The RHOOC blogs are up. Lizzie’s blog was basically a recap with nothing particularly enlightening. She’s in a good place with Vicki now, and very leery of Tamra. Here are the highlights about the dynamics between the ladies as of now. Both Heather and Tamra are still refusing to accept responsibility for their behavior and deflect blame to others. Shannon seems to be continuously willing to try and move on. Heather and Tamra are somehow blaming Vicki for al of their troubles. Lizzie is still assessing from the sidelines but it appears she may pounce in Bali.
I have a true friend in Vicki Gunvalson. She understands me and is willing to go above and beyond to defend me. I truly appreciate that she sticks up for me again in her conversation with Tamra. I am not misplacing any emotions about my marriage onto her — I am justifiably upset with her for not being truthful again and again.
I can’t stand to argue, so when I am asked to Bali I am willing to try to once again move forward. I have been incredibly hurt, but am open to see if Tamra, Heather, and I can move past things. I have never been away on a girls’ trip, so it will be quite an adventure for me. Stay tuned next week as we go to Bali!
When walking with Tamra, I also encouraged her to apologize to Shannon, as I really think she was rough on her. I have really come to like Shannon, and I just don’t see why Tamra can’t be softer towards her.
When I told Lizzie to be “careful” with Tamra, I didn’t say that to be malicious towards Tamra. It was to just prepare Lizzie to take it slow. Tamra and I have been friends for six years, and she has done some things to me that have been very hurtful. I have chosen to forgive her, because sometimes I just think everyone deserves a second or third chance if they are truly remorseful — it’s the fourth, fifth and sixth chance where I start to draw the line.
I love Vicki and we have always had a very good relationship. However, I’m pretty tired of the nasty interview bites thrown in my direction.
Newsflash, it’s not ALL my fault and I’m tired of being vilified by this group. Saying that I need a “life event” to rock my world is unconscionable. I have been a supporter of Vicki’s when her other friends were not.
This does not mean she has to agree with everything I do or say, but have the nerve to speak to me in person. It’s very easy to hide behind the veil of the interview chair. No matter how you feel about me, I’m not throwing shade on the side. I speak directly to the person when there is an issue.
I brought up Hinduism and breaking cycles because I thought it was relevant to what’s been going on in our group, and obviously because Bali is a Hindu country. Why is Vicki making negative comments about this in her interview? I’m trying to make amends and move forward, which is what she wanted me to do! I feel like it doesn’t matter WHAT I say, it’s never going to be right.
And then Vicki gets into the limo and started blasting me saying I could have come, that I just didn’t want too, and that she would never do that Lizzie. ARE YOU KIDDING ME VICKI? You were the one caught calling Lizzie “Dumb and Dumber” and saying how you didn’t want to hang out with her — and you throw me under the bus?
I am just disgusted with Vicki’s constant backstabbing all season long. She is so sweet to my face, but behind my back she is trying to turn everyone against me. It’s like she wants to pay me back for no one liking Brooks.
I did my best to accept Brooks this year to make Vicki happy. I felt like I did a really good job considering what I knew about Brooks, only to watch the episodes and see how much Vicki has bashed me all season. It shows me what kind of friend she is. It was OK for her to get involved in my marriage to Simon and not like him, but I am a horrible person for not being accepting of Brooks in the past and now she is going to try and make me pay for it? To think I was the only person that stuck up for her last year when Lauri was going after her. I thought I was being a good friend? I was a fool.
When Lizzie came up to me a the Valentine’s Dinner to let me know what Vicki said, I was blown away once again. I never had a issue with Lizzie and thought she was a very sweet girl. It was Vicki that had been nasty to Lizzie all season. When I heard what Vicki told Lizzie I wanted to say, “So let me get this straight, Vicki calls me to tell me she does not want to go to your party then calls you names, my daughter is sick, and I am the bad guy?” Wow I am starting to feel like what ever I do, I’m going to be the bad guy.