Anthony Bourdain and Wife Ottavia Busia Separate

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If you follow me on Twitter, you would know that I am a huge Anthony Bourdain fan.  HUGE. When I moved off of my last television provider to a new one, I was devastated that I lost all of my saved No Reservations episodes. (Yes, I know this is the part where you all rush in to solve the problem, I know all about DVDs and Hulu and Zulu and NetFlix and all of those other things. It’s not the same.) Sometimes I have to tape two things at once that I have to recap but for whatever reason am not recapping live, and I click over to my DVR and have Anthony on in the background in some exotic location that I can listen to while I finishing up a post.  Plus, when he moved to CNN he went to Tripoli. I still have that one on my new DVR.

There are a handful of us on Twitter that keep each other up to date on Bourdain’s tours (I actually upset with him at the moment because the current one has not a single stop below the Mason Dixon line.)  We all playfully let each other know when “our husband” is going to be on TV or is working with a new website.

But we all know he has a wife, Ottavia Busia, and they have a child and that she is a beautiful much younger Italian woman who is an MMA fighter who could kick our asses all at the same time. We were impressed by his lifestyle changes when his daughter came along.

And now, in one of those, “well we should have guessed this” moments,  it turns out that Anthony and Ottavia have been living separate lives for a long time and that the separation has now become more official.

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Well of course they have. We’ve seen him traveling the globe pretty much full time with his TV show.  He just announced yet another US tour to sell his books and bring in the ticket sales.  I don’t think we ever considered his home life  because he seemed so available for all the things we wanted to share with him.

So as it turns out, Page Six is reporting that basically they have been separated for years and that Anthony was really only ever home for the holidays. And it seems that Ottavia is ready to move on with her life.

And this is not a new thing. Here is an excerpt from an interview she did for a Valentine’s Day piece in 2012 on Married to A Chef.

How do you handle the holidays knowing he is going to be busy at work?

A. For me it’s actually the opposite, the holidays are the only times when he’s home. Which is strange to deal with when you are used to be alone.  True story, I remember once waking up in the middle of the night terrified because someone was in my bed. That someone was my husband, I had just forgotten that he was home. Good thing I didn’t beat him up. This past holidays he actually cooked, which was great, but yeah, it took 5 years of marriage to find out my husband can cook a mean holiday meal.

Here is her quote to Page Six

A rep for Bourdain, 60, had no comment when asked about the separation. Busia, 38, told us via e-mail, “Because of professional decisions we both have made, my husband and I have been for years in an unconventional relationship. Nothing has changed. We love each other. We respect the decisions the other has made. And we’ll always consider ourselves a family.”

I sort of thought this kind of announcement would give me sort of a “Yay! More Anthony for Me!” type feeling. But frankly, I have always had all the Anthony I wanted. And I sort of feel disappointed in him. I don’t think it is going to be too long before his health will slow him down and he will need someone to take care of him,  He can’t maintain his current lifestyle forever. He’s already missed a lot of time with his daughter.

It’s like pulling back the curtain on The Wizard of Oz, or finding out there is no Santa Claus. This just doesn’t seem like good news to me.

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30 responses to “Anthony Bourdain and Wife Ottavia Busia Separate

  1. SLM

    This sucks in a lot of ways. Totally bummed.

  2. That’s sad. At least, it sounds amicable. New season premiers soon.

  3. Heidi

    So sad for them. I’ve had a crush on him for as long as I can remember. His attitude and outlook and passion just get me going, love him so much.

  4. cammierari

    Sounds like it was a real love affair-not. I think Anthony likes food more than being with his wife.

  5. Ktina

    Now I have a chance. I always felt that she wasn’t right for him.

  6. I thought once he got married he would change, and then once he had a kid again I thought he would change, guess a true leopard doesn’t change it’s spots. Is that the right saying? Anyways, I wish him well… I also have a major crush on him. :)

  7. If I wasn’t married I might stalk him. I have a serious crush.

  8. Rach

    I have had a crush on him for years. Sad to hear him and his wife have separated.

  9. JoJoFLL

    This just makes me sad.

  10. Happy gal

    Gosh I feel badly for them both. Especially his daughter. Too bad they could not travel with him but with a young child I’m sure that would be so hard.

