Shannon Beador Talks Marriage and Her Friendship With Tamra

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This week in RHOOC Bravo Blogs, Shannon is really the only one with anything interesting to say. Shannon gives a very open and frank account of her feelings on Monday night’s episode of Real Housewives of Orange County ..I think. But there are a few confusing points. Here is what she has to say about her marital struggles:

“This is a tough episode for me to watch. I have been very open about the state of my marriage and how I want more. I want to be on the same team with David — partners in life. I do not think I am a victim and I do not intend to send that message. I am not blaming my husband for distancing himself from me. In fact, today, I take most of the responsibility it is happening. I thought if I complained enough, that something would finally click within David and he would “see the light” and make our relationship a big priority in his life. It really doesn’t make sense that this plan of action would ever get me what I want. You would think that I would have been smarter about things.

David wakes up at 4:30 am every morning so he goes to bed when the kids do, around 8:30 pm. I am a night owl so I usually stay up late at night (and watch my Bravo shows!). Watching the show has knocked sense into me about the clock I need to keep. I am glad that you get to see one of my “A-ha!” moments. It literally hit me in my interview that I need to change my clock as a first step to improving my marriage.”

Well, I’m not sure getting up at 4:30 a,m. is the answer.


I heard a rumor today that someone heard Heather say to turn up the bull!  LOLOL

I heard a rumor today that someone heard Heather say to turn up the bull! LOLOL

On her friendship with Tamra:

“I have become very close to Tamra in an incredibly short amount of time which is very uncharacteristic of me. David also became close to Eddie quickly and we began to do things together socially.”

Wait what? You and David socialize with Eddie and Tamra? When do you do that since you never get to see your husband due to soccer or baseball or whatever it is he is doing with his waking hours where you do not see each other? I’m confused.

“When David and I got into a bad argument, it made sense to me that I would approach my new friend to confide in her. I never told her that David and I were splitting up or even discussing it. I never gave her a copy of the email he sent to me. It was never said in the email that David wanted a divorce and I am disappointed that Tamra would even make that inaccurate statement about such a serious topic. You see in the previews that it might not have been the best decision to confide in Tamra.

Moreover, I was disappointed to hear what Tamra said about me at her lunch with Heather. I had been nothing but supportive of her and her continual discussions of her issues with Heather. It has never been and never will be a goal for me to get in “the middle” of any friendship.”

Okay, you guys are going to have to help me with my memory here. Did Shannon not tell Tamra that David told Shannon in an email that he wanted to move out for a while? How is this not “splitting up or even discussing it?” She didn’t need a copy of the email. You told her what was in the email and she repeated it to Heather. This is nor brain surgery.  And, you sort of were in the middle of Tamra and Heather’s relationship.  You allied with Tamra. THAT my dear was not the best decision.

On accusations about her drinking:

“I also am frustrated with the drinking comments. While I absolutely enjoy a cocktail, I do not drink vodka straight. Last week you finally see that I order a Grey Goose neat, but also a large sparkling water. I mix the two together. I usually get two to three drinks from my one shot of vodka. Enough about a drinking problem!”

And she wants you to know she doesn’t have a drinking problem.  Which I think was sort of a ridiculous accusation by Tamra in the first place. As if Tamra or Vicki have any sort of business pointing drunken fingers at anyone. I honestly don’t understand why it will become a huge ass deal that HEATHER said anything about Shannon’s marital problems. They are blatantly obvious.  I can see Shannon being miffed at Tamra, but everyone it seems has to learn on their own that Tamra will stab you right in the back. Next week, we add #DivorceGate, to #ChairGate and #BullGate and #GoodDayHelloGate and #IHaveAHangnailGate  /sigh

I can hardly wait.


Filed under Heather Dubrow, Real Housewives of Orange County, RHOOC, Shannon Beador, Tamra Judge, Terry Dubrow, Vicki Gunvalson

41 responses to “Shannon Beador Talks Marriage and Her Friendship With Tamra

  1. BH Wannabe

    Okay, thank you, TT, I was waiting for someone else to point this out! Shannon is so weird and detached from reality. Read what you just wrote, Shannon! It doesn’t line up!
    Getting mad at Heather for talking about her marriage? Ummm, you decided to put it on TV. It’s not a big secret. Shannon is so desperate! She looks so creepy in next week’s preview where Heather is telling her to leave.
    Speaking of looking creepy, did anyone else notice on WWHL last night that Shannon has put way too much of some kind of filler in her face?

    • BH Wannabe

      Oh and I HATE how Shannon always says “frikkin”!
      “Are you frikkin kidding me?”
      “Stop being so frikkin condescending.”
      I think that’s the main reason I can’t “frikkin” handle Shannon.

      • ​Well, BH, I am batshit crazy myself. So I kinda like her.

