Two days before Christmas, Bethenny releases a statement that is floating around several sites saying that she and Jason are separating. I didn’t believe it. Mainly because I didn’t want to believe it. Unfortunately, it’s true. Bethenny has tweeted, “I am heartbroken. I am sad. We will work through this as a family.” I’m a bit sad too. I really had hoped that these two could work it out. Although there has been speculation about the marriage crumbling for months, I imagine the family drama surrounding Christmas had a lot to do with the final split. I’m sure Jason wanted to go home to his family and Bethenny didn’t. She seems to have major issues in family situations and Jason is super family friendly. Half my twitter TL is venting about attending family events this season and I’m personally boycotting. So I think a lot of us can understand if Bethenny was resistant.
Bethenny’s complete statement follows the page break.
Bethenny
states, “It brings me great sadness to say that Jason and I are separating. This was an extremely difficult decision that as a woman and a mother, I have to accept as the best choice for our family. We have love and respect for one another and will continue to amicably co-parent our daughter who is and will always remain our first priority.This is an immensely painful and heartbreaking time for us.”
I sort of hope after the holiday stress blows over they can try again. What do y’all think about the news?
I am new to this site, but was a die-hard fan of RHONY when Bethenney was still on the show. She did talk about wanting a baby several times!
It was just a matter of time. She turned into such a shrew second season, I am surprised they made it this long frankly. Sad for any break up but not surprised at this one.
Hello Tamara, I was wondering if it was truth, about Phadrea Park and her husband getting a divorce i
Nope. Not true at all. There were Internet rumors while they were filming. I assume they are just mocking them. They are still together, going strong and releasing a workout video together.
But the love *isn’t* any weaker or less intense…
I’m a cancer and supposedly really compatible with Scorpio. I’ve has a billion relationships both fleeting and otherwise. But I’m not aware that I’ve ever been with a Scorpio. It’s on my bucket list.
LOL. What a great item for a bucket list:
1) Sex with a Scorpio.
How much fun to then be able to go “CHECK!” when it’s over. As an Aries, I couldn’t figure out what the hell was “wrong” with me until a good friend, who has been an astrologist for nearly 25 years, asked me at our first reading: “uh, are you AWARE that Scorpio is your rising sign?” Silence. Then relief. Followed by enlightenment. “Oh,” I said. “God it all makes sense now.”
I’m a Scorpio….let me say, while we do seem to have a bit more of a passionate side, it wanes in long term relationships, just like anything else that becomes familiar. Marriage is so much more than just sex, passion or common interests. It takes commitment, attention to one another’s needs and a choice to be the best you can be for the other person. Not everyone has the tools to do that. They can ‘work’ to overcome dysfunction and rebuild themselves into a healthier version of themselves. But, let’s face it – it’s hard, hard work. Throw in a reality show, quick riches, building a new penthouse, a new child, a shapeware line, a new TV show…..the list is long. I’m shocked that they didn’t implode a while ago. It’s still sad….very sad.
Bravo, Joan. Marriage is hard work, and it does take commitment to last through the hard times. There is never an easy answer. I married late in life (after having vowed to never marry), and after six years or so, it isn’t any easier. But the love is any weaker or less intense. I look at my parents — married for 58 years this January — and never fail to be amazed at how they were able to do it. And, at 82 years old, they still are passionate for one another. But I know, deep down, when my dad notices that my mom’s shoelaces have become untied, and he bends down lovingly to tie them for her, that there is such a thing as love that lasts….
I’ll just add that, as much as folks (including me) love their families, spending time with one’s in-laws can be tough on anyone. One person’s joyful visit that flies by way too quickly is another’s nail-biting, can’t-wait-to-leave experience. Sometimes it has very little to do with the in-laws, but more to do with the stresses of the holidays (or whatever the gathering is), the expectations of the spouse, each person’s views of how much “togetherness” is too much, etc. Either way, my heart aches for them that their announced separation came around the holidays. There is no tougher time, IMO.
…made him *feel* guilty.
