Eid Mubarak To My Muslim Friends!

Libya Eid Mubarak


At last the long month of Ramadan is over and the fasting will/has ended depending on where you live. As most of you know by now, I was Raised in Tripoli, Libya.  I borrowed the above photo and text below from the The Libya Observer

Who announced the end of Ramadan tonight :

The Libyan people will celebrate Eid Al-Fitr on Wednesday to mark the end of Ramadan. Eid Al-Fitr will last for three days and will be celebrated first by an Eid prayer at the mosques and then by breaking the fast in the morning after finishing the fasting month of Ramadan.

The celebration of Eid Al-Fitr involves a range of traditions, generally including a gathering of family and friends to eat and pray together, visiting relatives and friends to extend greetings, and in some countries, people go to the cemetery holding a branch of wreath to place it on the tombstone of their beloved ones.

Eid Al-Fitr is a celebration where Muslims thank Allah for the strength, the will, and the endurance He gives them during their fasting times in Ramadan.

I am very familiar with that spot in Libya that is pictured above and I am so glad to see so many Libyans alive and well and celebrating the end of Ramadan during such a troubling time for my second country.

Eid Mubarak

I don’t believe Arabs actually say Eid Mubarak, at least not Libyans, but it’s the cool hip thing to do here so, there you have it.

I’d also like to give a shout out to Muslims in a positive way because they catch a lot of hate from ignorant people who do not understand the world.

So I’m going to share a story from my childhood. Most of the memories from my childhood are when something scary happened. This one is not a scary memory but related to something that might have caused the climate of my household to be heated and out of the ordinary.

I was very young about six or seven years old when our car, a very crappy Fiat that was probably super old was stolen. It was the summer time and Libya is in the middle of the Sahara and very hot. Like over 100 degrees for weeks on end sometimes.  Though actually, I never really remember being hot. I was tossed out in the yard like most kids in that era and told to go look at ants or find a way to amuse yourself. Which I did. But that’s a whole nuther story.

Anyway, my mother for some reason explained the adult situation of the stolen car to me. The police were called and the car was found in Al-ʿAzīzīyah. It was Ramadan, the month of fasting for all Muslims who are physically able. The police man came and picked up my father and took him to get the car in Al-ʿAzīzīyah.  At the time, Al-ʿAzīzīyah was considered the hottest place on Earth. Literally. Like it was in all the record books and it was an exceptionally hot day even for Libya.

My mother, who was an old southern lady of a certain era not particularly know for being overly inclusive of other cultures and religions made a point to tell me about the police officer who escorted my father to retrieve our POS  Fiat. Hell, I was six and I knew it was a POS when the brakes went out on a very busy street and we could not stop. Libyans cross the street anywhere at any time and presume that Allah will protect them and my parents and I all had nuclear meltdowns that we were going to mow down and kill some locals with the stupid crappy Fiat.  Thankfully, Allah did protect us all that day.

Anyway the story was that the police officer was a very kind young man and even though everyone was miserably hot, with tempertures on the 115+ range, he purchased a co-cola (probably a Fanta really) for my daddy and brought it to him even though he, himself,  could not drink anything.

Even though my family went to church at the First Baptist Church of Tripoli, where I was baptized,  I heard the call of prayer of from the mosques many times throughout the day and would be shopping at the souk with my mother while we quietly waited while the shopkeepers all prayed before moving on.

I find myself thinking of the tranquil moments tonight after recapping a show that just struck me as full of evil, and it is a nice place to sit in my mind and heart where I don’t have to use any bad language at all to describe the feeling.

I really wish the entire world could experience the peace that comes from the Islamic community. And the kindness and security I felt. We really need more of that.


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35 responses to “Eid Mubarak To My Muslim Friends!

  1. Margarett

    Lovely post, Tamara. As you know, because of our time in Tripoli, my husband and I have a heart for Libya. It was a very happy time for us.

    I too wish the Libyan people peace and prosperity.

    • tamaratattles

      It’s so crazy and wonderful that I met you here, Margarett. And how grateful I am to you for your continued kindness toward me even if I was a bit horrible in the beginning. :)

      • Margarett

        Meeting you here is a gift from the universe for me. And, I am so very grateful.

        You were not horrible!! You straightened me out and I needed it !