        On Wed, Jun 18, 2014 at 1:30 AM, Tamara Tattles wrote:


      • Bella

        LOL those are some of the things I love about her! “Are you frikkin kidding me”? To each his/her own BH :)

      • Cat

        I like her, too. And I thought she seemed very sincere on WWHL. She said the same things there that she said in her blog. She’s using the show as a learning experience. She went on the show for fun, and it opened her eyes. I like that, and I believe her.

        And personally, I would rather hear someone say “frickin'” than “fucking” every 5 seconds. I actually didn’t even notice she uses that word. I don’t see it as a big deal at all.

    • CaroleAnn

      Holy cow, I was flabbergasted when I saw Shannon on Andy Cohen’s show. Her face looked CRAY-ZEE, especially the huge, puffed up cheeks and the denture-like, sheet-white veneers on her teeth. She looked like a candidate for Terry Dubrow’s new show, “Botched.” I was surprised no one brought it up on the show, since usually Andy reads questions tweeted in from fans during the live broadcast. Maybe he had a rare moment of pity and thought better of pointing out the obvious. Hopefully when Shannon watches the WWHL episode she’ll realize the error of her ways. Usually the stuff wears off after 6 months, so she can wait it out and not do it again.

  2. Gingersnap

    I quite like Shannon and I wasn’t really expecting to. That’s always a nice surprise with these Housewife ho’s (just kidding ’bout the ho part). She’s about as real and down to earth as a Housewife comes, in my opinion. Yes, she mentioned David suggesting that he move out for a while…I remember that too. David gets on my nerves more than Shannon. His voice. Ugh. Still, nagging a man (or anybody) is not the way to go if you want a good relationship. A nag will drive you crazy and that’s probably why he wants to move out for a while. Her nagging is driving him away from her, she better cut it out or he might really leave for good.

    • If he left her for good, would that be so bad? I still remember how he wanted her to get bigger boobs. What a boob! He also looks and acts a lot like Tamara’s ex-husband. Anyone else notice that?

      • Gingersnap

        Well, if he left her for good it wouldn’t really bother me that much, but I’m not married to him and have his children. Especially if there are children involved, I think it’s best if the parents can work it out. Even though I can’t see what Shannon sees in him, she seems to love him and not want to split, so for her and the kids sake, I’m pulling for them.

  3. lori

    Hmmmmm… I’m gonna have to watch it again in a re run and see if she actually tells Tamra that or if she said it in a talking head during their conversation. I too thought that she told Tamra that, but it didn’t make any sense for her to write this right after seeing the episode of that wasn’t the case.

    One more thing… if was okay for Tamra to tell Heather about her conversation with Shannon, then I guess that Tamra should apologize to Heather for being upset when she spoke to Eddie about the baby situation since that was part of HER storyline. I mean at least Heather can say that her reasons for doing so was out of concern for Tamra. Plus, Eddie loves Tamra. On the other hand, Heather and Shannon are anything but friends, and Tamra telling Heather this was nothing but lousy and underhanded.

  4. DennyluvsDashies

    I thought Shannon said she went to talk with Tamera because she had been thru a divorce. Seems to me divorce was an implied thought while talking about her husband moving out. Who knows what was said that the camera’s didn’t show. She also said “divorce is not an option”. Maybe she’s drinking and blogging.

  5. Bella

    I agree! Love her! I also adore how humble she is. She’s just real. Lizzie is pretty but boring :/

  6. Katie

    Shannon’s just doing spin control at this point — at Tamara’s expense. If she and David are trying to work things out, then I don’t blame her. Or, the whole fiasco was one bad script.
    I am always amused when women on these shows “get angry” with friends for spilling the beans about personal issues when they have just shared them on national television for all to see. Does Bravo think we are that dumb?

    • @Katie, I totally agree with you! I shout at the T.V. each time someone complains about a so called secret being revealed after they have just said it themselves for the whole world to hear. Are they and Bravo that dumb??
      On another note, I personally feel that David just doesn’t seem to like Shannon very much (for whatever reason) and that is why she is such a nag and not vice versa, that she he doesn’t like her as a result of her nagging!! Oh well, I hope they can work things out for the sake of their kids.

  7. Jrleaguer

    Methinks that the lady back peddles a bit too much.

  8. I like Shannon, too.

  9. Soft Shades

    The once Beautiful Blonde Bombshell now needs Botox & Breast implants to stay relevant to her husband & even then sometimes its not enough. The lack of substance in any relationship is doom for failure; “Beauty Fades, Dumb is Forever!”

    Men who marry trophy wives will soon grow tire of them especially after children & keeping late hours, drinking, nagging & complaining is not a good for a woman. Shannon needs to re-invent herself & get a life.

  10. i dont remember all their exact words, but i did a double take when tamra was telling heather about david’s email. she said divorcing when shannon had said moving out. tamra went a bit too far in her wording, i thought.
    that clip from next wk made it look like shannon was begging heather & heather was cruelly throwing her out. wonder what terry thought witnessing that. sometimes they dont even show the scenes the next wk so i’m preparing to have my chain jerked yet again.