She’s a Scorpio; he’s a Virgo. Personally (and regardless of whether you think astrology has any basis), I couldn’t imagine a tougher match: Dark, sexual, fiercely independent, a little on the neurotic side, vengeful vs. hyper-critical of others (but cannot take criticism), organized (sometimes to the point of OCD), virginal (in the spiritual, “clean” Roman Catholic sense). Yikes (at best the sex was of the dirty-good variety and it made him guilty).
After reading all the comments here and other sites, I realize (and hope that Bethenny does) Jason and Bethenny must work things out privately, with no twitter, facebook, Perez and any other media. She should reconsider her goalago do a talk show.
Negative comments come as a result of viewing her sarcasm, self deprecation, therapy, and neuroses on TV. Jason,who is just as problematic as Bethenny,hasn’t shown us a complete picture of who he really is, and is coming off as an angel. Bethenny is taking a beating in pubic opinion, because she is “out there”. I feel Jason’s insecurities, resentment of a prenup, inability to cope with the mushrooming success of Bethenny endevours, are a major factor. If he wanted a hometown homemaker he should have stayed in Hazelton, where Walmart and Dairy Queen are are the main sources of excitement. He married a NEW YORK CITY GIRL!!!
Tamara girl I am with you, I just didn’t want to believe it. It is crystal clear to me that Jason and Bethenny deeply love one another and they both cherish their daughter. The problem as I see it is they are opposites and that can be difficult and takes a lot of hard work. I blame Jason as much as I blame Bethenny. Bethenny had a troubled childhood and has always had to rely on herself for everything, that is one hell of a wall to break down. Jason is a family man and he hasn’t learned that he can’t keep all the same traditions with his parents now that he is married, he has to make new traditions.
I think Jason was smothering Bethenny with his family, clearly she loves them but who wants your in-laws around all the time. Remember their first Christmas with Bryn, Bethenny just wanted to have a quiet Christmas with the three of them making new family memories.
I think they both lack an understanding of how to communicate with each other and although I applaud Bethenny for getting therapy to understand and cope with her issues, Jason was always resistant to that and frankly they probably needed couples counseling.
I also think Jason’s sense of “manhood” was impacted by Bethenny’s financial success and probably didn’t like being known as Mr. Frankel. On TV at least we always saw Bethenny telling him that she felt the Skinnygirl success was theirs because he supported her in all aspects.
Sadly with no history of family and understanding the ups and downs of marriage I think they are throwing in the towel too quickly. If I had left my husband every time I thought I wanted a divorce I would not be about to celebrate 30 years of marriage. Hell it wasn’t easy but then good things never are, but it was worth all the hard work that went into building and sustaining a relationship. I just hope that the time apart and their love for each other and their daughter can allow them to work their issues out.
I don’t think Bethenny will give up her drive for success and sadly the separation is only serving to prove her point….that she has to rely on herself for fulfillment of her dreams and to make a living for herself. I just hope whichever way they go, they keep it amicable in the best interests of Bryn and themselves.
My guess is she is alone with Brynn, or Jason may even be there for Christmas. I wonder how much of this was about Bethenny moving to LA and away from the Hoppy family? I’m sure there was a lot to it. I hope Bethenny, Jason and Brynn all end up having a nice Christmas.
I love Bethenny and was hoping she could indeed have it all.
I think she ended up getting more than she ever imagined, but unfortunately Jason was not the right man for her, long term.
I wonder who she’s with this Christmas Eve, now that Jason is gone?
God bless Bethenny. You can do it. You already have.
Never been a fan of Beth’s and have only watched about 20 minutes of her show combined. Never seen or recorded her talk show. However, I hope they BOTH can address their issues. She has issues sure but so does he. If they can address their individual and collective issues, perhaps they can path things up. If not, then a split is in order. Her main issue is she wants a protector but at the same time, she wants to be in control…..I wish them well for the sake of their child and mental stability.
Have a safe and happy X-Mas everyone.
