I’ve lectured people many times here about their bizarre desire to bully people on their social media, particularly housewives. But it generally falls on deaf ears. I generally do not interact with reality folks on their social media unless they contact me first. If I do contact someone, it is to compliment them on something or provide some positive feedback. I ask everyone not to tag me in their tweets to reality people on Twitter and block those who do. It is important for me to be able to keep up with what they are doing on their social media and when they block me, it adds a few step for that.
I haven’t paid much attention to Kathryn Edwards social media for several reasons. Mostly, because she is just not that much of a factor on RHOBH. Also, I have not been paying that much attention to RHOBH in general lately as I was not recapping the show. I will be resuming recapping RHOBH this week, so I guess I should add that back to my list of things to make and do. At any rate, Kathryn has deleted her Twitter and Instagram accounts.
When I was fairly new to blogging and had a very small number of readers in the grand scope of the Internet, I received a DM on Twitter from a now former housewife asking why I hated her so much. Actually, I didn’t hate her, I was just recapping the show and giving my opinion on what I observed. Now this wasn’t a random women posing as a rich woman on a real housewives franchise. This was someone with vast wealth and gorgeous looks who at that time was going through some rough times on a personal front. She’s been both the villain and the fan favorite. And she was deeply upset by something that some random fat chick sitting on the couch in Atlanta was blogging about her. Why? Her DMs struck me as drunk thoughts. As someone who has sent out many a drunk DM in the wee hours after a long night of blogging, I decided to pretend like it never happened. I decided a response, no matter how kind, would probably just embarrass her.
Over the years, I have “gotten to know” a few reality show participants some housewives, some other Bravolebrites, and I’ve come to discover that some are very sensitive about their portrayal in social media. When Kim Richards was on Dr. Phil, her lapses in sobriety were blamed on social media backlash. I’ve gotten a lot of flack here for “coddling” Kim in comments here. But Kim is a very troubled person and the effects of social media on her are real, and I believe life threatening. I can’t police the entire Internet, but I can ensure that my site is not contributing to her demise. I think that Kim should follow in the footsteps of Kathryn Edwards and shut down all social media and live entirely in the real world. But only Kim can make that decision.
I’ve also struggled some with posting about Yolanda Hadid here. Because either Yolanda is very mentally ill, or very sick with some undiagnosed illness, or an evil person deliberately setting out to draw attention to herself for attention and financial gain. I honestly think all three of those options are in play. Something is very wrong with Yolanda. And we can’t seem to stop watching and waiting for the grand implosion. To me, Yolanda seems to be unaffected by the vast majority of people who think she needs some mental help and focuses solely on those unfortunate people who also are looking for something to name their chronic illness. I know how that feels. It’s a terrible feeling to just want to put a name for the physical changes that are happening to you. I also know that everyone wants to collect others in their tribe by suggesting that perhaps whatever condition someone is manifesting is what they have. I got a ton of emails from people saying that what I was describing here was XYZ and ABC and whatever other diagnosis they had. They urged me to get one test or another because they were quite sure they had diagnosed me over the Internet. I’m guilty of the same thing. I think everyone has menopausal symptoms. There is a basic need to find a group that shares your particular condition. We’re all guilty of it. And that is why Yolanda has so many believers.
I don’t think social media is a positive thing for most people. A large percentage of people hanging out on social media are disabled in some way. They have nothing better to do than vent their frustrations on other people. I’m not even on a reality show and I get called every name in the world on social media and in emails and DMs on a daily basis. I have zero fucks to give what Sally Sue in Des Moines, Iowa’s opinion of me is. I don’t understand why some reality people place any importance on what they read about themselves on the Internet. But they do. And if they are the sensitive type, they should definitely just stay off of the Internet. They have beautiful homes, and families and children. They go on fabulous vacations. If hearing about their fat thighs or bad weaves or ratchet behavior on camera bothers them in a real sense then the simple, wise answer is to do what Kathryn Edwards has done and stay off the Internet. Because honestly, they have many more things to do in their lives that make them happy. We will all survive without photos of their meals, and their kids, and their new hairdos. And they will have a lot more peace in their lives.