    • ClassyLady80

      Yeah, I caught that divorce comment right away. Shannon never used that word. And if I’m not mistaken, Shannon said in her talking head that David sent her an email about moving out, but she did not say this during her conversation with Tamra. All she told Tamra was that they were having marital problems. Am I remembering correctly? Then Tamra repeated that to Shannon’s “frenemy,” Heather. In my opinoin, Tamra should have just left Shannon completely out of her makeup session with Heather. If she wanted Heather to soften up against Shannon, she could have been much more ambiguous about Shannon’s current issues. A simple, “Shannon is not herself right now… she’s going through a rough patch,” would have sufficed. Tamra just went too far, as usual. I like the girl, but she never learns.

  11. Riley

    I believe Shannon and David were the couple possibly headed for divorce that our kind and thoughtful blogger, TT, mentioned in her OC blog at the beginning of the season. Our Tamara didn’t want to say who it is out of respect for the couples privacy at what is usually hell for the people
    involved. So that was very kind of you TT….even though Shannon blabbed it to the world….

  12. Din

    I love this woman. Even in her blogs she makes an effort to be honest, a far cry from pretty much all other housewives who only bother to blog when they want to manipulate public opinion one way or another.

    Plus she stays up late at night watching Bravo!

    She better watch her back though, because especially Tamra but also Vicky AND Heather will come for her if she indeed becomes a fan favorite.

  13. LuckyChic

    This is off topic…will you be following untying the knot??? Pretty hysterical!

  14. illinigirl

    I don’t know if I’m behind the times, but I heard on the radio about a month ago that Shannon was downsizing & moving from her house because they don’t need the extra room. Did anyone else see or hear this? If they are getting a divorce, or if David is really thinking about the separation, it would make sense to unload that huge mcmansion.
    Also, I can’t stand Tamera & am very leery of Vicki being all nice/nice with Heather. Tamera has proven to be a bad friend every season. Don’t these women watch the show? I understand they have to film together & want to be civil but to go and pal around, open up & share their deepest, darkest secrets with these women is asking for problems. J/S

    • I posted a blog called something like “real estate round up” try searching estate in my search box. It explains the Beador’s trying to sell their house. It kind of a weird situation.​

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  16. Valley View

    It sounded to me like David wanted to move out during the filming. He just doesn’t seem comfortable in front of the camera.

    The Beadors are in NY this week so I presume they are still together.

  17. Belinda

    Does anyone know what Lizzie’s husband does for a living ? It appears that she came from alot more money than she married into.
    She seems nice enough but by what standard is she pretty ? Sexy, attractive maybe but pretty ?
    I would also hardly consider Shannon to be a trophy wife. She looks like a middle aged woman with money.

    • therealdeb

      i think beauty is in the eye of the beholder. i think lizzie is striking, i have a friend like her who is not pretty in the traditional sense but still turns heads. as for her husband i thought he was a manager of something but i could be way way off. and i agree shannon looks like a monied middle aged woman. she too is pretty, but she looks mature and not flashy like tamra. tamra looks flashy, and somewhat trashy at times.

    • lori

      I’m sure they meant when she was younger, when they first dated and married. That being said, that whole comment implying that he is married to her because she is/was a “trophy wife” seems very shallow to me. I don’t think that is at all what most men want.

  18. ” Girls, you already know mommy and daddy are divorcing and we have to sell this big ass house so we’re going to talk real mean in front of you but don’t worrry kids, we’ll get lots of Bravo money to buy you ponies and take you to Disneyworld!”

  19. terry macon

    Lydia and her mom would have been good for shannon to film with.

  20. TT re that contradiction thing of socializing w tamra/eddie, shannon said in her blog that since the st regis overnight she & david had been doing more things together. guess that would include double dating.
    i do wonder if any of the st regis overnight was actually david’s idea, sad to say.

    • Considering that the St. Regis is the most promoted venue on all of Bravo across every single show, I think you know the answer to that. And I don’t believe for one minute Shannon and David socialize with Tamra and Eddie ​off camera. Shannon is just looking for a reason she would tell Tamra such personal information.

      On Thu, Jun 19, 2014 at 4:22 AM, Tamara Tattles wrote:


      • janet

        That scene from next weeks show showing Shannon in desperate straights and Heather tossing her out on her rear is so sad! I really don’t care for heartless women like Heather. If that’s supposed to be class forget it!!! I don’t know all the particulars yet but it seems par for the course with the great Madame Dubrow. She just hates that Shannon has the big house too and wants to establish a pecking order on her because she’s new. So what she’s new that doesn’t make any lesser. I wouldn’t mind if Heather and her husband took their phoney selves and said goodbye.

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