Best Wishes,
Patricia
Tamara, you may perceive this as another “Oprah post” (reference to your earlier comment), but I somewhat agree with the others who have mentioned going through similar traumatic family issues. You DO have to get over it and/or work super hard to change unhealthy/dysfunctional behavior. I’m still working on it, and not sure I’ll ever “get over it,” but I do know I have to take most of the responsibility for my relationships that don’t work out. I used to adore Bethenny, and while I don’t “hate” her, I don’t really like her that much anymore, either. I am sad to hear about her separation, and wish her, Jason and Brynn all the best. I don’t think Jason is an angel, but I do think he put up with a ton of emotional abuse from Bethenny. I just don’t see Bethenny owning up to a lot of her dysfunctional behavior. I do think she has worked on her issues, but she doesn’t seem to really “get” that an unhealthy family upbringing as an excuse can only go so far.
The trust issues coupled w/ her neverending sarcasm made this separation very predictable. I’m not sure about what his hang ups were, buts we’ve had a while to familiarize ourselves with Bethenny’s. I’ve been told by my spouse that my mouth is too smart & that shit gets old – fast. In relationships, someone has to change. If no one is willing to change, the relationship will fall apart.
In my opinionn Bethany is just to dysfunctioal for Jason, It was just so apparent from the beginning.He’s just to normal. I do think she wanted a baby and was swept away in the moment with all the crap that goes along with it.The show was funny and I ejoyed watching it but something aways told me it would eventually not work out and they were not riding off into that great sunset to live happily ever after. It was painful watching her not be able to receive acceptance and love from Jason and his parents. When ya dont grow up with that you just cant do it. I really hope her therapist can get thru to her for Bryns sake and hey if they get back together thould be great.
While on WWHL I figured something was off when she insinuated her house has as much ‘drama’ as everybody else. Then the question was asked, ‘any more kids?’ and she flat out said “NO” – yeah; matter of time, 4 sure. smh
There are many outles saying it was her massive eating disorder and daily purging that were the issue… Jason could not take it anymore -he especially did not want encourage that environment for his little girl.
I never wish divorce on any one but Jason can do better. . Bethany will always be looking out for number one. Jason has a wonderful loving family I hope they can Protect brynn from Bethany’s extremely unhealthy behavior .
Exactly, Kate. I don’t think people who don’t have similar issues understand. I could do with out all the “Oprahs” who post about how they overcame something so everyone else should be on the same page. I felt that exact same way at one point in my life. It hope it doesn’t catch up to them in the same way it does most people. In your twenties and thirties it seems like it’s no big deal…and you are free to judge….
Maybe I’m in the minority here but I am heartbroken as well. I love Beth and can relate to her and her issues with Jason. Beth has trust issues and its complicated in a marriage. I was hoping she would feel safe with him but it seems as if they couldn’t work it out.
I had a really bad feeling when Bethenny was on WWHL last week. Andy asked her if they were going to have another kid and she pretty adamantly said no. It wasn’t so much what she said, but how she said it. She was also Tweeting a lot these last month or so about being with their daughter in their apartment in their PJs all day long and there was no mention of Jason at all.
I think it was a mistake for Jason to get so involved with her business. It was obvious he had some self-esteem/security issues and it’s not in her nature to be constantly reassuring. I hope for their daughter’s sake they can behave civilly.
And I am sad too. As if I know them. Which is weird.
I’m a Bethenny fan so I admit I’m biased towards her side of things. In their marriage, she and Jason had cast her as the “damaged one” and him as the “normal” one. But what about his issues? He appeared to sneakily emotionally abusive, and pushed her to be close with his parents. He seemed very unreasonable on this point. She said repeatedly she wanted to focus on their little family unit, and was uncomfortable with the every 3 week jaunts to see his folks. He and his family haven’t gotten over the tragic loss of his sibling, and likely need therapy to deal with their grief. I think Bethenny is tired of being the bad guy or the bitch. It takes two to make a marriage work and it takes two to make a marriage fail. Hopefully, they can be civil and cooperate for the sake of their daughter.
I’m so sad to hear this. She has of being abandoned pray they will work it out. My husband and I had enough baggage to fill up a plane cargo and we didn’t make it. Hurt my daughter so much. But I didn’t know how to be in a family. So sorry. Like them both.
