Eileen Davidson Shares Loss Of Her Brother, Reminds Us All What Is Important

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Most of us here are Bravo addicts for a reason, and that reason is escapism.  It’s the reason that the Brooks storyline and the Yolanda storyline and the Kim Richards storyline all seem to detract from our viewing experience. We tend to focus on the funny and the crazy to nearly obsessive levels.

After spending hours of my life that entered the double digits yesterday covering the latest financial enterprise of a newly released #FelonByBravo, a New Jersey newspaper journalist with the same experience and I exchanged tweets about our plight of covering Teresa’s book tour. Her simple statement, “how did I end up here?” pretty much summed up my thoughts after a two-day sleepless blogging bender.

I still had a story on a former cocktail waitress who was recently banned from a bar to cover, and the OJ Simpson miniseries before heading to bed.  It occurred to me that in my newly chosen career, the plight of an aspiring actress/waitress  in my virtual inbox under “important” and the entire concept felt surreal. I took an interesting approach in covering that story, one I had actually used before in a post about the British Ladies of London attacking the American expat with the lack of couth necessary to fit in. During all of this I am watching a reality star win the NH presidential primary by a landslide. How did we in up here indeed?  While my highly hyperbolic (even for me) post about Kristen Doute garnered tons of views, the comments were disappointing in that my commentary on the irrelevance of what I was posting did not land.

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So while I was unable to convey the sentiment that we put way too much importance on the minutiae of some of these Bravolebs, I hope I can properly convey the importance of remembering that they are real people.

I hope this excerpt from Eileen’s Bravo post will serve as a reminder. That they are all real people dealing with life and death and addiction, and insecurities and finances and health issues just like the rest of it.  Some of them deal with their life struggles by resorting to a life of crime, an uncharacteristic number actually. And other handle their business with class. Eileen Davidson falls into the later group.

On behalf of the entire TamaraTattles clan, I extend deepest sympathies to Eileen and her family. It has been  a rough time for them lately.

 

I’m here with a very heavy heart to share the news of another beloved family member passing away. Sadly, my eldest brother, John “Jack” Davidson, left us suddenly last week at the age of 69.

My big brother was a brilliant man. He graduated Cum Laude with a major in Chemistry and a minor in Mathematics from St. Mary’s College. A proud Vietnam veteran, he served our country as an air traffic controller during his deployment. He loved old cars and considered himself a “muscle car aficionado.” He was heavily involved in all kinds of athletics, especially martial arts. At the age of 56, he received his black belt in Shorin-Ryu Karate. John had a wicked sense of humor and a great love for his family.

Now if you’ll excuse me. I’m going to take some time to call my siblings. Something that often seems to get pushed to the bottom of the to do list. I need to reprioritize what is important.

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41 responses to “Eileen Davidson Shares Loss Of Her Brother, Reminds Us All What Is Important

  1. Cat

    My condolences to Eileen and her family.

    I’ve been a nervous wreck the last 2 weeks. My sister, who will be 76 in March, told me she is scheduled for a hysterectomy on Feb. 12.

    With her age, and other health issues, I am afraid for her. I complain about her a lot….she can be such a Drama Queen, and often exaggerates about things. And I’m hoping she is exaggerating about the seriousness of this surgery.

    But, I got to thinking about what life would be like if something happened to my big sister. Since then, I have taken steps to be much nicer to her. I really DO care about her, and want her to stick around for as long as possible.

    And I no longer complain. Shame on me for being so hard on her over the years.

    • beth

      fingers crossed for your sister Cat.

      • Cat

        Thanks. I need to call her tomorrow. Today, she is busy with the preop tests.

      • Minky

        @Cat Sending waves of good energy to you and your sister. My mother had the same surgery a couple of years ago (3). She had endometrial cancer and they got it in the knick of time. She was a nervous wreck too and my dad and I were as well. The worst part of the hysterectomy, at least for my mother and our family, was the prep and surgery day. I was so stressed that I couldn’t drive normally.

        Anyway, my mother did fine and she’s okay now, sans her hyster. She has to go for check ups every six months. Oh, and she was about 66 when this all happened. About 10 years younger than your sister. Every case is different, but you always worry about family. Stay strong and try to keep it together as much as you can.

        XOXOXOXO. :0)

      • Minky

        This is a beautiful post Tamara. I started crying a bit. Life can be so awful sometimes.