    I hope they both find future happiness. Maybe for him someone not looking to have children that would be free to explore the globe and food with him would be ideal

    I hate when anyone’s marriage does not make it

  11. AngieAR

    Aww man. I’m literally watching Anthony’s CNN show on Neflix and took a break to see if there was anything quick to read and then I see this!!!! I agree with you TT, it’s news that doesn’t feel good. Boo :(

  12. Miguel

    It’s so strange that a few commenters were recently discussing him & now this! I hope Anthony & his family are well!!!

  13. Melissa

    I have had a love/hate thing with Anthony for over a decade. (yes, we are on a first name basis in my mind).

    I was pissed that he went after Paula Deen — she’s my fantasy mother and/or mammaw (which is southern for grandma where I’m from) with the accent and the southern food, but in my fantasy she didn’t use the n word. Ever.

    Anyway, I’m not surprised but I am sad for him. I always assumed she traveled with him. But I guess that’s not practical with a child. She is a martial arts bad ass. Very cool lady.

  14. Christi

    If he had wanted to be home with her he would have been. He chose traveling and drinking. Can’t say I blame her for wanting out. Maybe she found someone who put her first.

  15. Shae

    While it’s refreshing they have such a positive attitude about each other in the divorce, it’s still very sad the marriage failed. I have adored him for years, his shows, his books, etc. and it seemed like a nice story that he cleaned up his life and had a nice family. Here’s hoping he’s happy.

  16. kkbella

    He’s always seemed somewhat tourtured. I think he’s better on his own, as though he doesn’t deserve a long term loving exchange, or perhaps he doesn’t have it in him to give in that way. No matter what, some of us are sexier alone- don’t forget fantasy is often better than reality. The best to both.

  17. G.

    Are you certain you’ve had your fill of Anthony or maybe there’s room for a little more?

    I ask because I have a friend in common with Tony and Ottavia, after years of what could politely be called pestering, I not only got to meet him but had dinner in a small group. It exceeded my exceptions and I’d so love to re-live the evening.

    This is sad news.

  18. Karebear

    He’s a gypsy for life I love his twisted dark mind and most chefs are like-minded in this regard but Anthony is also extremely intelligent so he is always suffering with his Id. I love him too.

  19. Dandy Lion

    I’ve always had a crush on him, that said, the breakup of a marriage is always said. I like that they seem to be doing it positively. Especially w a daughter involved.

  20. Dandy Lion

    *sad. The breakup of a marriage is always sad.

  21. Lolita

    So sad. Their daughter is the same age as ours. I have been MADLY in love with Tony for years. I have all his books. My husband was always a bit jealous. One time he was eating a, let’s say, unusual part of an animal. My husband screams out from the other room, “Hey honey, your boyfriend is eating an a#$hole”. Truly story.

  22. Lisa j

    Remember the episode where he had his fortune read and this was WAYYYYYYYY before the marriage, anyway the fortune teller said he would have a hard love life and AB said basically yeah no shit, tell me something I don’t know. He’s the consummate mans man to me, uber cool with a touch of melancholy and a dash of sanguine. He’s my dream lover but I imagine he would make a dreadful husband. Ah oh well, wishing them all the best and that life brings more joy than sadness.

  23. MLS

    TT…..come to baltimore…..my daughter and i are going to see AB in philly in october. we will take you with us. we are actually going to stay for a couple of days to do some foodie things also. i believe he is also coming to DC (below the mason dixon line ;)). we saw him a few years ago with chef eric ripert and they were both great to listen to! lots of stories to tell.

  24. Diane

    Well this makes me very sad. I loved them as a couple. They were very cute together when she would appear on the show. I too have had a major crush on him for decades now. I have seen him x3 on tour. It seems a little odd because they had pictures just recently of them both at a MMA and he got a new belt and she was proud. It does sound like it is amicable which is good for their daughter.

    He needs someone who would be willing to grab a backpack and travel the world with him. ME ME ME ME…… stand back all…. LOL

    No really back off now…. it is my turn 😉😊😋😎

  25. Diane

    Ottavia posted about him last night and how proud she was for his Emmy. She has very recent as in 2 days ago pics of them . I think this is how they wish to live and it is not a separation in the way we would think. I think it is just their life. Seems to me that she wouldn’t be posting pics of them so recently if this was something major for them. She travels much for her MMA too. She has been in Tokoyo for a week herself.

    I hope they just manage it as they seem so good together.

  26. Amy V

    Bourdain in Naxos, Greece telling one of his many host that Ulysses was such a dick. Why, because he would go island hopping in the Greek isles and leave his wife behind. I know I know, working vs gallivanting.

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