It seemed to me that Jason enjoyed the role of the guy who centered Bethenny and helped her “get her shit” together and then she found her center in being a mom (and forget you ppl saying she shouldn’t have custody, your dislike of her is clouding your thoughts, she clearly is a devoted mom!) and she so successfully got her book, liquor line and shapewear brands off the ground and she was making such headway in her therapy Jason lost who he thought he was in the relationship. He clearly struggled with where or even if he would fit into her empire and his passive aggressive behavior made it obvious where this was heading. You can’t blame her snark, she never hid that, nor her reluctance to completely immerse herself in Jason’s family, many many long time couples have issues with their in-laws! I feel like Jason bears alot of the responsibility in the seperation.
Bethenny has a shape wear line?
I noticed he was somewhat passive aggressive. They both had their issues. I understand what @bsb is saying.about putting her past behind. I think my childhood was much worse than hers, but it taught me exactly what “not” to do. My relationship with my kids is awesome and none of them have any idea what I went through.
Its sad, but I’m not surprised (and it doesn’t look like anyone reading the blog is surprised either). I think they totally rushed into the relationship, didn’t really know each other and, when you have such a type a person like Bethenny, the partner has to be a certain kind of patient and forgiving that you dont find in many people.
Hope they can work it out. Part of being married is making compromises and doing things your spouse wants to do. So even if she is not a social butterfly for her husband and daughters sake she should suck it up. No none knows what goes on in a marriage but those two haven’t looked happy with each other for a long time. Hoping the time apart and the holidays shows them what is most important and they can work things out.
Early on her successful journey Bethenny and Jason were wide eyed kids experiencing a whole new world opening up before their eyes, remember? Fast forward to the last season of her show, when apartment construction, and skinny girl business occupied all of their time, and Jason didn’t seem to want to work for the empire. I remember Bethenny reassuring him that he’d be handling it for her.
Somehow, I think that he was overwhelmed by her success, and was intimidated by it causing him to act out in a very passive aggressive manner. I know she’s carrying a lot of baggage and has a very caustic mouth, but Jason knew that too.
It isvery, very sad that they couldn’t work things out, I was rooting for them.
Never got into Bethanny’s show. But nonetheless it’s always said to see a family break up. I wish them well.
She’s a little too New York neurotic for me, but I do hope they manage to work things out.
Wellll.. they’re separating not divorcing, so maybe there’s HOPE
I’m with Tamara on this- Bethenny comes from a very dysfunctional background, and while she hasn’t always done the right thing ( ie: Jason’s family tried very hard and she kind of always blew them off ) I think she did the best she could with the tools she had to work with. Still, I’d always hoped they would make it work.:( Sad news.
She’s in her 40′s. At what point is it time to put the past into the past where it belongs, and move forward with a different outlook and prospective?
If you have relationship issues with family that cause damage, like Bethenny does, they often get worse later in life and A LOT worse when you have a baby. So I guess they answer to your question is, however long the therapy takes.
I have also had to deal with family issues from my childhood that effected the marriage I had long ago. There comes a time when we all have to take the time to deal with the issues, or see relationships that we need in our lives crumble. I am not speaking out of turn, but from personal experience.
I think reality shows ruin marriages…
I totally agree with you on that!
Bummer. I’m sure they tried.
it may have been a matter of time but its so sad none the less . i wish them all the best. i hope she means what she says about amicably co parenting their little girl
Not totally surprised, She’s not marriage material…too selfish and overly controlling
If my spouse treated my parents the way she treated Jason’s parents – curtains!! She was SO rude to them and they are obviously nice, down-to-earth people, who were intimidated and even afraid of her. Bethenny is a certified bitch, and Jason Hoppy was just too nice a guy for her. Jason got in over his head with a self-absorbed, screwed-up jerk.
not surprised as all…Bethenny wallows in her own self pity and refuses to live in happiness…she’s neurotic and it’s always about her…I’m certain Jason has his flaws but Bethenny’s seemed to overshadow them by a mile…I actually want him to get full custody of their daughter and give her a stable home environment with loving grandparents…the only person my heart breaks for is their daughter
smooches, EXACTLY! You took the words right out of my mouth! She is extremely self absorbed. I do however feel kind of sad for them. Was hopeing she could get past some of her past bullshit. She would be a draining high maintenance gal to be around.I used to watch her show but felt so exhausted hashing her issues over and over every week. I felt sorry for Jason. Unfortunately it is usually the child that gets the short end of the stick. Hopefully she reallly will co-parent with Jason and not demand her baby full time.
