Vanessa and Tres
We begin with these two sitting on the couch, Tres very unenthusiastically asks Vanessa what her plans are for the rest of the week. She answers like a middle school boy with a half hearted “I dunno” while fiddling with her phone. Vanessa is pouting about something and Tres tries to figure out what is wrong but she is pretty much ignoring him.
Vanessa talks to the male therapist this week about her abandonment issues. Then Tres talks to the same therapist about Vanessa shutting him out. Together the therapist tells Vanessa to let her walls down. I am not sure that is wise with Tres. Their homework is to talk about how they felt being abandoned by their opposite sex parent. Not the events but the feelings.
These two go to Greenville to see Vanessa’s family. I’m sure this is part of the homework assignment. On the trip they discuss in general terms their major relationships. In Greenville Vanessa’s mom shows Tres photos of her growing up. Her mom seems to like Tres.
Back home, they meet with Vanessa’s BBF and her fiancé to discuss building trust. I was distracted by the manspreading competition.
These two seem to be a little less fake and superficial this week.
David and Ashley
David goes to an outdoor tavern to talk to two of his closest guy friends about his marriage woes. They ask him how long it took to get his first kiss. He hasn’t even held her hand yet. Nobody seems to want to tell David that she is just not that into him. It’s week three. I think he should have purchased a clue by now.
Ashley is happy this week. Perhaps because David is out of town on business and she has the house to herself. It’s a very pretty house.
When David came back he tells us he missed Ashley. Ashley says she tried to do laundry. But she doesn’t know how and sort of mangled his dress shirts. David hugs her and picks her up and throws her on the bed. The dog is the ultimate cock block.
Ashley and David have a BBQ. Ashley is always so nice with people other than David. She seems to love David’s mom and his friends, just not him so much. In fact she has hugged all of them.
The male therapist visits. Ashley tells him that she is not attracted to David. The therapist points out that she said that her biggest issue in the past was putting too much emphasis in past relationships. She seems to be repeating patterns. He tells her she needs to have the conversation and she doesn’t want to hurt him. She cries. The therapist meets with them as a couple and asks Ashley to explain that she has a pattern basing relationship on attractions. David finally gets that she doesn’t find him attractive. David attempts to comfort Ashley by touching her back and she basically tells him to stop touching her. The therapist says for now they need to stop attempting any sort of physical contact. David begrudgingly agrees. Ashley realizes he is upset. They both end the session disappointed.
This relationship seemed to stay the same this week. And the same is not good.
Neil and Sam
Sam didn’t like their rental so they are temporarily moving to her place while they look for a new one. This is a bad idea. Then Sam says that the roommate says they can stay there the next few weeks. This was not the plan. It seems lie Sam is just ready to wait out the three weeks and file for divorce.
At the new place, Sam says she can’t give Neil any closet spaee, or a key to the house. Wow. Is it me or has this relationship taken ten steps back from last week? Neil just accepts this. Oh and the roommate is there.
Neil only vents his frustrations in talking heads. Also, despite there being a camera crew in her bedroom, which was clearly scheduled, she blames Neil for waking her up and mocks him once again to her roommate saying “this fool decided to wake me up. Clearly he has no idea how angry I am in the morning.” What a cunt she is this week. Then she goes to her roommate’s room to hang out with her and tells Neil to stay downstairs and “Betty Crocker it up.” I am really annoyed with this bitch.
Neil tells Sam that her house is not working for him. They need their own place. She seems to think he was alright with it yesterday and is pissed he didn’t speak up in the first place. However, last week, it was supposed to be a temporary move until they found a new place. Sam sarcastically says let’s go find a new place right now then. Neil offers to look for places to show her. He says he thinks it is beneficial to their relationship so he can look 24 hours a day. She says that was fake, and he responds with “I learned from the best.” Then she becomes highly offended and tells him to leave. Proving that they need a house she can’t throw him out of. Sam is delusional. She called Neil fake and he threw the insult right back at her. Classic dish and out and can’t take it. Neil apologizes and she says she doesn’t want to be with anyone who can fall into that mindset.
I’m over this couple. Sam is worse this episode than she was on day one. All the progress she made is gone. I don’t thing there is any hope for her if this is what week three is like. Neil needs to pimp slap some sense into her. (I don’t want to hear it, it’s hyperbole) At the very least, Neil should pack his knives and go. Oh great. That is what he is going to do. They will live separately until they find a place.
The counselor dude has come over to try to mediate. I really hope he saw the tapes. This guy is an idiot. His advice was ridiculous. Essentially he told Sam to have a safe word when she was getting heated that would stop all communication until she calmed down. What he needed to tell her was to stop being a petulant child in the first place.
Neil, bless his heart, made plans for Sam’s birthday. He found something she has always wanted to do and planned the evening. The go to Agatha’s, a murder mystery dinner theatre with some friends. Let’s see how she will ruin this. As Neil tells us in his scary eyes talking head, Sam got a small part of “random citizen” so she can be part of the play. I’d like to there myself one day so I feel the need to say “no spoilers on the play please.” Because so many seem to want to overshare about such things. Neil hit a home run. Sam loved it and so did he.
These two are all over the place. Unless Sam stops being so anxious and demanding, this relationship is doomed. I’ve had relationships that were a cross between David and Ashley and Neil and Sam and what they have in common is the guys are more into the girls than vice versa. I’ve tried to force it, and it just doesn’t work. Just like when I’ve been more into the guy. That doesn’t work either. The balance of interest can be off to some degree, but not to the degree of these last two couples. Will there be enough of a shift in the next three weeks?