    • Dee

      Oh Cat, I’m sorry, I’m sure she knows you love her.

    • VioletBlue

      @Cat
      I too have had my “moments” of feeling bad for acting/reacting to some of my siblings in our rocky journey through life. I understand. Try not to go there if you can.

    • Gentle hugs to you and your sis, Cat dearest. <3

    • Cat

      Thanks, everyone. I’m hoping it’s not as bad as she claims.

      Here’s what I could get out of her:

      She does NOT have cancer (thank God!)
      She is ASKING for a hysterectomy. Doctors have not approved this…yet.
      She is having an ovary removed.

      If she is just having an ovary removed, they can do this with laproscopic surgery, which is much less invasive. She will still have the anesthesia risks. But I will feel better if it’s less invasive.

      I will call her today, and find out what her doctors decided.

      • Matzah60

        Keep us posted, Cat. For what it’s worth, I’ll say an extra prayer for your sister today, and you as well. I hope you don’t condemn yourself. I think we have all felt badly for things we have said or done to loved ones.

        I think we’re all mere mortals with imperfections. Perhaps you remember the ‘lows’ in your relationship, but I am sure there are many moments of joy and celebration, so often forgotten when we face fearful situations in our life. Your own self-reflection in your post shows what a loving, caring sister you are. Carl Jung said, “Shame is a soul-eating emotion.”

      • Cat

        I just got off the phone.

        They cancelled her surgery.

        She said her doctor wants to give her a stress test first. They are concerned about the anesthesia.

        She also told me the surgery is just a D&C! This is the first I’ve heard this! She laughed at me “Where did you get the idea it was a hysterectomy?”

        Well, duh. I got the idea from YOU, sis!

        Anyway, I’m glad it’s not as serious as she first reported. She will let me know when they schedule the stress test.

        Thanks, everyone. I guess I made everyone worry for nothing. Sorry about that!

      • Cat

        Yes!

        Now you see what she does to me. She exaggerates. I was stressed out over nothing.

        I love my sister, and I’m glad she’s OK, but she really pisses me off sometimes.

      • Minky

        @Cat “I guess I made everyone worry for nothing.” Honey! Don’t be sorry. That’s what we do here. Maybe all of our good vibes even helped a little? :0)

  2. Katherine 2.0

    Thank you.

  3. VioletBlue

    My heart aches for Eileen. That’s a lot of loss to take.
    I have lost all of my siblings, ages 38, 42 and 60. Being the youngest and sole survivor is not easy, and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.

    Please, take it from someone who knows, don’t let too much time pass before you tell your loved ones what they mean to you. It’s really important. Not only for them but for you. XO

    Condolences to Eileen and her entire family.

    • Kim

      How sad! I like to think we’ll all be together again some day (if you believe in that, that is) & although they aren’t still physically here, their impression on your life is still with you & you have memories that keep their spirit with you. There aren’t really words that sum up the loss you’ve had to endure. xo

      • VioletBlue

        Thanks Kim. I walk thru life differently now, but with a greater appreciation of those who have made a difference in my life. For awhile, I was so afraid of someone else dying without me telling them what they meant to me, I started reaching out.

        It wasn’t easy! It was very awkward at first! I even tracked down my 3rd grade teacher from 1966 to tell her she made a difference. When she got my letter her mom had just passed away and it made a impact on her. I’m so grateful I did it. It started to fill up some of those empty holes in my heart!

  4. Kim

    Sometimes it takes something dramatic to put our lives in perspective. I recently lost my father (Dec 1st) at the age of 67. Needless to say, it was life-shattering, leaving my sister and I heartbroken. His loss has left an emptiness but also a newfound appreciation for the family that is still here with me. I only have one sister, whom I donated my kidney to in 2002 & I try to remind myself of how I am lucky to still have her (& miraculously she brought my nephew, now 2, into this world). Reading this post about Eileen losing a sibling reminds me we all have our daily struggles & occasionally, hopefully not often, a profound loss. Thank you for sharing the heartfelt post, TT. Xo

  5. Matzah60

    I am so saddened for Eileen. She lost a sister last year to breast cancer and if I’m not mistaken, another sister passed as well. Now her older brother. At 62, 69 feels very young to me, indeed.

    Though I know Eileen is not Jewish and I myself am not a practicing Jew, I still go to services on occasion and I still believe in G-d, or whatever higher being exists for those of us who are believers. There is a prayer at the end of services that is quite beautiful and it always lifts my spirits and gives me hope.

