, Sonia, that you saw this side of him now. Trust me, putting your all into a loveless marriage over years can rob you of some of the best years of your life; years you can’t have back. God bless you.

  15. Deirdre

    When the blonde therapist met with S&N then asked they they hug it out, Nick leaned way into the therapist and smiled the biggest smile I’ve seen from him, while avoiding Sonia’s attempt to get him to hug her. He really liked the blond tantric trainer (as did Sonia.) He’s just not into Sonia who is probably wasting her time at this point. Well not really since she’s getting paid per week. So at least she can pay those student loans down on her own and feel good about that.

    • Sharon

      Deirdre-I saw that too with Nick and the blonde therapist and tantra lady. I don’t know why so many commenters are so quickly assuming he is gay? He says he has had 3 long term relationships where he was “in love” before and he had been intimate a lot quicker in previous relationship so I think he just is not all that attracted to Sonia at this point in time. She is cute and sweet but the chemistry is not instantly there and may change as show progresses. Yes, he was insensitive and unfortunately Sonia heard the hurtful comments he made to the producer when he was drunk however why are folks so quick to demonize him?

  16. DarkThoughts

    Did anyone catch the preview for next week? It seems like Sonia is telling the Pastor that she and Nick had sex. I can’t believe that.

  17. Rosr

    Heather and nick are two birches. Whoever made the matches miss something because those two deserve each other ….
    Sonia run as far as possible from that son of a birch…it better to be alone that be with him ..

    • tamaratattles

      What delightful insight you have. Perhaps these two birches will bend and rise and bend and rise throughout a very long relationship.Or maybe you are just one of those idiots who thinks not typing a word means you didn’t really say it. Either way. We all got some Robert Frost out of it. And maybe, just maybe you’ll at least learn to spell your own name before attacking others.

      Birches Related Poem Content Details
      When I see birches bend to left and right
      Across the lines of straighter darker trees,
      I like to think some boy’s been swinging them.
      But swinging doesn’t bend them down to stay
      As ice-storms do. Often you must have seen them
      Loaded with ice a sunny winter morning
      After a rain. They click upon themselves
      As the breeze rises, and turn many-colored
      As the stir cracks and crazes their enamel.
      Soon the sun’s warmth makes them shed crystal shells
      Shattering and avalanching on the snow-crust—
      Such heaps of broken glass to sweep away
      You’d think the inner dome of heaven had fallen.
      They are dragged to the withered bracken by the load,
      And they seem not to break; though once they are bowed
      So low for long, they never right themselves:
      You may see their trunks arching in the woods
      Years afterwards, trailing their leaves on the ground
      Like girls on hands and knees that throw their hair
      Before them over their heads to dry in the sun.
      But I was going to say when Truth broke in
      With all her matter-of-fact about the ice-storm
      I should prefer to have some boy bend them
      As he went out and in to fetch the cows—
      Some boy too far from town to learn baseball,
      Whose only play was what he found himself,
      Summer or winter, and could play alone.
      One by one he subdued his father’s trees
      By riding them down over and over again
      Until he took the stiffness out of them,
      And not one but hung limp, not one was left
      For him to conquer. He learned all there was
      To learn about not launching out too soon
      And so not carrying the tree away
      Clear to the ground. He always kept his poise
      To the top branches, climbing carefully
      With the same pains you use to fill a cup
      Up to the brim, and even above the brim.
      Then he flung outward, feet first, with a swish,
      Kicking his way down through the air to the ground.
      So was I once myself a swinger of birches.
      And so I dream of going back to be.
      It’s when I’m weary of considerations,
      And life is too much like a pathless wood
      Where your face burns and tickles with the cobwebs
      Broken across it, and one eye is weeping
      From a twig’s having lashed across it open.
      I’d like to get away from earth awhile
      And then come back to it and begin over.
      May no fate willfully misunderstand me
      And half grant what I wish and snatch me away
      Not to return. Earth’s the right place for love:
      I don’t know where it’s likely to go better.
      I’d like to go by climbing a birch tree,
      And climb black branches up a snow-white trunk
      Toward heaven, till the tree could bear no more,
      But dipped its top and set me down again.
      That would be good both going and coming back.
      One could do worse than be a swinger of birches.

    • Allison

      They are trees. And sons of trees. Ugh. You can say bitch, yanno. It’ll at least make sense and make you look less of an idiot.

      • Teresa

        Wow! Why is this person’s use of the word birch so offensive to you and TT? At the risk of being called an idiot, I don’t understand!? Maybe they didn’t think they could use “curse” words on this blog.

      • Allison

        It’s not that it’s offensive-but to see “birch” where we are all adults and can handle “bitch” just seems unnecessary-we aren’t 5 yrs old and don’t need to censor naughty words. It also loses the whole point of the post.

      • Allison

        And not for nothing, at over 40 yrs old ( I’m taking the liberty of assuming most of the regulars and not so regulars are over 21) if I can’t handle seeing bitch written on a blog, I probably shouldn’t be on the Internet, even.

      • Teresa

        I agree with you, just thought the replies were a little harsh.

      • Allison

        Sorry! I forget myself, sometimes.

      • tamaratattles

        Teresa, Rose has issued with commenting/typing. Her posts get stuck in moderation all the time because she can’t type her own name or email consistently all of which kicks her into the moderated stack that I have to go through only to find nonsensical crap. So I posted this one. And some Robert Frost. Because it’s always a good time for a poem.

      • Teresa

        Thank you for taking the time to explain.

  18. Rose

    I still think Tom and Lillian are living in la la land. I was disappointed in Nick being so mean but it also seems we’re missing footage. Both of then are poor communicators and Sonia needs to ask for what she wants. I felt bad for Derek abs love his mom for how she handled things. Dr. Peppers talk with Heather and Derek was horrible…I expected more from her.

  19. SoulSista

    From the beginning I felt like Nick just wasn’t in to Sonia. And I think she sensed it too, which is why they are having difficulties coming together. You can’t force physical chemistry. This dull couple should call it a wrap & move along.

    • Michele

      I said the same thing the day of their wedding. Before the wedding when Sonia gave him the bottle of cognac and the note that came with it mentioned specifically “here’s a bottle of cognac”, and Nick’s mother piped in “why couldn’t she just say a bottle of whisky?” – Nick defended his soon-to-be wife and that was the last bit of empathy he could muster up for her. From the second he saw her up until the last episode he seemed indifferent or even disappointed that he had to spend time with Sonia in any capacity. Definitely no chemistry and he definitely doesn’t seem like the “fake it to make it” kind of guy.

  20. Rastajacob

    Yo, people aren’t getting it. He was into her. Her actions caused him to fall out of being into her. Contrary to what some women may believe, Sonia’s insecurities, mannerisms and hang ups are Unbecoming for a woman of her age. I would be jacked if I had been paired with her as well.

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