I agree Jason is a family man and has the time for his daughter.
So sad to read this. Bethany has alot of family issues – considering everything she went through with her mom and her dad. I feel for them. I hope they’ll be able to work it out. Bethany deserves happiness.
Sorry, but this is a supremely ironic comment coming from a Kyle fan.
It was only a matter of time. I don’t think anyone will be surprised by this news flash. From the very beginning you could see that this was not a marriage to last. Bethenny was approaching 40, saw her biological clock ticking and wanted a baby. Jason happened to be the only guy around who would put up with her ego, so she married him. Now she has her fame, money and baby, so what does she need him for anymore. I hope Jason has a good lawyer and gets a hefty settlement from her. He was always too good for her.
You took the words right out of my mouth!
Bethenny totally DID NOT want a baby. Jason pushed that issue. Jason was also the one wanting to get married. Bethenny has problems with relationships especially family relationships. She is career driven because she feels like she can only count on herself for survival.
I think most of y’all misunderstand the relationship and the issues. I also think this misunderstanding contributed to their issues. Jason was always held up as the Saint and Bethenny as the sinner. While it did APPEAR that way a lot, Bethenny had a past that made her a bit mistrustful, she had a hard time letting her walls down, didn’t like surprises, was uncomfortable at large family functions and struggled to let Jason in even though she wanted to. I don’t think Bethenny did anything wrong. She is/was doing the best she can with the mindset she has developed in her lifetime based on her experiences. Isn’t that what we all do’?
I believe we can all make changes in our lives. Just because she had a bad childhood doesn’t mean she has to continue the cycle with her own daughter. Bethenny just didn’t seem to want to have a happy family life with a husband and a daughter. Jason was super patient with her; I feel so bad for Jason and Bree. Bethenny needs a wake up call for what is really important in life.
Tamara – you hit the nail on the head. None of us know exactly what has happened between them. We can only form opinions based on a reality show, which is edited by Bravo. Yes, Bethenny shared that she had a number of issues that shaped her into a woman with issues about relationships. That doesn’t mean that she’s the sole reason for the marriage having problems. Bethenny has worked very hard to address issues that are deeply rooted in her. That takes a lot of courage & bravery. Change doesn’t happen overnight. I’m sure there is plenty of blame to go around for both of them.
Thank you for saying this! This is exactly how I feel about the situation.
While I do think that Bethenny wanted a baby, as much of the season prior to her getting pregnant, she had discussed having a baby with her gay friend. Whether it was in jest or held a grain of sincerity, only Bethenny knows, so it was understandable that when she did unexpectedly get pregnant she would have mixed feelings. Where I thought the issue would come in was that Jason wanted to have another child, and Bethenny didn’t, and was pretty darn adamant about it. While I think he might have thought he could wear her down, it was clear to the viewers she was not going to budge. I hope they work things out, and that Bethenny is able to finally get passed her family related issues, but marrying a guy that is used to spending a lot of time with family and friends, is a pretty strong recipe for an uncomfortable marriage, and a short one at that.
Tamara-why ask our thoughts and then try to persuade us to see it differently?! Love your up to the minute juicy details…but you’re too quick to defend yourself & get mad at your fans
You asked our opinion and that’s what you’re getting
Tamara’s writing doesn’t evince anger; it’s her opinion. (Funny how people get riled up when the blog owner blogs an opinion contrary to the reader’s!) Given the number of times I read an opinion and think “what a stupid blah, blah, blah” in my head, I can only give kudos to Tamara’s extreme self-restraint in not vocalizing what she might REALLY be thinking.
Where is this opinion of yours you are defending so vigorously? I await it with bated breath.
That is a shame because what’s going to happen when the fame is over and what if she has a downfall with money. Then where is your heart then, boy she does not get it. It is good to have another child and become a close family, I just know about this, I thought Bethemy was different. Boy you never know do you.
That is a shame because he really loved her, she talks about her mom, now she is doing the same thing in her child’s life.