    This prayer is for Eileen and her family and all the posters here who have lost loved ones and have a heavy heart.

    May the Lord bless you and keep you;
    May the Lord make his face shine upon you,
    And be gracious to you;
    May the Lord lift up his countenance upon you
    And give you peace.
    May G-d hold you in his hands and bless you.

    • Sosueme

      Matzah60 I find solace in this one translation of the Mourner’s Kaddish: “We recall with affection those who no longer walk this earth; grateful to G-d for the gift of their lives, for their sweet companionship, and for the cherished memories which endure. May G-d comfort all who mourn. May he/she grant them strength to see beyond their sorrow and sustain them in their grief.”

      TT, Thank you for your perceptive post.

    • amisteree

      Thank you, Matzah60, I love that prayer, such a beautiful way to honor another’s grief. Thank you, TT, for sharing Eileen’s blog with us this way, and providing all of us with a forum to share our feelings. Bless us-

  6. Rose

    My prayers for Eileen. She’s had so much loss recently.

  7. So much loss. Huge sympathy for Eileen and her family.

  8. I’ve lost both my big brothers in the last 5 years. It’s devastating.

    I also try to escape through “reality tv” – found myself googling Kathryn Edwards young nephew who recently passed and was thinking along the same lines as TT – I’ve joked about Kathryn looking like a dude and/or the NYC HW with the artificial leg (brain dead on name) with my girlfriends…the reality that she is a real person with a real life nephew tragically dead brought those same thoughts home.

  9. Shae

    Poor Eileen, first her sister, then father in law, now this. My condolences to her and her family :(

  10. my heart goes out to her and her family.

  11. jen

    Poor Eileen. Such a sad few years for her. I wish her peace.

  12. jen

    This recap was hilarious! I loved it. So many really funny moments in this episode. So many. So over the Yolanda stuff. Loved the episode otherwise.

  13. Tulsateacher

    Eileen looks beautiful in the pictures you included. I so prefer her way of dealing with aging as opposed to most of the housewives. I hate the overuse of fillers and the cheek implants that most of the women have had done. I’m all for subtlety in that department. I also happen to really like Eileen as a person on the show. I think an entire cast of “Eileens” would be boring but having one of her in the mix to voice reason and react to the bullshit is wonderful.

  14. therealdeb

    I left my home in Western Washington to go take my dad to some follow up doctor appointments after a hospitalization the previous weekend. It’s a 4 hour trek over a mountain pass and a scenic trip. I was out of the loop from Thursday until Tuesday and had little internet access and my dads cable doesn’t have bravo. I was looking forward to leaving reality and indulging in these women being whoever they are because i had the worst weekend anyone can have. To come home and see that Eileen lost her brother made my tears flow again. I so feel for all the lose she has suffered, she really isn’t a nasty person. My mom died in July, and my dad suffered a massive heart attack very early Saturday morning and all my efforts and those of the ems weren’t enough to save him. To come home and see the insanity that is now Yolanda’s life pissed me off. I cannot even with that woman, and i just want to give Eileen a hug. Not looking for sympathy just wondering why some of these women push crazy ass shit when others are actually suffering, where is their heart?

    • VioletBlue

      Oh, therealdeb, that is hard. I hope you have a support system surrounding you. I understand that pain from loss and the grief that follows. (Gentle Hugs)

      I often think it’s hard for people like Yolanda to fully understand that other people’s issues / situations really matter. They are too self absorbed to care whether there is suffering in the world. It’s all about them.

      If there is one thing I have learned from losing my family, it is empathy. I guess that can be tough for some.

      • therealdeb

        I totally agree about being selfabsorbed. I actually have a great group around me, just had the most amazing meal delivered from the church. They are being very good to my family. My dad was a very pragmatic man and he was so annoyed i would watch these shows, now i know he is up there wagging his finger at me. There is so much suffering in the world and some of these women don’t get it, maybe that is why we are feeling the Eileen love. She is normal in a sea of selfish freaks. Have an awesome night

  15. Lindsay

    Eileen is a total class act and I’m so sorry that her family continues to experience loss.

  16. Josie

    Yolanda flew to NY to see her Gigi at Tommy Hilfiger. Her hair is dyed and she has makeup. I thought she wasnt using any more dye??

    What ever happened to the Q fever she got from her pet goat sucking her chin 30+ years ago??

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