Brandi’s blog is full of rants and incoherent reasons why she hates Joyce. So I thought I would share some highlights with you as she tries to explain the Joyce confrontation. She starts right away going in on Joyce, the only housewife who actually stayed for Kim’s graduation party. She says this about the her absence from the party, “It was better that we didn’t stay anyhow because Joyce was there in some ridiculous get up and I didn’t want to have a confrontation with Miss Attention Seeker a high school graduation party.”
I also thought this could be a good time to hash it out with Joyce and move forward. It is really hard to explain my issues with Joyce to all of you — but I’m going to try now. Ages ago at Carlton’s luncheon Lisa snapped at Joyce, but only because I had just told Lisa that I felt bad for talking about her faint on Dancing With the Stars on the car ride over. Lisa was upset with me and I understood why, but unfortunately she took it out on Joyce when Joyce went to fix Lisa’s hair. Lisa was snappy, and Joyce gave me a look as though she were appalled.
Joyce is quite the exaggerator. I thought I was being nice to Joyce by giving her a call and a heads up about the situation. I told her I saw Lisa snap at her but explained it wasn’t about her at all but that it was about what I had just told Lisa. I said Lisa is very sensitive, and it’s better if you don’t make a big deal out of this but maybe just have a quick one-on-one conversation so that it doesn’t get blown out of proportion. Then Joyce decided to make a huge deal out of it anyway on the rooftop of the Thompson, exaggerates the entire thing, and then tries to throw me under the bus with Lisa when all I was trying to do is help Joyce understand that Lisa was mad at me and not her. So now your up to date on why I have an issue with Joyce. I think they should change Joyce’s title to drama queen not beauty queen.
Joyce made a huge deal out of it by confronting Lisa calmly one on one exactly as you suggested ? That is why you chose to bully here. Okay. That makes sense. Not.
OK now back to Lisa’s house. I decide to have a conversation with Joyce. I did apologize for offending her, but I wasn’t ready to completely apologize about everything — not when this woman is calling me the names she is calling me (racist, bully, alcoholic, and bipolar). Those are really exaggerated and extreme labels when the fact is I wasn’t bullying her — just being a bitch because of what she pulled at the Thompson. The definition of bully is a person who uses strength or power to harm or intimidate those who are weaker. Did I harm her with my powerful ways? Does she really think she is weaker then me?
You really need to brush up on the definition of a bully. Social bullying involves humiliating and attempting to get others to ostracize a person on the outside of a group. The “power” is having the members of a group, or say a Dream Team, that back up the bully when they insult and exclude someone from the group. You are a bully AND a bitch. The terms are not mutually exclusive.
She claims I play the victim but it’s the other way around. The rest is all bulls— so I’m not going to write too much about it. I was made fun of for being flat-chested, skinny, and having a funny name when I was younger — but that’s just juvenile name-calling. Stick and stones you know? I wasn’t bullied, and I have not bullied Joyce. Our conversation goes on and on. We both finally apologize. She hugs me, which I didn’t like because you can’t label me those horrible things and then expect me to hug you.
Brandi, every time you get called out on your behavior you cry and say your dog died, or you are depressed, or you miss your kids, or you are having a rough year. Victim should be your middle name by now.
It’s over and at this point I am happy to be cordial. Clearly Joyce was just putting a band-aid on the situation, though. Even though it was over that day, months and months later she is giving interview after interview about it. Maybe she should have put that band-aid over her mouth.
Yep, more poor victim Brandi, followed by a rude comment.