  2. What a nice positive story & thank you for sharing your experience. I’ve never been to Libya, but I have traveled to the middle east when I was a teenager to visit family in Palestine. As a tourist from America we were met with such warm hospitality from the Muslim neighbors. Most were so poor but you couldn’t tell by the large feasts of food for us as they welcomed us like family into their home. I know it sounds horrible but they even slaughtered & cooked one of their goats for us which is a very high compliment. It was amazing & gracious considering we were Christian kids from America.

    • tamaratattles

      I got to go to Libyan weddings as a kid. It was such a neat experience and my mother did a great job of explaining it to me. And yes goats were killed for the feast. I don’t really remember much about that. I think that because I went into such hysteria over the bullfighting, in Spain I was probably sheltered.
      My mother could make the noise Arab women make in celebration which I cannot even begin to describe. I like to think that means I might have some Libyan ancestry at least a tiny bit.

      • Lol my mom did those embarrassing ululations at my milestone events like high school & college graduation. I was mortified to say the least. It’s so funny because as a child I was bullied & teased for bringing hummus sandwiches to school while the rest of the kids ate PB&J. Now hummus is mainstream everywhere & loved by all.

      • Margarett

        Oh, Urethra Franklin, I am so impressed by your mother. I have tried for hours on end to get the hang of ululations. (I didn’t know that word and have always called it ‘keening’…thanks.) I learned when attending a Native American funeral that the women do a very similar response to grieving. Maybe at celebrations, too.

      • Theresa

        Your hummus sandwiches remind me of how I had a bagel with cream cheese and tomato for lunch and was made fun of and then it too became cool #trendsetters :)

    • Billie_bee

      I’m so happy to hear you had a positive experience and carry it with you! I’m Lebanese and my husband is Egyptian. I was born and raised in Canada and live in AZ. I trucked my kids to Lebanon and Egypt last year and hope to be able to continue to take them every couple of years. My 3-year old’s favorite food is hummus and shawarma :)

      • tamaratattles

        Billie, when we lived in Tripoli we had to vacate for two weeks every like six months or so in addition to our regular travels. We spent ALL of time in Lebanon. The Easter Bunny hid my eggs on the campus of the university one year. One time when I was a bit older I snuck out of the hotel with a girl who was a bit more wordly (lol) to go to the makeup shop and try on the samples. Also, because there was no babysitter for me my parents and I went to a place called “The Milk Bar” which was sort of like a Moulin Rouge sort of thing and the women were topless or perhaps wearing pasties. I remember saying something like “I guess Daddy really likes this part” and I still remember the look of mortification on my strict Southern Baptist parents faces.

      • Billie_bee

        That’s awesome TT. I’m so happy to hear you got a chance to see Lebanon during it’s prime. My dad always tells me stories how it was considered the Paris of the middle east and the place for vacations. My dad left in the late 60s and sent for my mom a year later so they didn’t experience the war. The first time they went back we all went together for a family trip. It was hard for them to see the country after. They go every summer now for a few months. Everytime I go I’m always reminded that Lebanese woman have style and flair. It always reminds me to step up my game :)

  3. Kiyoshigirl

    Thank you for sharing a lovely story with positive sentiments about Islam and the beautiful tradition of prayer 5 times a day. As a Christian, I fully appreciate the commitment to daily prayer practiced by millions of faithful Muslims throughout the world. The sacrifice of fasting for weeks on end is a challenge few of us Christians will ever understand. I’m thankful for the young woman who explained to me the reasoning behind it. After experiencing health issues she is no longer able to completely fast during Ramadan. For a few years it broke her heart to break from the tradition of sacrifice that was so important to her. Despite her multiple health issues, she now substitutes fasting with a month long effort to collect food for the needy in her community. As Americans we need to spend more time learning about and talking to honorable Muslims about the “true” basis of their faith.

  4. Wonderful post. Thank you, Tamara.

  5. Sarah

    Thank you Tamara for your kind gesture.It is truly appreciated.Especially coming on the heels of Sunday’s devastating bombing by ISIS in Iraq.It has claimed 250 people and many more injured.Many of whom were preparing for Eid. Since there has been virtual media silence about it I felt the need to share it.

    • tamaratattles

      Thanks for letting us know Sarah. I miss a lot of news because it is all election all the time whenever I have a moment to watch something I don’t have to recap. That’s terrible to hear.

      • Sarah

        So sorry Tamara for typing twice I thought my first reply didn’t go through.Hope everyone had a great 4th of July. I live in Dubai and we often celebrate 4th of July and Thanksgiving with our American expat friends.

  6. Frosty

    Thanks for sharing that with us TT. I’ve never been to Libya but did manage to get to Morocco once. People were lovely and very kind. The time we spent there is one of my favorite memories.

  7. Mary

    Thank you so much for recognizing the beauty of Islam Tamara. I love reading your recaps on my bravo obsessions but this post just took the cake.

  8. JoJoFLL

    Wonderful stories, thank you Tamara and others for sharing!

  9. What a beautiful post. I could have used some of that tranquility you speak of after the bad behavior exhibited on both Bravo shows last night. Just makes me sad now. I have long admired the custom of the call to pr. We all could benefit from that. Peace and blessings to all.

  10. Sammie

    This is beautiful, once again TT thank you for sharing stories from your life.

  11. OMG, Fiat. Was it 126p or 125p?

  12. Sherry

    That was a wonderful story and I appreciate you telling it. What an interesting life you have lived TT.

  13. Thank you for your beautiful post. I wish everyone too could enjoy that beautiful feeling.

  14. Billie_bee

    Thank you very much for your beautiful post TT. It literally brought tears to my eyes. And thank you for trying to bring awareness to Muslims in your positive way in your platform that reaches so many. It’s so much appreciated, and I appreciate you. Sorry for being so sappy. Ramadan was hard this year. It’s hot here in AZ, the days are long, and I was fasting alone since my husband is diabetic and unable to fast. It’s hard to be without family when it’s Eid. But I decorated the house with my girls, and we will go to the store later and I’ll let them pick out a gift :) We’re having a big celebration on Sunday with friends.

    Eid Mubarak!

  15. Matzah60

    A beautiful story, Tamara. I had no idea you spent your childhood in Libya. I have never been to Libya, but like some others, I have been to Morocco and Algeria. I was there five days with my mom around 35 years ago. I was in Israel around 10 years ago for the first time, but it was a terrible time in history and I was quite scared of not making it home….long story. I was in Malawi 7 years ago to get my oldest son. He was working there and I had already planned on meeting him in Tunasia, but he got very sick from a deadly parasite. After being hospitalized, I had to help him get back to Europe where he recovered and we traveled.

    It is unfortunate that the media, Trump, and others like David Duke have brought such a dark cloud over the Muslim culture. It is such a peaceful culture and so family oriented. It is unfortunate that the world doesn’t understand that many of the Muslims in Iran and Iraq are running from the same terrorists that we are. Xenophobia is so widespread and it saddens me.

    Thanks for sharing your story. I was very touched!!

  16. ZenJen55

    Simply your finest story, my dear friend

  17. MARC

    Beautiful piece.

  18. Sarah

    Thank you Tamara and your readers for these kind words.Although most are not celebrating due to suicide bombings by Isis that have claimed 250 and many more injured in Iraq.Kids with there families shopping for Eid.Sadly these were not the only incidents.It was a week of terror and still going on.Since there isn’t widespread media coverage of this I just wanted to pass this along.

  19. Africareigns

    Tamara, thank you for sharing this sweet story. I am muslim and celebrated Eid with family and friends yesterday. I so wish people understood that we too worship the God of Abraham just like Christians and Jews. Apologies for not writing a comment earlier to say that I love your website, your insights and that of your readers. It makes it a real experience unlike many that are around. To my American friends I hope you all had a fantastic 4th of July. Peace and love to all.

  20. Philly's Finest

    The Adhan is beautiful sound

    Thanks for recognize the eid on your blog

  21. Amina Rehman

    Thank you Tamara for such a beautiful story. I’m a muslim american who grew up in Jeddah Saudi Arabia. Spent the day with our family celebrating Eid and thinking and wishing people would see this beautiful culture of Islam, Thank you for sharing.

  22. Thank you for this wonderful story, Tamara. Both my long term exes were Arab (Moroccan and Yemeni) so my fasting for Ramadan has always been out of solidarity as I’m an atheist. I still observe Ramadan with my Muslim friends here in DC. This year was a slogan because my chronic migraines worsening but that made me appreciate my fasting and Eid all the more this year.

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